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Sorry for the downer thread-but today has not started off well and there isn't really to many other places I can vent to. So thanks in advance for listening.
These past few months have been great-married at the end of the year-made an offer on foreclosure home in Jan (which was accepted), found out we were expecting in Feb-had a birthday-closed on the house on the 16th and are moving at the end of the month. We feel very blessed and my husband just received his much earned promotion at work. My immigration extension was granted until next year and by then I should have my permanent residence status. Grandma gifted us a week timeshare for our honeymoon making a trip this summer even possible (difficult-but possible). However with blessings comes added stress-which for the most part we are taking in stride considering all the wonderful changes that have happened in such a short period of time.
We took out funds from the market right before it took a huge hit. Paid the fees/etc and took the hit to pay off debt since we didn't think we would be buying a house any time soon. We had a little debt from the wedding but we figured we were very aggressive in our repayment so we weren't worried about it. Then of course we could have used those funds to pay for a house-but it was still a good decision in the long run. But now it looks like we'll have to pay into taxes-a pretty good chunk I might add.
Immigration is expensive. Very expensive.
We closed on the house on a Friday and on a Tuesday we went to the house to get the water turned on. When we bought during the winter time-the water had been turned off since it wasn't occupied. The walkout basement (once fully done) had been half gutted since the sup-pump broke and flooded it-causing molding issues. Or so we were told. Get the water turned on and turns out we have a broken water pipe. Not a huge deal right? YAY-the joy of being new home owners-we'll have to just do that before the roof is done. DH is in the middle of digging the whole in-between work and everything else (just got back from a week business trip and is heavily behind and is very stressed out).
Babies are expensive too.
Honeymoon-if we don't take it now-we probably won't get to go anytime soon based on things that need done with our house and with a new addition arriving in the fall. We are super excited and used airmiles (still had fee's to pay) to make the trip more affordable-but man-trips aren't cheap and I'm not sure how families take yearly vacations!
But we are hopeful and we know that as long as we are smart-we can make it work. We are very excited about all the changes happening and feel very blessed despite all the struggles that it also brings.
Until this morning. We were supposed to go see friends who we haven't seen since the wedding-BBQ out-before a long week of power cleaning the new house-finishing packing-and the big move. I was greatly looking forward to it and was planning on making a chocolate cream pie that a PSer had shared so I decided last night to drive my DH to work this morning so I could use our (2000 Honda civic) to go to the bulk barn to buy all the goodies to make this pie while packing more things today.
On the way home it was raining-it was before 7am-and I thought the BIG yellow school bus was in the other lane so I was making a yielded right hand turn. It wasn't. Must be my pregnant foggy brain but I realized it-hit my brakes-but not soon enough. Thankfully no one was in the bus-the bus wasn't hurt at all. But our poor car. Our only car. The car we needed to bring ALL the stuff ALL this week to the house 45 minutes away-the car we JUST took full coverage off since we were moving out of the city that ended LAST week-is in terrible shape.
We really can't afford this-we really can't. We don't have enough in savings to buy a new car-we have a water pipe and a new roof to put on our house. A baby. The rest of immigration to pay for. We NEEDED this car. Like TOMORROW for moving.
I feel SOOO terrible. I am SO thankful that myself and the baby weren't hurt-that no one was on the bus-the BIG YELLOW ONE THAT I SOME HOW HIT.
I feel like a big fool-making our lives so much more difficult when we are working so hard as it is. The stress that I've added to our lives and to my husband-can't even be described. I feel like a big ol stupid head. WHO hits a freaking school bug? I mean they are BIG AND YELLOW!!!!!
I'm trying SO hard to focus on the positive but we really don't need this. I have no clue what we are going to do. To top it off my hormones are crazy and I'm trying SO hard to keep it together but I'm not getting much sleep thanks to needed to go to the restroom all the time.
I know that trials make you stronger but I was hoping to wait until we at least move in to have another one. A freaking bus. I hit a freaking school bus.

