When it rains-it pours!

[vintagelover229]

Sorry for the downer thread-but today has not started off well and there isn't really to many other places I can vent to. So thanks in advance for listening.

These past few months have been great-married at the end of the year-made an offer on foreclosure home in Jan (which was accepted), found out we were expecting in Feb-had a birthday-closed on the house on the 16th and are moving at the end of the month. We feel very blessed and my husband just received his much earned promotion at work. My immigration extension was granted until next year and by then I should have my permanent residence status. Grandma gifted us a week timeshare for our honeymoon making a trip this summer even possible (difficult-but possible). However with blessings comes added stress-which for the most part we are taking in stride considering all the wonderful changes that have happened in such a short period of time.

We took out funds from the market right before it took a huge hit. Paid the fees/etc and took the hit to pay off debt since we didn't think we would be buying a house any time soon. We had a little debt from the wedding but we figured we were very aggressive in our repayment so we weren't worried about it. Then of course we could have used those funds to pay for a house-but it was still a good decision in the long run. But now it looks like we'll have to pay into taxes-a pretty good chunk I might add.

Immigration is expensive. Very expensive.

We closed on the house on a Friday and on a Tuesday we went to the house to get the water turned on. When we bought during the winter time-the water had been turned off since it wasn't occupied. The walkout basement (once fully done) had been half gutted since the sup-pump broke and flooded it-causing molding issues. Or so we were told. Get the water turned on and turns out we have a broken water pipe. Not a huge deal right? YAY-the joy of being new home owners-we'll have to just do that before the roof is done. DH is in the middle of digging the whole in-between work and everything else (just got back from a week business trip and is heavily behind and is very stressed out).

Babies are expensive too.

Honeymoon-if we don't take it now-we probably won't get to go anytime soon based on things that need done with our house and with a new addition arriving in the fall. We are super excited and used airmiles (still had fee's to pay) to make the trip more affordable-but man-trips aren't cheap and I'm not sure how families take yearly vacations!

But we are hopeful and we know that as long as we are smart-we can make it work. We are very excited about all the changes happening and feel very blessed despite all the struggles that it also brings.

Until this morning. We were supposed to go see friends who we haven't seen since the wedding-BBQ out-before a long week of power cleaning the new house-finishing packing-and the big move. I was greatly looking forward to it and was planning on making a chocolate cream pie that a PSer had shared so I decided last night to drive my DH to work this morning so I could use our (2000 Honda civic) to go to the bulk barn to buy all the goodies to make this pie while packing more things today.

On the way home it was raining-it was before 7am-and I thought the BIG yellow school bus was in the other lane so I was making a yielded right hand turn. It wasn't. Must be my pregnant foggy brain but I realized it-hit my brakes-but not soon enough. Thankfully no one was in the bus-the bus wasn't hurt at all. But our poor car. Our only car. The car we needed to bring ALL the stuff ALL this week to the house 45 minutes away-the car we JUST took full coverage off since we were moving out of the city that ended LAST week-is in terrible shape.

We really can't afford this-we really can't. We don't have enough in savings to buy a new car-we have a water pipe and a new roof to put on our house. A baby. The rest of immigration to pay for. We NEEDED this car. Like TOMORROW for moving.

I feel SOOO terrible. I am SO thankful that myself and the baby weren't hurt-that no one was on the bus-the BIG YELLOW ONE THAT I SOME HOW HIT.

I feel like a big fool-making our lives so much more difficult when we are working so hard as it is. The stress that I've added to our lives and to my husband-can't even be described. I feel like a big ol stupid head. WHO hits a freaking school bug? I mean they are BIG AND YELLOW!!!!!

I'm trying SO hard to focus on the positive but we really don't need this. I have no clue what we are going to do. To top it off my hormones are crazy and I'm trying SO hard to keep it together but I'm not getting much sleep thanks to needed to go to the restroom all the time.

I know that trials make you stronger but I was hoping to wait until we at least move in to have another one. A freaking bus. I hit a freaking school bus.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I am SO sorry, sweetie! It will be okay. Thankfully you and baby are okay and that is all that really matters. The car can get fixed and you will just have to rent a car this coming week unless your hubby has a family member who can help. It will all work out! {{{hugs}}}

 

[Lottie]

Oh you poor thing, what a royal pain in the rear! Is the car driveable at all? If its not could your parents or family or friends lend you a car for the move?

