Wedding Why do all of our brides seem to...

[Gypsy]

APOLOGIZE when they are posting wedding pics-- "I'm sorry I'm posting too many" or "last one I promise!"

Okay note to all brides: WE LOVE SEEING YOUR PICS! We've shared your planning, listened to your stories throughout it all, and our love and best wishes go with you on your special days. BUT WE WANT THE PICTURES! Please, post MORE pictures! We can't be at your wedding, but we love the window into the day you give us when you post pics... so please, I know none of you are AWs, or anything like that... feel free to share!!! And stop skimping on the photos because you think you're posting too many!

ETA: I love T-gals new thread!

 

[kittybean]

AMEN. There is no such thing as too many pictures. Personally, I would look through pages upon pages upon pages of them. I love seeing all the beauty and happiness and loveliness of your big days, and I thank everyone for all the inspiration I am getting from your photos. Post away!

 

[rockzilla]

I actually red an article about women who are constantly undermining themselves by apologizing or qualifying what they say, which makes them seem less confident and frankly, like pushovers sometimes.

I think many of us would recognize this in ourselves, and it is tough to break those habits, but I think with some awareness and a little effort, we can do it!

Are your words holding you back?

An excerpt:

“Sorry!” “Oops, sorry.” “Sorry, my bad!”

Women always seem to be on hyper-alert for reasons to apologize: We beg someone’s pardon when we’re not sure we heard them correctly or when we lose our train of thought. We ask forgiveness for our messy house when someone drops by unannounced (as if we should have had it spotless, waiting for them). Heck, if we “inconvenience” another woman by reaching for a shirt on a store rack at the same moment that we think she’s reaching for it, we say, “Sorry!”

 

[Shoopy]

Serious amen to that!

I never think, man I hope she only posts 5 pictures...its more like I hope she posts 5 pages worth

 

[princesss]

I don''t know, but people do that in SMTR, too! It drives me nuts. I clicked on the thread because I want pictures. So give me pictures!

 

[allycat0303]

Probably because we feel like we''re being self-indulgent and show-offy. I LOVE lots of pictures too. When someone posts 5, I''m like "cake?, flowers?, centerpeices, bouquet? Shoes? invitations? place setting cards?" I seriously love every single detail so I''m always hoping to see a zillion pictures. It''s like a pricescope-public service to post lots of pics

 

[WishfulThinking]

Date: 7/25/2008 6:50:36 PM
Author: rockzilla
I actually red an article about women who are constantly undermining themselves by apologizing or qualifying what they say, which makes them seem less confident and frankly, like pushovers sometimes.


I think many of us would recognize this in ourselves, and it is tough to break those habits, but I think with some awareness and a little effort, we can do it!


Are your words holding you back?


An excerpt:


Sorry!Oops, sorry. Sorry, my bad!


Women always seem to be on hyper-alert for reasons to apologize: We beg someone''s pardon when we''re not sure we heard them correctly or when we lose our train of thought. We ask forgiveness for our messy house when someone drops by unannounced (as if we should have had it spotless, waiting for them). Heck, if we inconvenience another woman by reaching for a shirt on a store rack at the same moment that we think she''s reaching for it, we say, Sorry!

Rockzilla- I go to an all-women''s college, and our professors are constantly trying to condition that social behavior out of us! It''s true though, especially when we start to realize we''re doing it, and then we can tell how silly it seems.


I give a hearty "HECK YES!" in response to this thread. I love pictures! I always get so excited when people post pictures, and both here and in SMTR I love when there are pages of pictures, but people always seem to apologize for posting them. I think we need a sticky or something to tell them we love it and it''s okay. No one should feel like they are being overly self-indulgent when they post pictures. It''s your wedding, for goodness sakes! Of *course* we want to see every single little detail that you all have worked so hard to carefully plan. Plus, if anyone can appreciate the details, it''s us!

Post as many as your hearts desire, and I will look at every single one!

 

[kittybean]

I had an exchange student from Spain living with me for a year, and one thing she always said was that she couldn''t believe how much Americans said "sorry." She was perplexed as to why we were always apologizing for the slightest inconveniences. In Spain, their attitude is much more "deal with it." I wonder if this is true in other cultures? Where does this need to apologize all the time come from?

 

[decodelighted]

Interesting. Lots of interesting topics today on PS. Hmmmm. Do you suppose that the people who *do* so much apologizing also *expect* a lot of apologizing on the part of loved ones or vendors or random passersby? And get more upset when they don''t receive a "fair" amount in return.

Cuz ... I''ve also noticed a trend toward what I''d deem very high expectations of others'' courteousness. If that is even a word. Maybe its sleepy time for Deco.