Wedding What not to wear to a wedding...

[aprilcait]

They really have to write an article listing these things as "not weding appropriate"???

http://food.yahoo.com/blog/foxyfestivities/6361/9-things-you-should-never-wear-to-a-wedding

 

[Shoopy]

I''m glad to see the no white on there.

I don''t know if its considered old fashioned but white/ivory at a wedding

. Even champagne. I get that if there are two people wearing white, its still obvious which one is the bride (duh the one getting married!!

) BUT a lot of people are skipping the bridal stores and going to department stores for dresses. The chances of you ending up with the same if not similar dress to the bride is a lot higher than ppl think.

 

[aprilcait]

Date: 8/22/2008 11:40:18 AM
Author: fieryred33143
I''m glad to see the no white on there.

I don''t know if its considered old fashioned but white/ivory at a wedding

. Even champagne. I get that if there are two people wearing white, its still obvious which one is the bride (duh the one getting married!!

) BUT a lot of people are skipping the bridal stores and going to department stores for dresses. The chances of you ending up with the same if not similar dress to the bride is a lot higher than ppl think.

That''s a good point, Fieryred! I hadn''t really thought bout that. You''re right, though... the puffy, long, white, bridal salon dress is no longer the requiste bridal gown. Brides are choosing all kinds of options (which is totally fantastic).

 

[jcarlylew]

I just read that artical! and of course, there was a guy wearing shorts to the last wedding i went too.

Unfortunately, some people just don''t know, or haven''t gone to enough weddings to understand "what not to wear".

 

[Tacori E-ring]

We were just at a wedding last weekend and there was an older lady in a WHITE (pure white), beaded dress

it was shorter but didn''t make it right. I agree anything that could be the same tone as a wedding dress is a no no

 

[Sha]

Date: 8/22/2008 11:32:32 AM
Author:aprilcait
They really have to write an article listing these things as ''not weding appropriate''???

http://food.yahoo.com/blog/foxyfestivities/6361/9-things-you-should-never-wear-to-a-wedding

Yes...I very ashamed to say I wore a white dress to a wedding once - I don''t think I was really thinking.

And my DH wore sneakers to one wedding before....

I''m sure we''re not the only ones who''ve made these faux-pas, so yes, I think it''s necessary.... unfortunately.

 

[doodle]

very American article, haha. Pandora just mentioned on another thread that it''s okay to wear white to a wedding in England, and I know hats are a big thing in a lot of cultures (not baseball caps, but actual hats) and are even preferred in some places (well, not necessarily hats, but some kind of head covering), so it''s interesting to me how different countries have different definitions of appropriate. that being said, i don''t think a shirt with spiderman on it would be appropriate anywhere, haha!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I feel like at EVERY wedding I have been to (though I guess I didn''t notice at my own) SOMEONE is wearing jeans or shorts. DH always gets so annoyed and thinks it is so rude. Some of these weddings have been formal, night weddings. Do people not care or not know?

 

[Linda W]

Date: 8/22/2008 1:26:45 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
I feel like at EVERY wedding I have been to (though I guess I didn''t notice at my own) SOMEONE is wearing jeans or shorts. DH always gets so annoyed and thinks it is so rude. Some of these weddings have been formal, night weddings. Do people not care or not know?

One of DH''s nephews showed up to my daughter''s wedding in jeans, sneakers and a t-shirt. He was 25 years old. My eyes almost bugged out of my head when I saw him. His parents didn''t say anything about it either.

 

[Pandora II]

Just wanted to add - if any of you are ever attending a British wedding:

- Feel free to wear white/ivory/cream - everyone knows who the bride is. Obviously turning up in a wedding-dress is not appropriate, but a white or ivory suit or non-floorlength dress is fine. At least 3 people wore white to my wedding. Oyster and cream were very ''in'' this year for MOB outfits.

- Wear a BIG hat. I adore wedding hats and have some huge ones.

- Feel free to wear something as showy as you like. I love weddings where everyone has made a real effort.

 

[LostSapphire]

Just because we''re a bit different:

My MOTHER wore a beaded white sheath to my wedding.

My dress was pink.

I thought we both looked wonderful!

