What is a classier way to ask for mom''s blessing? Note or phone call?

[azbuyer]

My future mom-in-law is several thousands of miles away and unfortunately, a face to face meeting is out of the question since I would like to propose this year.

Assuming my girlfriend is ok with asking for a blessing/stating my intentions, what do you think is classier? A handwritten note or a phone call?

I was considering just calling her up one day but does that seem a bit flip and nonchalant for something this important?

A nice handwritten note on some stationary seems like a nice gesture. Its classic in a sense (maybe because there were no phones in the old days) and its something her mom can always keep. I could always follow up with a phone call a few days later to get her "response".

I appreciate any thoughts in advance.


PS - her father is not in the picture hence why I left him out

 

[Maisie]

If it were me I think a letter would be lovely.

 

[VegasAngel]

If you are unable to do it in person I like your idea of a hand written letter on nice stationery & a follow-up phone call. Good luck! I think it's so sweet your are doing it.

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 8/20/2008 2:26:50 PM
Author: VegasAngel
If you are unable to do it in person I like your idea of a hand written letter on nice stationery & a follow-up phone call. Good luck! I think it''s so sweet your are doing it.

I like the idea of both. How sweet of you!!!

 

[jewelerman]

Both...but a phone call first because its more of a personal connection and followed up with a nice card thanking her for a nice experiance on the phone and for future famliy ties with her.Make the card top quality and in her taste or favorite color...or the colors of the wedding.

 

[Irishgrrrl]

My Dad lives about 1,000 miles away from us, so there was no way DH could ask him in person. DH just called him, and did not send a letter/card. I think the idea of a letter or card in addition to a phone call is great, though!

 

[azbuyer]

Thanks...I will do both then

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 8/20/2008 2:22:56 PM
Author:azbuyer
My future mom-in-law is several thousands of miles away and unfortunately, a face to face meeting is out of the question since I would like to propose this year.


Assuming my girlfriend is ok with asking for a blessing/stating my intentions, what do you think is classier? A handwritten note or a phone call?


I was considering just calling her up one day but does that seem a bit flip and nonchalant for something this important?


A nice handwritten note on some stationary seems like a nice gesture. Its classic in a sense (maybe because there were no phones in the old days) and its something her mom can always keep. I could always follow up with a phone call a few days later to get her 'response'.


I appreciate any thoughts in advance.

azbuyer, when I read posts like yours, I feel heartened that civilisation has not gone completely to the dogs, and that there are people with testorone that still care about the world, the people in the world, their closest relatives / friends within the world etc etc.

As a mum (coughs)* I would just about pee my pants in excitement should my daughter's Prospective Other go to the trouble of writing me a pretty letter telling me/asking me their intentions for the happy future of their daughter.
I will pray for a man like you,
and when and if a man like you arrives for my darling daughter, I will give thanks daily.
Oh, and I will also subscribe to a charity of your choice.

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
L.
PS. a follow up phone call (just to show you really mean it) would be A1LOVELY.
Thankyou.

*daughter aged 3

 

[azbuyer]

Date: 8/21/2008 8:31:56 AM
Author: LaraOnline


azbuyer, when I read posts like yours, I feel heartened that civilisation has not gone completely to the dogs, and that there are people with testorone that still care about the world, the people in the world, their closest relatives / friends within the world etc etc.

As a mum (coughs)* I would just about pee my pants in excitement should my daughter''s Prospective Other go to the trouble of writing me a pretty letter telling me/asking me their intentions for the happy future of their daughter.
I will pray for a man like you,
and when and if a man like you arrives for my darling daughter, I will give thanks daily.
Oh, and I will also subscribe to a charity of your choice.

Thank you, from the bottom of my heart.
L.
PS. a follow up phone call (just to show you really mean it) would be A1LOVELY.
Thankyou.

*daughter aged 3

Wow. Thank you for you kind words. Rest assured, there are plenty of guys that still care.

I used almost a full box of stationary to get this letter just right (my penmanship leaves something to be desired

) but i think its done. I will re-read it again tomorrow just to be sure and then put it in the mail. I hope she will be as thrilled as you!

Thanks again to everyone for your comments.

 

[azbuyer]

Just an update. My future mother-in-law got the note today and was ecstatic. I happened to be calling her soon after she read it so that was also nice.

In any event, I got the blessing and now the countdown begins!

 

[Miranda]

I didn''t see this before! I''m so glad you did both. How sweet! I''m with Lara...I''d be putty if DD''s BF sent a handwritten note asking for my blessing on their union! She''s only 5, though, so I''ll probably get a text! Or whatever the new thing is in 20+ years! I hope as a society we can still write with a pen then!!!

Congratulations! You are almost there!