I know you are really upset but we are all human and we do make mistakes - no one was hurt, you and your baby are fine and soon you will be in your lovely new home. Sending you lots of sympathy.

 

[Amys Bling]

Sorry to hear this.. We all make mistakes... I ran I to the back of a delivery truck once . It happens... unfortunately.

 

[vintagelover229]

I am SO sorry, sweetie! It will be okay. Thankfully you and baby are okay and that is all that really matters. The car can get fixed and you will just have to rent a car this coming week unless your hubby has a family member who can help. It will all work out! {{{hugs}}}

Thank you DS: I've calmed down *slightly* now and am going to try to eat. I really do need to spend time packing and I'm grateful that I hit my brakes at all...I look at where the damage is and think of where it *could* have been had I not hit them at all.

IDK if a rental is an option. He might have one free rental though work-we will have to see. They aren't really that affordable since we wanted to be up there all week. I'm hoping we can get the mechanic to rig the car.

Oh you poor thing, what a royal pain in the rear! Is the car driveable at all? If its not could your parents or family or friends lend you a car for the move?

I know you are really upset but we are all human and we do make mistakes - no one was hurt, you and your baby are fine and soon you will be in your lovely new home. Sending you lots of sympathy.

I drove the car the 3 minutes home from where the accident occurred. I'm not car expert but I don't *think* we should be driving it a ton. We *can* drive it-but the windshield wiper fluid cap is off (must mean the damage warped the container) and then there is something above it (maybe a blower or some other metal contraption) that *could* be damaged right above that. I don't *think* it is but I don't know anything about cars to really know. The hood is pretty banged up so I don't want to open it either in case I can't get it shut again

We *might* be able to borrow a car but I'm not sure. We will have to see. The closest family is about an hour away unless we use an Aunt/Uncle and I'm not sure they have an extra car. They might though-doesn't hurt to ask! Thank you so much.

Sorry to hear this.. We all make mistakes... I ran I to the back of a delivery truck once . It happens... unfortunately.

Thanks Amys Bling. I even stopped at the light and was checking to make sure the cars were in the far lane before yielding to turn. I guess between the new rain, it being dark, and pregnancy brain fog messing with my depth perception I just didn't see it wasn't the far lane until it was to late. I'm just so glad it wasn't worse than what it was. Of course I feel like a fool for hitting a bus but I'm just SO glad I hit the brakes at all since I could be in the hospital right now instead of at home freaking out on PS.

Thank you guys. I still need a huge hug and to hear my husband say he isn't mad at me (I know he isn't but I KNOW how much this is going to stress him out) and I just feel so so terrible because of it.


The silly thing is that I'm upset that we can't go to the BBQ and I don't get my PS chocolate cream pie

 

[Maisie]

I'm so glad you and baby are ok!

Could you hire a van to move your stuff to the new house? That way you could do it all in one trip instead of borrowing a car and driving backwards and forwards. When I moved we hired a medium sized van and it was really cheap for just one day hire.

Can you claim on your insurance for your car?

 

[Maisie]

I just thought... if I had an accident a courtesy car (hire car) is included in my premium so I don't have to shell out while my car is off the road. Do you have that on your policy?

 

[vintagelover229]

I'm so glad you and baby are ok!

Could you hire a van to move your stuff to the new house? That way you could do it all in one trip instead of borrowing a car and driving backwards and forwards. When I moved we hired a medium sized van and it was really cheap for just one day hire.

Can you claim on your insurance for your car?

I just thought... if I had an accident a courtesy car (hire car) is included in my premium so I don't have to shell out while my car is off the road. Do you have that on your policy?

Maisie:
Thanks so much-I'm glad we are okay too!
We have rented a budget truck for the last day of the month-big moving day. However prior to that we need to get to/from the house/apt. in order to bring boxes that we need to help lighten the load on moving day (we have family coming to help) and so that way we can get the house ready to be moved into since it's a foreclosure and needs to be cleaned/etc. before it's move in ready.