LS

 

[Shoopy]

Date: 8/22/2008 1:26:45 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
I feel like at EVERY wedding I have been to (though I guess I didn't notice at my own) SOMEONE is wearing jeans or shorts. DH always gets so annoyed and thinks it is so rude. Some of these weddings have been formal, night weddings. Do people not care or not know?

You know what's funny? My FI is a very laid back kind of person. He could care less what other people do with their lives

But when it comes to weddings, that is one thing that really bothers him. He feels that if the couple is paying money for the wedding then you need to dress up.

I think some people just don't get it. Some are also just not comfortable wearing a suit so they think that its appropriate to wear jeans.

ETA: I'm actually ok with hats just as long as it doesn't block anyone's view

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 8/22/2008 1:26:45 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
I feel like at EVERY wedding I have been to (though I guess I didn''t notice at my own) SOMEONE is wearing jeans or shorts. DH always gets so annoyed and thinks it is so rude. Some of these weddings have been formal, night weddings. Do people not care or not know?

My FIL wore shorts to our wedding. We were just happy they weren''t JEAN shorts knowing him.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

fiery, my DH is the same way. Very laid back. I think it is more the rudeness that bothers him than anything. He usually doesn''t comment on people''s clothing.

Linda, such a shame! Seems like there is always one though.

 

[aprilcait]

There was a younger-looking guy at our wedding who showed up in a striped golf shirt, cargo khaki pants, and white sneakers. (NOTE: This was a semi-formal/cocktail attire wedding... and everyone else was dressed accordingly.) I really didn''t care that the guy was "under-dressed" but kept trying to figure out whose young-adult kid the guy was. After the ceremony, DH asked me: "Who''s the kid with the dreads in the cargo pants?"... I guess DH noticed the guy too. Haha! Turned out Señor Cargo-pants was in my dad''s kite-boarding posse... the guy was 27 years old.

 

[Haven]

Oh my goodness, I don''t know what we would have done if anyone showed up to our wedding in jeans or shorts! Do people really do this? I can''t imagine.

And I''m really SAD that we don''t wear big wedding hats here in America. I really wanted to wear a hat to my own wedding, but then I ended up falling in love with that ridiculously overpriced veil . . .

 

[purrfectpear]

I was at a Club Med years ago in Mexico. One of the workers was getting married and we were all invited. I was so shocked to see that at least half the women and men were wearing white. I asked a couple of people and they explained to me that in Mexico you''re supposed to wear white to a wedding. Who knew

 

[cakeny]

At my friend''s wedding recently, she not only had the pleasure of dealing with "uninvited child of guest", this teen had the nerve to show up in jeans. To his parents I say...really? REALLY?

 

[taovandel]

What would you do if someone showed up dressed in jeans, tshirt, baseball cap?

I''d probably get a groomsmen to at least tell the kid to take the baseball cap off.

I was looking at pictures of a coworkers daughter wedding and there were two teenagers there. The boy was dressed HORRIBLY with a baseball cap on (During the ceremony and throughout the reception) and the girl was dressed nicely for the ceremony and then switched into the tiniest shorts you can imagine and a tight top. (oh and she''s 15 and pregnant, why am I not surprised).

I would be so livid!

But, I''m not anti other people wearing white as long as it isn''t bridal looking. Infact we are looking at a champagne colored outfit for my mother that we both just fell in love with.

 

[PrincessDijon]

Lol...I saw this article on the yahoo frontpage this morning...

The not wearing white part reminded me of my ex MIL when she wore a friggin WHITE suit and sandals to my previous wedding....not cream but white...It irked me alot!!!!!

Well, I guess it wasn''t meant to work out anyway because I have an awesome SO now!!!! YAY!

 

[princesss]

Pandora, very interesting about the white! BF''s cousin got married last year, and their Irish cousin came in a sequined white dress. She looked lovely, but it was a little surprising. It''s nice to know that it really was just a cultural difference.

As for the hats...well, baseball caps are clearly not a good idea, but I would LOVE to have people wear some of the gorgeous wedding hats I''ve seen pictures of when I get married. They''re SO COOL!

 

[Nocturnius]

Unfortunately articles like these are necessary.

