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Yes, this story is very much true. I guess the fact that I am being questioned about the validity of this means there have been many dishonest members here?

I have grown up with this friend in a very very small suburb. My hometown has 2 stoplights, and a mainstreet intersection where the local activities are posted on a sign in the middle of it. People are trusting (for the most part) and bad things rarely happen. My group of gals and I get together once, maybe twice a month to catch up and hang out. Kelli rarely makes the drive up unless we are on her side of the city, which we were today. This bistro is family owned, in a small neighborhood, and has about 15 tables - even so, I would STILL never let anyone try on anything, no matter how far apart they are from me!

Her arguement was "Really, who walks off with someone''s engagement ring in broad daylight." This woman was much much older than us, and sitting with what appeared to be her daughter. Not a very malicious scene at all, but you just never know! I have had things stolen right from under my nose and to ME, any piece of jewelry is off limits.

Since I don''t have my own engagement ring just yet I am unaware at all the attention the all-important ring brings and am only wondering how others have reacted if/when asked this question. I did not intend to create any unneccessary drama!
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Date: 2/10/2010 5:28:43 PM
Author: mayachel
Wow! I''m shocked for all the same reasons I''m sure you are. So, I have to know, how did the woman respond after your friend asked for it back? Did she apologize? Claim misunderstanding?
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She did offer a "Well I thought this was ok since we are sitting 10 feet from you." and something about "I can''t believe YOU would think we would do that." with a very condescending tone.

And the clothing reference made me chuckle....Oh you like my shirt?? Here! Try it on! lol!!
 
I have and don''t mind if MY FRIENDS want to try my rings on..but never a stranger...NEVER NEVER

BTW that lady had some nerve walking away with the ring on her hand....that was rude
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Date: 2/10/2010 6:41:18 PM
Author: K+D=4
Yes, this story is very much true. I guess the fact that I am being questioned about the validity of this means there have been many dishonest members here?

I have grown up with this friend in a very very small suburb. My hometown has 2 stoplights, and a mainstreet intersection where the local activities are posted on a sign in the middle of it. People are trusting (for the most part) and bad things rarely happen. My group of gals and I get together once, maybe twice a month to catch up and hang out. Kelli rarely makes the drive up unless we are on her side of the city, which we were today. This bistro is family owned, in a small neighborhood, and has about 15 tables - even so, I would STILL never let anyone try on anything, no matter how far apart they are from me!

Her arguement was ''Really, who walks off with someone''s engagement ring in broad daylight.'' This woman was much much older than us, and sitting with what appeared to be her daughter. Not a very malicious scene at all, but you just never know! I have had things stolen right from under my nose and to ME, any piece of jewelry is off limits.

Since I don''t have my own engagement ring just yet I am unaware at all the attention the all-important ring brings and am only wondering how others have reacted if/when asked this question. I did not intend to create any unneccessary drama!
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Um, no...it means that many members are a little more street savvy, if not downright cynical (which is not always a good thing, btw).

But yeah, where you live sounds different from where I live (lucky you.) Here, people kill other people in broad daylight.
 
Seriously, maybe it''s because I work in the big, bad city, but I''d never allow a stranger to try on something so valuable and easy to steal. It would be way too easy for that person to run out the door with it!
 
Date: 2/10/2010 6:58:47 PM
Author: Hest88
Seriously, maybe it''s because I work in the big, bad city, but I''d never allow a stranger to try on something so valuable and easy to steal. It would be way too easy for that person to run out the door with it!
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To me it wouldn''t matter where I live, nobody is taking this ring off my finger
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Sorry for the threadjack, but does anyone know if jewelry insurance would cover damage to your ring while it''s in someone elses possession? Like if the lady in the OP had cracked the diamond or something. Just something this post made me think about ..
 
Initially, my response was 'no.' However, given the additional facts presented (older woman having lunch with her daughter), I would have, but I also would have followed right after her when she started to walk away. I would not have created a scene, just would have politely followed my ring. Sounds like she wanted to show the ring to her daughter? If that was the case, she should have asked the daughter to come over to your table.
 
Craziness! I would never allow a stranger to try on anything and certainly not something as personal or valuable as jewelry. Yikes!
 
Nope and I don''t think I''d even be nice about it. I''m shocked that the stranger had the audacity to ask. If she wanted to try on rings, why doesn''t she just go to a jewelry store?
 
I would decline. As flattering as it may be, I would be uncomfortable with that.
 
It''s always flattering when someone admires your jewelry, but I think that the OP had very bad manners asking a complete stranger if she can try on her ring. I would never let a stranger try on my ring. Thank goodness it all turned out ok.
 