We had full coverage until last week on the car-meaning they would pay to fix it or pay out the total amount of the car if any accident occurred with it. However 2 weeks ago my husband went and changed the policy (as well as got home owners) to liability since we were paying something like 2k a year in insurance on the car that is only worth ~4k to replace and it just didn't make sense (they've made 4x what the car is worth while we held the policy). Perhaps if we still had that coverage we might have been able to get a car that way but now since we only have liability (if we hit someone they coverage the damage on the other car-but not on ours). At least that's my limited understanding. To top if off IF we did file a claim (the bus won't since there isn't any damage to the bus) and they covered it (which I'm pretty sure they won't) our rate would go up and I'm not sure with the amount of damage to the car it's worth it. I'll know more after we take it in to get it looked at. But any type of body work isn't cheap-I'm sure it's at least a 500.00 fix to start


ETA: My DH just called. Avis is hooking us up with a rental for the week cheap and I am taking the bus to get pie making supplies and we're still going this evening. He's going to have his dad check out the car on Sunday and he thinks (based on pictures I sent him) that there isn't any body damage and we can just get a scarp hood/side piece and fix it ourselves. Either way he made me feel so much better.

Thank you guys so much for helping me calm down. I needed it and I'll update when I know more.

HUGS!

 

[Dancing Fire]

just hang in there and everything will be fine.

 

[JewelFreak]

Awww, hugs to you! It's some kind of law of nature that everything dumps on us at once -- the upside of that is that you're done with your crummy things & it should be smooth sailing from now on.

It's hard to believe when we have an accident like yours, but you're only human, as somebody said. I had a run-in with a big Mercedes truck with my DH's beloved special vintage car (walnut dashboard, Wilton carpeting, etc.) that he'd had since college. How can you miss a Mercedes truck? Maimed DH's poor honey badly. I was so upset I collapsed in tears in the arms of the cop who took the report. DH was NOT understanding, either. We were in the process of moving from the U.S. to Holland & buying a flat too -- not the best timing. It all blew over in time & now makes a funny story. Yours will too. Believe!

Once your beautiful baby comes, all the bad stuff will float away. Dust in the meantime.

--- Laurie

 

[Missy]

I am so sorry you are having all this stuff happen seemingly all at once but thank goodness you and the baby are OK! That is all that matters- that no one was hurt. The rest will take care of itself. Take a deep breath and take it one day at a time...it will all be OK. Sending you lots of good luck dust and lots of virtual ((((hugs))))!!

ps don't feel too badly about the accident. As psers have shared we have all done our fair share of mistakes. When I was in my twenties I was changing the radio station on the car radio and wasn't paying enough attention to the car in front of me in stop and go traffic (stupid right?) and bam. I rear ended the car in front of me to the tune of totally wrecking my car. Luckily the car in front of me wasn't damaged and the driver was super nice and sweet. But still- how stupid of me and it was at a time I could least afford it. Just started working and wow it felt overwhelming. It all worked out and no one was hurt. That is always the main thing. So don't be too hard on yourself. That's life and we learn from each experience hopefully. Good and bad.

 

[movie zombie]

glad you are ok!

looks don't make a car undriveable......personally, i'd leave the car cosmetics alone and concentrate on anything in the engine compartment. if that all ok or easily fixed, that's all i would do right now. driving a dinged car might actually even keep others away from your car!

enjoy the pie!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Sorry about your accident and am glad you're okay! Even though this puts a lot of stress on you, you still have wonderful things going on in your life. A new home and a baby on the way. Those are TWO significant blessings, so when you're upset, try and think of the joys you have in your future.

Re: the car...can you have a mechanic look at it to make sure the engine is okay? Make sure that it's not going to start leaking oil or something since you said the washer fluid container might be warped...other things may be a bit wonky? That seems more a priority right now than fixing the dent! And, yes, I bet you can get a new hood from another civic if you call around, but have the engine looked at first.

 

[allycat0303]

It seems as though you've had a string of bad luck. I'm happy to hear that the car accident was minor and there were no injuries. The month is coming to a close, so I hope April is better!