The only time white is okay is when the bride has her bridal party in white, or when she requests it. Yes, I went to a wedding once where the bride and groom requested all of their guests wear "white, off-white or ivory". Everyone did, even though we were a slight bit confused... but then we saw the wedding pictures. WOW. It really looked pretty fantastic. But again, that''s a special circumstance.

Everything else, though... yeah, pretty much. I''ve seen jeans at a wedding and also cowboy regalia (when it wasn''t western themed... the guest didn''t want to "give up his personality" for a wedding.)

I think it should also be said that what ever would not be worn to a wedding, should not be worn to a funeral. I went to a good friend''s funeral and there were people wearing jean shorts and minis. What is this, high school? Go put on a pair of slacks or a nice pencil skirt. Don''t show up to a funeral in jeans.

 

[mjso]

I was at a wedding once where a kid showed up in a Slipknot Hoodie. Not sure what he was thinking there...or if he was even thinking. Granted, it wasn''t the most formal wedding ever, garden ceremony with a brunch type reception in a house on the grounds, but it was lovely and most people were at least daytime semi-formal. Khakis and a golf shirt or nicer for most of the guys...except Slipknot and a couple of his friends.

 

[diamondfan]

I think white or off white or cream is something no one should wear.

My friend got married and it was too funny, as her mother in law to be hated her and she wore a white dress to her own son''s wedding! Sign of things to come.

 

[KimberlyH]

My mom wore cream to my wedding and couldn''t have looked more appropriate, or beautiful. Tennis shoes at a formal affair, not so acceptable, a gorgeous white/cream dress that makes a guest feel terrfiic, I just don''t see the big deal. And I wish we sported big hats to weddings, I think it would be so fun to wear a large, gorgeous hat.

 

[violet02]

I was at a formal wedding last june... as in the groom wore tux and tails! Anyways since it was during the day and outdoors for some reason people took that to mean summer clothing. Some of us were dressed to the nines... some folks were in sun dresses and sandals... some in jeans and short sleeves! Maybe it's the type of folks he invited (the laid back burning man folks)? I don't know really but I almost wore a sun dress and heels because of when/where it was. My friend told me ahead of time to go formal though so I changed my outfit.

My wedding is at 2:30pm outdoors on a lawn by the house we rented. I live in fear of the casual dressers that may show up. I don't know how to tell people to be semi-formal though without sounding like a control freak!

ETA: And call me old fashioned but it would bug me if someone wore white to my wedding. My step-bro's gf is wearing black and white and that's fine by me, but all white or some variation of that? no way.

 

[Haven]

Date: 8/23/2008 11:58:33 AM
Author: violet02
I was at a formal wedding last june... as in the groom wore tux and tails! Anyways since it was during the day and outdoors for some reason people took that to mean summer clothing. Some of us were dressed to the nines... some folks were in sun dresses and sandals... some in jeans and short sleeves! Maybe it''s the type of folks he invited (the laid back burning man folks)? I don''t know really but I almost wore a sun dress and heels because of when/where it was. My friend told me ahead of time to go formal though so I changed my outfit.


My wedding is at 2:30pm outdoors on a lawn by the house we rented. I live in fear of the casual dressers that may show up. I don''t know how to tell people to be semi-formal though without sounding like a control freak!


ETA: And call me old fashioned but it would bug me if someone wore white to my wedding. My step-bro''s gf is wearing black and white and that''s fine by me, but all white or some variation of that? no way.

Oh, no! The groom actually made the biggest faux pas of them all if he wore full tails to a daytime wedding! Full tails (and black tuxedos) are only to be worn to evening events. Daytime events require a dark gray tux, perhaps with stripes, and the closest things to tails one can wear in the daytime is a cutaway coat. Oh, boy.

I can''t believe a rental place would allow a groom to rent tails for his own daytime wedding. How embarrassing!

 

[violet02]

Date: 8/23/2008 12:36:06 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 8/23/2008 11:58:33 AM
Author: violet02
I was at a formal wedding last june... as in the groom wore tux and tails! Anyways since it was during the day and outdoors for some reason people took that to mean summer clothing. Some of us were dressed to the nines... some folks were in sun dresses and sandals... some in jeans and short sleeves! Maybe it''s the type of folks he invited (the laid back burning man folks)? I don''t know really but I almost wore a sun dress and heels because of when/where it was. My friend told me ahead of time to go formal though so I changed my outfit.