These past few months have been great-married at the end of the year-made an offer on foreclosure home in Jan (which was accepted), found out we were expecting in Feb-had a birthday-closed on the house on the 16th and are moving at the end of the month. We feel very blessed and my husband just received his much earned promotion at work. My immigration extension was granted until next year and by then I should have my permanent residence status. Grandma gifted us a week timeshare for our honeymoon making a trip this summer even possible (difficult-but possible). However with blessings comes added stress-which for the most part we are taking in stride considering all the wonderful changes that have happened in such a short period of time.
We took out funds from the market right before it took a huge hit. Paid the fees/etc and took the hit to pay off debt since we didn't think we would be buying a house any time soon. We had a little debt from the wedding but we figured we were very aggressive in our repayment so we weren't worried about it. Then of course we could have used those funds to pay for a house-but it was still a good decision in the long run. But now it looks like we'll have to pay into taxes-a pretty good chunk I might add.
Immigration is expensive. Very expensive.
We closed on the house on a Friday and on a Tuesday we went to the house to get the water turned on. When we bought during the winter time-the water had been turned off since it wasn't occupied. The walkout basement (once fully done) had been half gutted since the sup-pump broke and flooded it-causing molding issues. Or so we were told. Get the water turned on and turns out we have a broken water pipe. Not a huge deal right? YAY-the joy of being new home owners-we'll have to just do that before the roof is done. DH is in the middle of digging the whole in-between work and everything else (just got back from a week business trip and is heavily behind and is very stressed out).
Babies are expensive too.
Honeymoon-if we don't take it now-we probably won't get to go anytime soon based on things that need done with our house and with a new addition arriving in the fall. We are super excited and used airmiles (still had fee's to pay) to make the trip more affordable-but man-trips aren't cheap and I'm not sure how families take yearly vacations!
But we are hopeful and we know that as long as we are smart-we can make it work. We are very excited about all the changes happening and feel very blessed despite all the struggles that it also brings.
Until this morning. We were supposed to go see friends who we haven't seen since the wedding-BBQ out-before a long week of power cleaning the new house-finishing packing-and the big move. I was greatly looking forward to it and was planning on making a chocolate cream pie that a PSer had shared so I decided last night to drive my DH to work this morning so I could use our (2000 Honda civic) to go to the bulk barn to buy all the goodies to make this pie while packing more things today.
On the way home it was raining-it was before 7am-and I thought the BIG yellow school bus was in the other lane so I was making a yielded right hand turn. It wasn't. Must be my pregnant foggy brain but I realized it-hit my brakes-but not soon enough. Thankfully no one was in the bus-the bus wasn't hurt at all. But our poor car. Our only car. The car we needed to bring ALL the stuff ALL this week to the house 45 minutes away-the car we JUST took full coverage off since we were moving out of the city that ended LAST week-is in terrible shape.
We really can't afford this-we really can't. We don't have enough in savings to buy a new car-we have a water pipe and a new roof to put on our house. A baby. The rest of immigration to pay for. We NEEDED this car. Like TOMORROW for moving.
I feel SOOO terrible. I am SO thankful that myself and the baby weren't hurt-that no one was on the bus-the BIG YELLOW ONE THAT I SOME HOW HIT.
I feel like a big fool-making our lives so much more difficult when we are working so hard as it is. The stress that I've added to our lives and to my husband-can't even be described. I feel like a big ol stupid head. WHO hits a freaking school bug? I mean they are BIG AND YELLOW!!!!!
I'm trying SO hard to focus on the positive but we really don't need this. I have no clue what we are going to do. To top it off my hormones are crazy and I'm trying SO hard to keep it together but I'm not getting much sleep thanks to needed to go to the restroom all the time.
I know that trials make you stronger but I was hoping to wait until we at least move in to have another one. A freaking bus. I hit a freaking school bus.