 

[vintagelover229]

just hang in there and everything will be fine.

Thanks so much DF. I know it will-I was within 30 minutes after the accident from posting so I think a bit of my nerves were still shot

Awww, hugs to you! It's some kind of law of nature that everything dumps on us at once -- the upside of that is that you're done with your crummy things & it should be smooth sailing from now on.

It's hard to believe when we have an accident like yours, but you're only human, as somebody said. I had a run-in with a big Mercedes truck with my DH's beloved special vintage car (walnut dashboard, Wilton carpeting, etc.) that he'd had since college. How can you miss a Mercedes truck? Maimed DH's poor honey badly. I was so upset I collapsed in tears in the arms of the cop who took the report. DH was NOT understanding, either. We were in the process of moving from the U.S. to Holland & buying a flat too -- not the best timing. It all blew over in time & now makes a funny story. Yours will too. Believe!

Once your beautiful baby comes, all the bad stuff will float away. Dust in the meantime.

--- Laurie

JF: OMG a special vintage car! I LOVE antique cars-please post a picture if you have one <3!

Thank you for sharing your story-it makes me feel a bit better. Nothing could be funnier than hitting a big yellow bus right? I did manage to keep it together while exchanging info-the bus driver (her name happened to be FAITH of all things) was as sweet as could be. Made me super clam about the whole thing until I got home and freaked out a bit. Thank you for the dust!

I am so sorry you are having all this stuff happen seemingly all at once but thank goodness you and the baby are OK! That is all that matters- that no one was hurt. The rest will take care of itself. Take a deep breath and take it one day at a time...it will all be OK. Sending you lots of good luck dust and lots of virtual ((((hugs))))!!

ps don't feel too badly about the accident. As psers have shared we have all done our fair share of mistakes. When I was in my twenties I was changing the radio station on the car radio and wasn't paying enough attention to the car in front of me in stop and go traffic (stupid right?) and bam. I rear ended the car in front of me to the tune of totally wrecking my car. Luckily the car in front of me wasn't damaged and the driver was super nice and sweet. But still- how stupid of me and it was at a time I could least afford it. Just started working and wow it felt overwhelming. It all worked out and no one was hurt. That is always the main thing. So don't be too hard on yourself. That's life and we learn from each experience hopefully. Good and bad.

Thanks so much missy. Between radios and cell phones I don't think to many people have much of a chance of going to long accident free anymore. Their fault or not. I'm glad you weren't hurt though and no one else was. It seems these things happen when you least need them (not that there ever really is a good time I suppose!)

glad you are ok!

looks don't make a car undriveable......personally, i'd leave the car cosmetics alone and concentrate on anything in the engine compartment. if that all ok or easily fixed, that's all i would do right now. driving a dinged car might actually even keep others away from your car!

enjoy the pie!

Sorry about your accident and am glad you're okay! Even though this puts a lot of stress on you, you still have wonderful things going on in your life. A new home and a baby on the way. Those are TWO significant blessings, so when you're upset, try and think of the joys you have in your future.

Re: the car...can you have a mechanic look at it to make sure the engine is okay? Make sure that it's not going to start leaking oil or something since you said the washer fluid container might be warped...other things may be a bit wonky? That seems more a priority right now than fixing the dent! And, yes, I bet you can get a new hood from another civic if you call around, but have the engine looked at first.

Movie Zombie/MC: I got all the pie stuff and as soon as I'm done replying to all of you wonderful PSers I'm going to go make it. I'll post a picture if I remember when it's done. Since there was a bus strike a while back the bus trip was free. Only my 3rd time on a bus and I feel so confused but it's really very easy

We're not worried about a dinged up car His dad knows lots about this sort of thing and we will be driving it to the house and he will look under the hood to make sure everything is okay. If not-how we can fix it. I'm pretty certain everything under the hood is okay-although the cap for the wiper fluid isn't going on but at that angel it with out the hood opened it could just be a pressure thing that I can't apply since I only was sticking a finger in lol. We would fix everything that needed to be and then go to the scrap yard to get a new hood and side panel after everything else is fixed.

