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nala

nala

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For those of us who became obsessed with diamonds—engagement rings in particular? Most women are gifted an ering and appreciate the gesture and the ring and show it off and wear it forever. Those of us who are here in PS, descended into the rabbit hole— some of us constantly on a quest to upgrade our stone, etc.
What element—notice I don’t say trait, bc I have no idea what is driving us—do we all have in common? And I don’t think it’s as simple as liking shiny bc lots of gems sparkle. So why do some of us obsess? My first inclination is to say disposable income but I don’t think it’s that simple. Would love to hear your theories.
 
We’re growing, evolving and developing. Our tastes and aesthetics evolve. We aren’t afraid of change or risk. We trust others to execute our vision. I’m not saying someone who doesn’t change it up isn’t evolving or growing. But we delight in mixing it up and trying new.
 
nala said:
Yes. But why do some of us obsess over these while others don’t. Do we all have something in common that compels us to do this?
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OCD :mrgreen2:
And passion

Why do i want every single version of Bruce Springsteen's prove it all night from 1978 ?

But specially to the diamond 'collectors/ enthusiasts' i'd say a lot of you are perfectionists and high achievers
And it would be nice to have the disposable income to play along

(Na - I'd spent that kind of money following Bruce around next tour) but I'd love some top quality Wilma pearls one day
 
Personally, I enjoy order and symmetry. Also, I am a bit of a perfectionist. But, more than that, my jewelry collection started as a way to connect to my past. My grandmother was not a woman of means, but she collected beautiful jewelry - at least it was beautiful to me as a child. My dad followed in his mother's shoes by collecting diamond and onyx rings for himself and gifting jewelry to my mom, even though she doesn't like jewelry at all. Now that dad and grandma are gone, my jewels make me feel a little closer to them.
 
nala said:
For those of us who became obsessed with diamonds—engagement rings in particular? Most women are gifted an ering and appreciate the gesture and the ring and show it off and wear it forever. Those of us who are here in PS, descended into the rabbit hole— some of us constantly on a quest to upgrade our stone, etc.
What element—notice I don’t say trait, bc I have no idea what is driving us—do we all have in common? And I don’t think it’s as simple as liking shiny bc lots of gems sparkle. So why do some of us obsess? My first inclination is to say disposable income but I don’t think it’s that simple. Would love to hear your theories.
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I'm pretty sure I am on the autistic spectrum. Folks with Aspburgers are endlessly curious and just want to know about whatever their passion is. I do this with several topics. I am socially awkward and an introvert. I just like shiny things.
 
I never liked me ering so that started me on a quest to get something I actually liked. That took me to colored stones and bands but I don’t think any of that would have happened if I had liked my ering to begin with. I’ve ended up selling or have up for sale most of what I’ve purchased over the past few years, and that happened when I find found an “ering” I love.
 
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lookingforsparkle said:
Personally, I enjoy order and symmetry. Also, I am a bit of a perfectionist. But, more than that, my jewelry collection started as a way to connect to my past. My grandmother was not a woman of means, but she collected beautiful jewelry - at least it was beautiful to me as a child. My dad followed in his mother's shoes by collecting diamond and onyx rings for himself and gifting jewelry to my mom, even though she doesn't like jewelry at all. Now that dad and grandma are gone, my jewels make me feel a little closer to them.
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Cool of your dad !.
Do you have any of his pieces to show us?
I love jewlery on men
 
MMtwo said:
I'm pretty sure I am on the autistic spectrum. Folks with Aspburgers are endlessly curious and just want to know about whatever their passion is. I do this with several topics. I am socially awkward and an introvert. I just like shiny things.
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I think this too
i have a life long history of obsessing over certain topics
 
Idk either; but i never liked my e-ring (wasn't my choice either)
I always wanted a heart ring & i am so grateful my dh indulged me.
My family thinks im a spoiled brat.... idk
 
I’m not engaged yet, but I’ve been into jewelry for a long time (if you ask my mother, since I was a toddler lol). I think I just inherited it from my mom. She was always very very fond of bling even while young and has a great eye - she is very into designing her own pieces so that no one else has what she has. Growing up around sparkly and wearing sparkly things made me just love it as a part of my own life I suppose!
 