My wedding is at 2:30pm outdoors on a lawn by the house we rented. I live in fear of the casual dressers that may show up. I don''t know how to tell people to be semi-formal though without sounding like a control freak!


ETA: And call me old fashioned but it would bug me if someone wore white to my wedding. My step-bro''s gf is wearing black and white and that''s fine by me, but all white or some variation of that? no way.

Oh, no! The groom actually made the biggest faux pas of them all if he wore full tails to a daytime wedding! Full tails (and black tuxedos) are only to be worn to evening events. Daytime events require a dark gray tux, perhaps with stripes, and the closest things to tails one can wear in the daytime is a cutaway coat. Oh, boy.

I can''t believe a rental place would allow a groom to rent tails for his own daytime wedding. How embarrassing!

Welll... let me add some details to the story here. The reception was at night and went til 11pm at a hall they rented. They''re big 40''s style swing dancers as well. AND he knew he was overdoing it, he wore a top hat too! hehe. He actually had the suit made for him by this amazing tailor in SF (I had the same tailor do some ties and a vest for my wedding).

I think he just wanted everyone to dress up just because he was... he''s a bit eccentric as well.

That wedding was all over the map in terms of what to do and what not to do... like asking for formal attire but serving beer and pizza... no wedding cake either it was ice cream and cookies. It was super fun though!

 

[violet02]

Uh oh... I''m having a 2:30pm wedding with an evening reception. Our guys are wearing 3 button notched collar tuxes with black vests and pastel color ties... groom in a white vest and tie. Is that bad?

 

[Haven]

Date: 8/23/2008 12:47:41 PM
Author: violet02

Date: 8/23/2008 12:36:06 PM

Author: Haven

Date: 8/23/2008 11:58:33 AM

Author: violet02

I was at a formal wedding last june... as in the groom wore tux and tails! Anyways since it was during the day and outdoors for some reason people took that to mean summer clothing. Some of us were dressed to the nines... some folks were in sun dresses and sandals... some in jeans and short sleeves! Maybe it''s the type of folks he invited (the laid back burning man folks)? I don''t know really but I almost wore a sun dress and heels because of when/where it was. My friend told me ahead of time to go formal though so I changed my outfit.



My wedding is at 2:30pm outdoors on a lawn by the house we rented. I live in fear of the casual dressers that may show up. I don''t know how to tell people to be semi-formal though without sounding like a control freak!



ETA: And call me old fashioned but it would bug me if someone wore white to my wedding. My step-bro''s gf is wearing black and white and that''s fine by me, but all white or some variation of that? no way.

Oh, no! The groom actually made the biggest faux pas of them all if he wore full tails to a daytime wedding! Full tails (and black tuxedos) are only to be worn to evening events. Daytime events require a dark gray tux, perhaps with stripes, and the closest things to tails one can wear in the daytime is a cutaway coat. Oh, boy.


I can''t believe a rental place would allow a groom to rent tails for his own daytime wedding. How embarrassing!

Welll... let me add some details to the story here. The reception was at night and went til 11pm at a hall they rented. They''re big 40''s style swing dancers as well. AND he knew he was overdoing it, he wore a top hat too! hehe. He actually had the suit made for him by this amazing tailor in SF (I had the same tailor do some ties and a vest for my wedding).


I think he just wanted everyone to dress up just because he was... he''s a bit eccentric as well.

That wedding was all over the map in terms of what to do and what not to do... like asking for formal attire but serving beer and pizza... no wedding cake either it was ice cream and cookies. It was super fun though!

Sounds like an amaazingly good time! I wish my hubby would have worn a top hat but he flat out refused. Boo.

I love eccentric people, but I''m probably biased. My mother calls me "insane" though, not eccentric. Anyway . . .

Those all-day weddings do pose a problem with attire, don''t they? I always wondered what the proper thing to do was--rent two outfits? One morning suit and one evening tux?

Now I''m hungry for ice cream and cookies!