Date: 2/10/2010 4:48:33 PM
Author: upgrade
Um, no. Period. Just no.

Friends? Sure, go for it, but a stranger? Absolutley not, for so many reasons.

I cannot believe this woman called you rude for asking for the ring back! She was the rude one, first to ask and then to walk away with it.
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I agree with Uppy! Well said!
 
I had people asking me if they could - if I don''t know them, i will not let them. Why would I? I don''t know what they would do.

A friend? Of course. besides, its nice to see what the ring looks like on a different hand other than yours :) Different perspective :)
 
No one gets to wear my ring or even try it on, but me. I won''t even take it off for someone to look at it. They can look at it on my hand. That''s as close as they''re getting.

I''m glad I''m not alone in feeling this way. My husband thought I was nuts when I refused to let my MIL try on my ring after we were engaged. When I told her no, she walked away saying "well I''d never wear something THAT big anyway"........ SnarkSnark.
 
I would not, I think its really weird to even ask. Would you go up to someone in a parking lot, tell them you like their car, then ask to sit in it and then drive away? No, you wouldn''t, because the owner would think you are stealing the car. Its one think to compliment someone and ask questions, quite another to try it on and walk away.
 
That''s a little strange. Okay, a lot strange. I''ve asked to see people''s rings, but I wouldn''t ask to try on a stranger''s ring.
 
That''s a little strange. Okay, a lot strange. I''ve asked to see people''s rings, but I wouldn''t ask to try on a stranger''s ring.
 
People truely do some fruity stuff sometimes. I was asked that by someone worked with but didn''t know that well. I told her no. She looked offended. I told her, asking to wear my ring is like me asking you to wear your drawers. My rings are personal items to me, they get worn by no one but me.

I''d rather go ahead and offend because there''s nothing worse than strange folk cooties on your stuff.

Hope your friend learned her lesson from this.


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If someone asked to try my ring on, I''d laugh hysterically. MINE would be the operative word ....

The ''tude isn''t even related to the suspicion of larcenous activity: what if they dropped it? Too much liability for too little reward, IMHO.
 
Date: 2/10/2010 7:17:30 PM
Author: lilyfoot
To me it wouldn't matter where I live, nobody is taking this ring off my finger
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Sorry for the threadjack, but does anyone know if jewelry insurance would cover damage to your ring while it's in someone elses possession? Like if the lady in the OP had cracked the diamond or something. Just something this post made me think about ..
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I imagine that as long as this woman had the intention to permanently deprive the friend of her jewellery then as a theft, her insurance would have had to cough up (if sufficient cover were taken out). Her consent ended at the moment this change occurred. Thankfully OP was quick on her feet and or this woman was just over familiar.
 
Date: 2/10/2010 6:48:42 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 2/10/2010 6:41:18 PM
Author: K+D=4
Yes, this story is very much true. I guess the fact that I am being questioned about the validity of this means there have been many dishonest members here?
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Um, no...it means that many members are a little more street savvy, if not downright cynical (which is not always a good thing, btw).

But yeah, where you live sounds different from where I live (lucky you.) Here, people kill other people in broad daylight.
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Absolutely. Not only street savvy, but having common sense!
 
Friends and Family= yes
Strangers= no
 
No chance. I grew up in a small town and I still wouldn't do it. Strangers are untrustworthy until proven otherwise (at which point they could barely be called strangers if you know them!) and it's just inviting heartbreak to willingly hand over a valuable (in either sentiment or cost) to someone you do not know.
 
I had something similar happen to me right after I got engaged. My husband and I were out to eat, an unmarried but older couple were seated next to us . The woman was so bold as to ask to try it on, I did not know her from Adam and I took it off and handed it to her. The entire time I was having a panic attack inside, it was a rookie mistake that I have never repeated and never will. The lesson for me was that just because someone asks ,you do not have to oblige. I think I didn''t want to appear snobby or something...Looking back I have no idea why I cared about how this stranger viewed me.

Furthermore, who asks a total stranger to try on their engagement ring???? I have never done that nor will I ever.
 
I glare at the person and say "I don''t permit it."
 
er, no.

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I don''t talk to people I don''t know, and I would not have engaged in a conversation with the woman, much less handed my most valuable possession to her.
 
No way. I'd hold my ring for her to see it. Try it on?? A stranger?? Nah, not going to happen.
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That's just asking for trouble.

And I can't imagine having the balls to ask that of a stranger??
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That's just crazy!!!!
 
pictures of said ring?
 
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