LiW What to do if you know your proposal is IMMINENT?

[wishinpink]

I know my boyfriend is proposing to me the second week of June. AND I know that he only has an option of Wed, Thurs, Friday of that week when he comes back to visit.

What did you do when you knew your proposal was coming? haha other than get a manicure =D

Also, how did you stay surprised when you know the 3-day period in which he is going to propose? and how do you stay calm? lol!!!


Need some advice! =D

 

[NakedFinger]

Ahhh hun I wish I had advice for you, but I am not doing so well on the "knowing its coming and staying calm" front. conversely , I am actually GOING OUT OF MY MIND!

My ring is sitting in our house, so its a day to day thing. I am always on edge, and going nuts waiting for him to do it!

Sorry, I cant give advice....I will be curious to see what others post for you!

Good luck!

 

[elrohwen]

I wasn't so good at staying calm. Lol. We went on a weekend trip to Martha's Vineyard and I clearly knew it was coming (I designed the ring and he picked it up; then he asked when I could take a vacation day to go away for the weekend, so it was not a surprise at all). Every moment that would make a good proposal caused me to get excited. He'd even say "Wow, this would be a great time for a proposal. Too bad I left the ring in the car."

He had it planned out for Saturday night in a specific place (of course I didn't know that at the time), so I just had to wait it out.

It worked for us to not have it be a surprise. I could have gone through the typical anniversary/holiday disappointments like most girls, but since I knew the exact weekend, there wasn't a chance to get my hopes up just to be let down. Sure I got my hopes up a bit those 4 or 5 times we had a "moment" while on our trip, but since I knew it had to happen that weekend the disappointment was very slight. I guess you could say I like to be prepared for things, instead of surprised, but it didn't make me any less excited!

 

[Winks_Elf]

Take a deep breath, and remember that this is the one thing he has control over. After he proposes, it''s off and running with the bridal pack. Let him savor the moment, and remind yourself that in a very short period of time you will be his fiancee, not just the girlfriend. Get your nails done, the other girly stuff, and just prepare for romance!

 

[kittybean]

Just stay in the moment. Think about how very, very loved you are, and what a wonderful, special man you have. Maybe occupy your time by doing a few nice things for him.

Oh, and even if you aren''t truly, truly surprised, I think the emotional impact of the proposal will still bowl you over completely (in the best way possible). There is truly nothing like it! Don''t forget to soak it all in and store away that happy memory; you''ll be smiling about it for years and years to come.

 

[gwendolyn]

I grinned a whole lot every time I thought about how soon it would happen.

 

[b.anna]

Date: 5/5/2009 2:59:36 PM
Author: elrohwen
He''d even say ''Wow, this would be a great time for a proposal. Too bad I left the ring in the car.''

LOL, this is something my FF would totally do! he knows exactly how to torture me

anyway, i would say, try to enjoy the manicure and don''t be afraid to show your excitement! esp if it''ll help you get through the days lol. other than that, i''m out, but i''m super excited for you!!!

 

[princesss]

Invest in really good waterproof mascara.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 5/5/2009 3:34:25 PM
Author: kittybean
Just stay in the moment. Think about how very, very loved you are, and what a wonderful, special man you have. Maybe occupy your time by doing a few nice things for him.

Oh, and even if you aren''t truly, truly surprised, I think the emotional impact of the proposal will still bowl you over completely (in the best way possible). There is truly nothing like it! Don''t forget to soak it all in and store away that happy memory; you''ll be smiling about it for years and years to come.

Absolutely! I knew the exact day it was happening, and it was still magical. Both of us were in REALLY good moods, it was just a very loving day.

So I wouldn''t worry about it. Let the excitement and love build.

 

[Dreamgirl]

How exciting your about to become a finace! I would just TRY and stay calm. You don''t know just what day it is so I would think there would still be some surprise left in it...

 

[blackpolkadot]

I knew about when my proposal would come, but I still just tried not to think about it. I tried to occupy my time with other things, and wouldn''t you know, I was COMPLETELY surprised.

It is a very exciting time! Just relax (I know that will be hard) and enjoy your last days as BF and GF.

 

[DiamondsforDee]

So I was a really really bad girl and snooped in my FI''s email and found out not only the day he would propose but when and how. I did not think all that info would be in the email, I kind of just thought he may mention around when he was thinking of proposing. Yeah, I got what was coming to me for snooping.

BUT in spite of that I was still super excited for the proposal and managed to stay calm enough not to tip him in to the fact that I already knew exactly how and when it would happen. Of course my incredible guilt at ruining his surprise helped me stay calm and pretend. When it happened it was incredible and more than I could have imagined. Knowing ahead of time obviously ruined the surprise (I mean I knew allllllllllllll the details) but it did not make the moment any less romantic or special. Just try your best to stay calm and enjoy your last remaining days as a LIW! And knowing ahead of time makes it much easier to be cutely attired with a manicure. My proposal was during a run, but I definitely spent some time picking out my best running outfit so I would look great in all those post engagement pictures.

 

[laughwithme]

When I found the first clue in my "treasure hunt proposal" I then knew it was imminent - like, half-hour-away-imminent!!! When that week arrives, you will feel a bundle of every emotion. When I was on this scavenger hunt, I was shaking, crying, laughing, blared music at one point in my car, texted my best friend, prayed, breathed, savored every second...and then at the point I was walking towards him on the dock, all I could do was smile. I didn''t even cry when he did it. I was just in heaven. I felt like I was in heaven. I think you will be the same way. As soon as you realize what is happening, all of this stress about "how do I relax?" becomes nothing. The emotions are no less real. It is just sheer joy.

 

[bubbly1126]

I don''t know what to do b/c I''m in the same boat you are. I know it''s gonna happen between june 1st and the 9th. From the moment we step on the cruise ship, I''m gonna be so terribly anxious! Ahh. I hope I don''t go crazy!

 

[KatyWI]

DON''T WORRY ABOUT IT!!!

Trust me, I knew that my proposal was coming (not the exact day, or even week, but I knew it was imminent), and I can honestly say that it''s still surprising when he gets down on his knee!!! When my fiance pulled out the ring and asked me to marry him, the world seemed to stop... It was one of the most awesome and emotional moments of my life. Even if you knew the EXACT day, you still never know which second is going to be the one in which he pulls out the ring to ask you to spend the rest of your life with him.... and in that moment, you are going to be shocked, amazed, deliriously happy and in love, and nothing else is going to matter.

So don''t sweat the small stuff - it''s going to be awesome!

 

[wishinpink]

Thanks for all the awesome advice! I read each one very carefully! I shall do my best to stay in the moment and not sweat the small stuff!

 

[Squirrly]

ooo i know how this goes. my SO is stationed in NC and i''m in IN, and his family''s in UT, so seeing him is always a planned event. i tried to be a good girl and not think about when too much, but he told one of my friends that isn''t good at hiding things. but i didn''t know exactly when or how, so i figured i''d be exceptionally nervous and excited the whole time i was there.
unfortunately/fortunately he''s being sent to TX next month and i can''t visit, so now it''s either 2 weeks from now at a friend''s wedding or in december, unless he gets to go to the ball in october. so i guess i''m back to being surprised

i felt so bad for him cause i knew he had something planned, and now he won''t get a chance to do whatever it was.

so unless you know exactly when/where/how then i bet you''ll be plenty surprised and excited

 

[Jessie702]

Goodness, this is good advice. I so need this, because im going crazy and i know mine is a few months, if that.......