What does your DH/SO do to make you feel special

[janinegirly]

I''m curious, what does your DH (or SO, not really talking new BF''s b/c they are always on their best behaviour!) do to make you feel good just because. I''m talking about something out of the routine .. and not out of obligation. Something to show he noticed you had a bad day, or for what you do in general, or just to see you smile. It could be flowers, a compliment, an email, a card...I''m curious about the unique things he does. Do you appreciate it or is it more about the effort (ie rather than a gift)? OR do you and your DH not really do these sorts of things but show effort/appreciation/love in less overt ways.

Looking forward to hearing all the lovely things!

 

[Porridge]

Aw cute thread! I''m very lucky to have a romantic FI, he''s v sweet and attentive and does so many little things I probably don''t notice half of them anymore

If he sees something he thinks I''d like on tv he always records it. He''s very good for back rubs and feet rubs and massages to cheer me up and relax me. He''s very complimentative and supportive, all the time but especially when I need it. If I''m feeling down, or had a bad day, he lists things that he thinks are great about me, my achievements etc, and it''s an instant lift. He''s great for calling or sending messages too if we''re not together. He comes up with ideas for dates, keeps a night most weeks for dinner or something, or thinks of little day/weekend trips. He keeps an eye out for concerts we might want to go to. He''s just constantly thoughtful, and always there when I need him (and vice versa I hope!).

 

[MonkeyPie]

I have a super cute DH, he is always doing something sweet for me without being asked. Just today he went grocery shopping because I am "baby tired in the evenings". Lol and he''s always good for tummy rubs now that my belly is getting bigger.

 

[somethingshiny]

I don''t know that DH does many things "out of the routine." But, I never pump my own gas and get a back rub nearly every night. I''d rather have that than some grand romantic gesture once or twice a year.

 

[junebug17]

I''ve been married 25 years, and DH still does little things that are very sweet...if I work on a Saturday, he''ll stop by with a coffee...he tells me I''m pretty, he brags to others about my painting, he tells me I''m the best mom in the world (I''m not, but it''s still nice to hear), and just does little things and favors for me that make me feel like I come first...all little things, but they make me feel special. I truly don''t feel the need for big expensive presents or fancy dinners, these little things mean alot more to me.

 

[Erin]

BF is not romantic but I appreciate that he keeps in contact with me all day via text. Maybe once every two or three hours, but it''s everyday. It reminds me that he''s thinking of me. Also, he pays for everything we do together. At first I was really uncomfortable with it because I''m no slack and can afford to pay, too. I try to pick up little things here and there and often to make up for a small percentage of it. I feel bad about it sometimes, but I know he does it to ''take care of me'' and it''s just one of his ways.

 

[dragonfly411]

So will sometimes tell me to relax an he''ll take care of this and that chore, or he''ll make me dinner, or take me somewhere nice.

 

[sunnyd]

FI always asks if he can get me anything when he gets up from the couch. It''s little, but always sweet. He also drives us everywhere.

 

[tyty333]

Hmmm....not much

! He says things like its coming from the kids...like I''m the best Mom ever (actually far
from it...I know my faults and the kids know my buttons!) Other than that I cant think of a thing! He''s
just not the romantic type and I have to say I dont think I''m much either so maybe thats a good thing.

 

[CurlySue]

Last night, BF was suuuuper sweet. My mom, stepdad, sister, and BIL are coming to visit us this weekend. It'll be the first time my mom is seeing our house, so I have a whole list of things to do (related to cleaning, organizing, getting food prepped, etc.), because I want her to love the house and feel good about where we are living. Well, unfortunately, I am just exhausted this week. I had a list of things I wanted to accomplish last night after work and ended up passed out on the couch cuddled up with our dog instead.

So at around 10:30, I heard the sound of the coffee beans being ground for today's coffee (which is normally something I do every night before we go to bed), and I woke up to find a blanket tucked in all around me. I jumped up, knowing I had a ton of things to do, and he came over and said, "Relax. Everything's done." I must have looked at him pretty quizzically, so he said, "You just looked so peaceful and happy, and I knew you were tired, so I just took care of everything."

Pretty awesome.

ETA: he's not at ALL a gift/flowers kinda guy, but when he does things like this... when he recognizes I need something, whether it's a hug or a shoulder to cry on or to hear that I'm funny or smart, he is all over it. And he's good about reading me, which is one of the things I love most about him. Since our first date, I've always said that he just *knows* the perfect things to say to me or do for me. I guess that's why we're together!

 

[KatyWI]

My DH is not usually the most romantic guy. He''ll pretty much never "say it with words"... he''s not good for love letters, or gushing about how pretty or sweet or wonderful I am.

But he has little nicknames for me, he always tells me he loves me when I say it to him, or when he gets out of bed or leaves the house, he makes "latte art" hearts in my lattes at home, he brings flowers when he picks me up at the airport, and always cleans the bathroom because he knows how much I hate it! (And you know, the list goes on.)

The other day I was really sad and frustrated about my unemployment situation, and he came home from work with Diet Coke (always known to cheer me up!), cake batter ice cream (my fave!) and a dozen roses. He''s pretty much the greatest.

 

[CurlySue]

Date: 10/7/2009 11:29:21 AM
Author: KatyWI
My DH is not usually the most romantic guy. He''ll pretty much never ''say it with words''... he''s not good for love letters, or gushing about how pretty or sweet or wonderful I am.

But he has little nicknames for me, he always tells me he loves me when I say it to him, or when he gets out of bed or leaves the house, he makes ''latte art'' hearts in my lattes at home, he brings flowers when he picks me up at the airport, and always cleans the bathroom because he knows how much I hate it! (And you know, the list goes on.)

The other day I was really sad and frustrated about my unemployment situation, and he came home from work with Diet Coke (always known to cheer me up!), cake batter ice cream (my fave!) and a dozen roses. He''s pretty much the greatest.

That is adorable!!

 

[geckodani]

My hubbs brought home a really funky oncidium orchid for me last night, for no apparant reason, other than that he could.

It''s on my desk at work right now, making me smile. And it smells like pepper. Which is weird. And cool.

 

[Novel]

He makes me toast in the morning, every morning, because he knows I''d never eat breakfast otherwise. And he buys me cucumbers (I love them! I know, its weird) every time he goes shopping. I agree with the above, its the little things that make you feel remembered, you know?

 

[luv2sparkle]

There are so many things that I don''t think I could list them all. Sometimes when we are talking he will stop in the middle of a sentence and say '' You are just so beautiful''. I usually make a face and tell him
he is blind, but it is so darn sweet after almost 30 years of marriage.

He is a captain at a fire department and guys there bag on their wives or girlfriends quite a bit. Old boys club kind of thing. He will sometimes tell me the stories and say that when he is hearing them he is
thinking that he is just so darn thankful to be married to me. Warms my little heart.

I love the text messages he sends that range from sexy to just sweet. I miss you , cant wait to come home to you. that kind of thing.