I was attracted to bright shiny things and rocks from toddlerhood.
My engagement ring was bought as a “forever ring” and after 20 odd years have no desire to upgrade it though it has been reset twice.
it was an Art Deco ring and the setting was worn so I reset it at the outset. I was never 100% happy with the reset. I bezel set the 3 diamonds against each other so it was a bit mushed together looking. Years past and the ring ended up being too small and couldnt be resized up enough to fit.
yay.
I spent a lot of time considering my new reset and combined the elements I love. A low profile, flat ring, a rectangular shape and a mix of cuts. I was and still am delighted with the result
My jewellery collection has evolved but I do tend to set myself “targets” and then search and research obsessively. I’m on the Spectrum and once I’m engrossed, I’m right down that rabbit hole.
I had a list from my late teens of pieces I wanted to own.
A diamond bigger than 1 carat (back in the day that was HUGE) an opera length strand of pearls, a rose gold heart padlock bracelet, a loaded gold charm bracelet and a gold Rolex. Over the decades the list expanded and included 21 gold bangles (21 is my number) A huge opal, a diamond tennis bracelet, a diamond necklace and an Elgin Lady & the Tiger watch AND an Elgin Touchdown 202 or the Mermaid watch.
The last item I ticked off was a BIG Aquamarine Ring costing under $1,000. Impossible ”they” said. Well, it did take 15 years until it fell in my lap, with matching earrings for $795.
so sadly or happily, there’s nothing else that I still desire.
 
As the old fable goes with the scorpion and the frog. It’s in my nature.

I’ve always been like this. Ruminating, obsessing, analyzing. I can’t blame anyone or anything but me.

#IamwhoIam

As the quote goes anyway, what is life without passion and obsession?

❤️
 
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nala said:
Yes. But why do some of us obsess over these while others don’t. Do we all have something in common that compels us to do this?
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Maybe we are perfectionists in certain ways.
 
What a great question.
I had horses for years, never wore rings because you could lose a finger. Now I'm old and too busted up for horses, and I wanted something beautiful that doesn't go lame or get sick and break my heart. And they don't take up much space.
 
I have loved jewellery as long as I can think. And I too can obsess over things. And with the years passing by it became possible to not only admire the pieces but actually buy one from time to time. I’m a collector. Many pieces are hardly ever worn.
However this all does not relate to my engagement ring. There is just one. The one I got the day he asked. I sure got others one could relate to as “upgrades” but at the end they are just rings I love dearly and do wear on my left hand (I’m a one ring at the time girl and don’t feel the urge to wear a wedding set daily. After all I’m married to the man not the ring).
 
Daisys and Diamonds said:
Cool of your dad !.
Do you have any of his pieces to show us?
I love jewlery on men
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I wish that I had a few pieces to show you. Unfortunately, my mom seems to have lost his jewelry. I remember a large solitaire in a heavy gold setting, a classic black onyx with a center diamond, a gold coin ring, and a heavily carved gold ring. He also had other types and styles through the years, but he wore the same ones most of the time.
 
lookingforsparkle said:
I wish that I had a few pieces to show you. Unfortunately, my mom seems to have lost his jewelry. I remember a large solitaire in a heavy gold setting, a classic black onyx with a center diamond, a gold coin ring, and a heavily carved gold ring. He also had other types and styles through the years, but he wore the same ones most of the time.
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Hopefully they are. tucked away in a safe place waiting to be joyfully rediscovered some happy day soon
 
Yeah I’ve always been interested in sparkling things, think I got it from my Mum who has a nice jewellery collection. I don’t obsess badly but as I’m not wealthy I do spend a lot of time & effort on “the hunt” always looking for the perfect coloured stone for the best money. My exDH proposed without a ring and I paid for my own very modest ruby ring later (was lost years ago) but maybe it never felt like a proper engagement ring...
 
I have been catching up on Price Scope this morning and love this question. I posted a question in the same vein a while back and the responses gave me goosebumps. For me - jewelry has been a love of the women in my family across the ages. Nature or nurture? I am not sure - but it connects me to my great grandmother, my grandmother, my mom and now my daughter. I also am getting to the point where I believe my love of diamonds is just like any other art enthusiast or collector. My dad spends hours restoring and looking at his classic car, attending car shows with other owners, researching the history of his car - and it gives him great happiness. How is my love of diamonds - the enjoyment of looking at other's pieces, watching their projects unfold, knowing my pieces will travel down the ages, having friends who understand this love - any different? Like many of you, I love researching things - so the science and physics of diamonds satisfies an intellectual need in addition to the artistic need that their beauty fulfils. So - while I have my moments when I wonder if my collection of diamonds is excessive (my original engagement ring has not changed so I just keep buying additional diamonds!) - I mostly just accept that I have an interest that gives me great pleasure. I am so glad I have all of you who understand!
 
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I can give you the most basic truth.
Disposable income. :lol:
Strip everything else away, and that is the distinction.
 
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For me, I think it is a combination of conditioning, and obsessiveness.
My Mom has quite the collection, and when I was a little kid, I loved to play in her Jewelry box.
I saw Dad always indulging her and buying her new baubles.

Pair that with my "need to know more" about everything, and you get me--a crazy jewelry lady.
 
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