What things do you and your SO do to keep the passion alive?

[gwendolyn]

Date: 7/28/2009 11:09:41 AM
Author: Haven
You should share a secret fantasy you have that you''ve never told him about, or unique things that turn you on about him. I bet he''ll start sharing, too, and then you''ll have a whole arsenal of things to try.


It took my DH a long time to tell me that dark lipstick really turns him on. I had no idea, and I have big lips so I don''t usually wear lipstick. Now that I know, though, you bet I put some on when I''m looking to start a fire.

Precisely what I was going to say, m''dear.

And not to overshare with you all, but when I want to kick things up a notch in that department, I go out of my way to dress in the clothes that make me feel the sexiest, do my make-up all the way (usually I wear almost none) and wear my dangly-handcuff earrings (naughty jewelry is awesome

) and my most mischievous smile. He doesn''t stand a chance.

 

[Dannielle]

Date: 7/29/2009 5:17:33 AM
Author: gwendolyn

Date: 7/28/2009 11:09:41 AM
Author: Haven
You should share a secret fantasy you have that you''ve never told him about, or unique things that turn you on about him. I bet he''ll start sharing, too, and then you''ll have a whole arsenal of things to try.


It took my DH a long time to tell me that dark lipstick really turns him on. I had no idea, and I have big lips so I don''t usually wear lipstick. Now that I know, though, you bet I put some on when I''m looking to start a fire.

Precisely what I was going to say, m''dear.

And not to overshare with you all, but when I want to kick things up a notch in that department, I go out of my way to dress in the clothes that make me feel the sexiest, do my make-up all the way (usually I wear almost none) and wear my dangly-handcuff earrings (naughty jewelry is awesome

) and my most mischievous smile. He doesn''t stand a chance.

Oh Gwen, Sounds hot!!!

We have booked three nights at Bannisters Lodge. very excited!

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 7/29/2009 4:21:22 AM
Author: heraanderson
Research B&B''s first. My hubby and I once went to one and stayed in the ''apple suite''. The room had all of these smiling apple figurines and it was scary. We couldn''t do anything because they were watching us.

OMG I''d have nightmares for days!

 

[luv2sparkle]

We treat each other really nicely- hardly a day goes by that I dont try to make a point of telling him how great I think he is, and how thankful I am for him. I also
tell him I am ready any time any place, and even if I dont feel like it I go for it anyway. By the time we get going I usually am. Men need as much affirmation
as women do, I get back as much as I give. I have always been the one that tries to keep things fresh and interesting but that is okay.

Sometimes, what happens before you get to the bedroom is as important as what happens in it. We all feel better when we feel loved and appreciated I think.
I would love to get away and we talk about it often, but that is not always easy with work and family. We hope to get there really soon though, but I think the
way we treat each and appreciate each other has kept us madly passionately in love with each other for 29 years.

 

[Haven]

You know, a text message or email with an, um, enticing picture or sentence goes a long way, too . . .

 

[Laila619]

Date: 7/29/2009 11:01:35 PM
Author: luv2sparkle
We treat each other really nicely- hardly a day goes by that I dont try to make a point of telling him how great I think he is, and how thankful I am for him.

Aww, that is so sweet, and so important to a relationship. DH and I try to do this too.

 

[vip0802]

Date: 7/28/2009 8:55:00 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk
Go on a vacation together. Even if it''s just for a weekend. Check out of your normal life and return the focus to the two of you, your connection and your relationship. Sleep when you''re tired, eat when you''re hungry and fool around whenever the feeling hits you. Hold hands, make out in public (it''s not like anyone knows you...).


I definitely think relationships cool after awhile and getting the spark back definitely takes a lot of work. I''ve noticed that it''s a lot easier for DH and I if we''re not at home living our normal lives. This usually means the feeling hits us when we''re visiting family or in an equally unacceptable/inconvenient location. When we can take time for ourselves we''re more attentive, loving and affectionate. I felt like we really reconnected as a couple on our honeymoon and now that we''re home, it''s definitely a challenge to keep that connection strong amidst work, refinancing our house, getting a new kitten, etc. We make a point to sit down and eat dinner together every night and talk. I also insist on having conversation time in the morning during our commute in to work (sounds crazy, I know). In the evening we''re too stressed out from work and traffic. Still, you can do all of this and not make time for sexy time. Sometimes we have to commit to making time for ourselves that way and just do it. It''s though hard because we''re so tired during the week. I feel bad saying this, but sometimes you have to take one for the team and just do it. The hardest part is getting started, but once the motor is running, it''s good and you wonder why you don''t do it more often....

well said HH! BF and i have only been on one mini-getaway together but it was amazing. i think it had a lot to do with doing something out of routine for us. we actually make it priority to have date-night once a month at the very least. it doesn''t have to be super fancy for us...sometimes it''s just eating dinner at home and then going out to get ice cream. then we have each other as the real dessert.

 

[Dannielle]

This might be an overshare but since posting this thread we have done it 3 times

Thank you ladies!

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 7/30/2009 4:54:44 AM
Author: Dannielle
This might be an overshare but since posting this thread we have done it 3 times

Thank you ladies!

Hahahah, that''s great! Ahh, the things PS does for us...