I am still very focused on all the blessings we have in our life. We are still very very very blessed. It was just a wee bit over whelming since the only people I could vent to at the time were asleep bc of a time zone difference. We really are very fortunate. We have our health-a new home-a great family-good friends-a wonderful marriage-a great church-a baby on the way-and my DH has a job. That's a lot to be grateful for. Thank you guys so much for helping me cope with the stress and aftershock of the accident. I'm off to go make a chocolate pie!

 

[movie zombie]

yes, yes, yes: pictures of chocolate pie!

even in this untimely event you are blessed: FIL [and it sounds like hubby too] are mechanically inclined and it appears the car is and will be driveable, no one was hurt, and you were able to vent here and move on.

and riding the bus was free and you found out its not that difficult. this knowledge may come in handy when you least expect it.

 

[artdecogirl]

Hang in there, what do they say? What does not kill you makes you stronger..... Go enjoy your friends and have 2 pieces of choclate pie (one for you and one for the baby ) and go to sleep with your hubby dreaming of baby names and knowing there is ps dust coming to you for a better day tomorrow!

 

[Enerchi]

oh dear! poor you Vintagelover! that was a pretty craptastic day. It can only get better.
All the things you are talking about are just *things* - you and baby are fine. DH has a job, you've been granted status to remain in the country, you have your health and you have friends. Those are giant pluses!

There are just times in live when you have to rely a bit more heavily on others, and I think you guys just got there! I would guess the friends that are BBQing with you today, would love to help a newly married couple out!

This will pass, things will get back to normal, you will manage somehow with the finances.... hang in there! We are rooting for you!

 

[vintagelover229]

It seems as though you've had a string of bad luck. I'm happy to hear that the car accident was minor and there were no injuries. The month is coming to a close, so I hope April is better!

Thanks allycat: I guess with blessings come other things! It's not nearly as stressful as your job though-I can't imagine all the politics and emotions and the crazy hours and studying that you have to do. If your ever in the GTA give us a shout

yes, yes, yes: pictures of chocolate pie!

even in this untimely event you are blessed: FIL [and it sounds like hubby too] are mechanically inclined and it appears the car is and will be driveable, no one was hurt, and you were able to vent here and move on.

and riding the bus was free and you found out its not that difficult. this knowledge may come in handy when you least expect it.

Once it's done I will take a picture Right now the crust (chocolate cookie crumb) is finished and the cream filling is setting and waiting to be poured into the crust and THEN I have to make the white cream topping. THEN I will take a picture And my FIL is awesome-he's so handy he could build you a house in the middle of no where and you'd survive just fine with rain catching stuff and all!

And that is a great way to look at the bus system! In our area (much smaller) they also have a bus system that I'll probably have to use every once in a while so it was a great learning experience.

Hang in there, what do they say? What does not kill you makes you stronger..... Go enjoy your friends and have 2 pieces of choclate pie (one for you and one for the baby ) and go to sleep with your hubby dreaming of baby names and knowing there is ps dust coming to you for a better day tomorrow!

LOL I plan on eating lots of pie and we've got a few baby names picked out-I'm really excited to be a mom and we see the midwife again this week! And YES I know for a fact what doesn't kill you makes you stronger-saying of my life since i was born I'm grateful for all the trials I've endured though since it's a great character builder and it helps you relate and help others who are less fortunate than yourself! Thanks so much artdecogirl!

oh dear! poor you Vintagelover! that was a pretty craptastic day. It can only get better.
All the things you are talking about are just *things* - you and baby are fine. DH has a job, you've been granted status to remain in the country, you have your health and you have friends. Those are giant pluses!

There are just times in live when you have to rely a bit more heavily on others, and I think you guys just got there! I would guess the friends that are BBQing with you today, would love to help a newly married couple out!

This will pass, things will get back to normal, you will manage somehow with the finances.... hang in there! We are rooting for you!

Well the day only started off bad from 6:30-7:30-it looks like the rest of the day will be a good day Thank you so much for the kind words and I'm really looking forward to the BBQ tonight-they have a son turning 3 soon and they don't know we're expecting yet so they'll be thrilled for him to have a new playmate! I know it's harder when your just starting out financially (unless of course you marry much later in life and both are working/stable). We are happy, healthy and not in need (and really not in want either) of anything-except for more in our savings but I think that's just a part of life. My husband is wonderful and his family is wonderful and I love our new home and all the things happening in our life.

Thank you all so much for being there when I was going a bit off track after the accident. I'm much better now! It might be a while for pie pictures since we go up to the house tomorrow but I'll do my best!

Have a great weekend/week everyone!

 

[Dandi]

Hi VL, I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and am so sorry you're having such a rough trot! I'M SO relieved you and the bubba are both OK. Oh how I hope some really really big, amazing surprise is coming your way!! Hugs sweetie.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I'm SO glad things worked out for a rental and that you were able to go to your barbeque tonight!!!

 

[Imdanny]

vintagelover229,

I just dropped my collision and wrecked our only car. Reading your story was almost uncanny. I've replaced our car now. I can definitely say accidents happen, we can learn from them, and be better for it.

Big hugs!!!

Danny

 

[vintagelover229]

Hi VL, I just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and am so sorry you're having such a rough trot! I'M SO relieved you and the bubba are both OK. Oh how I hope some really really big, amazing surprise is coming your way!! Hugs sweetie.

I'm SO glad things worked out for a rental and that you were able to go to your barbeque tonight!!!

vintagelover229,

I just dropped my collision and wrecked our only car. Reading your story was almost uncanny. I've replaced our car now. I can definitely say accidents happen, we can learn from them, and be better for it.

Big hugs!!!

Danny

Thanks everyone! I'm glad that you were able to get a vehicle even after changing your insurance.

The move was insane but thankfully we have a great family and so it went as smoothly as one could expect. The rental car we still have since we've been to busy to get to the scrap yard to get the parts to fix the car. I've told my DH to call them with the list of parts he needs (they'll pull it for you for 50.00 saving you a ton of time) and then to get our mechanic to put the parts on/off to save him time. The tune of the rental car is costing us 400.00 for 2 weeks-I'm NOT happy to pay that + parts + labor since well...we have other things that all that $ could have been used for. But you live and you learn.


As far as the pie goes...boy oh boy what an adventure! The 2 older ladies I asked at the store if heavy cream/whipping cream was the same (store didn't have heavy) they said they'd never heard of heavy and yes they'd use whipping. Then I get home and try to make the topping...and it won't peak AT ALL. Had to search online and run to the store to buy some whip it-15 minutes after we were supposed to have left already Oh well! After I got that though the pie was a TOTAL success!

We ate 1/3 of the pie at dinner and I brought the rest home. Then I ate the rest of it. So...I'm not sure how much pie I ate but I had a piece of the 1/3 + the rest of the pie. So yeah I need to watch what I'm eating otherwise I'm going to be one whale of a pregnant woman! These past few weeks have been crazy eating fast food-chips-junk food-since we've been packing and moving. Usually I eat an apple/yogurt in the morning + home made soup/sandwich for lunch + fruit for snacks + whatever I've cooked for dinner. So I don't feel to bad about not eating the greatest these past few weeks but I can tell my energy level has decreased and I feel more fatigued so I have to start eating healthy again so I can unpack this house!

Now for the pie pictures


And I shamefully admit that the photos are of pie #2...made on Friday. I shared most of it (over half) with the family for after dinner for the move and there is probably enough for us to share it with our friends coming to view the house tomorrow night. If it lasts until then that is

I'm still very very busy but I keep all of you in my thoughts/prayers. PS is such a wonderful community but I realize that my life is changing (not nearly as much down time) and so I can't spend as much time on here as I used to. I'll pop in every now and again though when I have the chance and comment on everyone's threads

Thanks so much!! <3!

 

[Lottie]

That pie looks DELICIOUS!!!! I'm not surprised you ate so much of it, I'm amazed they let you take it home again

Glad to hear the move went well and things are looking up for you.

 

[movie zombie]

i don't even like chocolate pie.....but i'd have a slice or two of yours!

 

[Dandi]

One word... YUM!!!!!!!!!!!! I nearly licked the screen when I saw your pics!!