Home What did you love about your wedding? What was an abject failure?

[Morgie44]

-what were the high points and the low points of your day?

High point -
1. This sounds totally dumb but, we got MARRIED!
2. Standing on the balcony overlooking the reception while people were dancing and knowing that all of these people were there to support us.
3. Seeing all of my hard work and obsessing about things come to fruition, getting compliments from guests and even our photographer who said our wedding was easily one of her favorites!
4. Seeing how happy DH was playing with the Camaro that I rented for him...

Low Point -
1. I didn''t exactly have time to plan out our route for the stops we would make to take pictures and we got kind of lost... We had driven it once but neither of us could remember because we were so overwhelmed! Thankfully, the limo driver for the Bridal party had directions, but it caused a bit of tension for us.
2. It was SOOOO hot in the church that I think I almost passed out!
3. DH kept stepping on my dress and ripping my bustle while we were doing our portraits. After a few times of telling him to be careful where he was stepping. He stepped on it and it made a really LOUD ripping noise and I kind of yelled Stop stepping on my dress! I looked like a total bridezilla in front of the photographer and felt totally ashamed

-what went well?
I am pretty happy with almost everything and have fond memories of the day overall.

-what do you wish you could do-over?
I wish I would have left my veil on for during pics. It was really windy that day and I think we would have gotten a really cool veil blowing in the wind shot

 

[wishful]

Our wedding was very simple with no guests so really the whole day was perfect with zero stress.
We got couples massage in our room the morning of.
Mani Pedi''s for me.
Had lunch
Got my make up and hair done - hubs was ushered off to another room to get ready on his own.
About a 3-4 minute wedding ceremony - simple and to the point and on the beach under the palm trees.
An hour of pictures which turned out great!
Dinner on the beach
Cake in our room.

One favorite memory was when we were eating dinner it was getting dark and breezy too so we asked if we could have our cake in our room. Of course the staff said yes and they would bring it for us.
Well when we went to our room the whole thing was lit with candles...candles on the floor, candles on every table, dresser, bathroom counter...and flower petals e v e r y w h e r e !!! Even flower petals on the bed in the shape of a heart! It was so sweet! We were both really surprised and touched. Such a fun way to cap of the day.

No complaints here!!!!

 

[Pandora II]

Best parts:

I married my husband, I have never felt more beautiful or happier in my whole life and my husband told me how truly happy he was to be getting married (he ''didn''t'' believe in marriage). It was truly one of the best and happiest days of my life. Pretty much everything went how it was supposed to.

What do you wish you could do-over?

- My mother had had a very severe attack of MS and was in a wheelchair and on huge amounts of diamorphine. She refused to be in any photos because of the wheelchair, so I have none of the formal shots, or even an informal one of us together. Now she regrets it and I wish I had put my foot down and insisted. So, I really wish that she had been well.

- Instead of a calm run-up just before the wedding, I was having my hair done in the kitchen while my father tried to carry my mother upstairs to get dressed and tripped over the heated curlers in the process; kids screaming round the place; my wretched SIL who NEVER stops eating decided to make a huge meal and eat it when the ceremony started in 45 minutes - and get pissed off because no-one else wanted to eat; trying to put my make-up on whilst kneeling on the floor with a tiny mirror and kids throwing lego at me; being so stressed that my arms swelled up too much to get my dress on - thank god for my brother with ice-cubes and a can of cold spray! Eugh, still makes me annoyed - I had to send the photographer away because things were way too chaotic.

- Telling DH that he was allowed to watch me walk down the aisle. He thought it wasn''t allowed. I so wanted that moment of seeing each other when I walked in and instead I was wondering where the heck he was!

- Getting one of our siblings to video the speeches. They are a HUGE part of an English wedding and are given my the Father of the Bride, the Groom and the Best Man. I would LOVE to watch them again and I''m so sad that I can''t remember everything.

- The flowers... a longstanding friend of the family did them for free. However, she has very set views on flowers - likes very formal and tight arrangements. I wanted everything soft with full open English roses with lots of scent and mainly in shades of gold and yellow with touches of orange. I even spent weeks putting together a bunch of artificial flowers to show her EXACTLY what I wanted.

The flowers turned up 2 days before the wedding and they were the wrong colour and all very tight closed roses.

However, I had anticipated problems and had put in a massive order with a rose company for the sort I wanted, only they couldn''t supply yellow that week, only creams and apricots, but at least scented and the shape I wanted. Did an emergency trip with DH to the supermarket and bought every yellow rose they had - a whole shopping trolley of them! And...got caught by the lady doing the flowers on the way out...

They worked out okay, but still not exactly my vision!

What still brings a light to your eye when you remember it?

- The speeches. DH wrote his out in full and emailed me a copy after the wedding. It still makes me cry reading it.

- Trying to cut the cake! I made the cake - 4 tiers traditional fruitcake with an inch of marzipan and royal icing. The only thing is that royal icing sets like concrete and we couldn''t get the knife through it no matter how hard we tried. The photos are hysterical - both of us laughing so much we had tears down our faces and white knuckles on the knife!

- My dress - it was everything I could have ever dreamed of and then some. Even more special, the fabric had been designed and woven for me by the husband of one of my best friends.

 

[rhbgirl24]

I think it is normal to have things you are unhappy with on your wedding day. You put so much time and effort to make everything perfect and it just doesn''t work that way.

I am most happy with my new husband, how he handled everything, how he rolled with what went wrong and had a blast with me anyway.

the things I''m unhappy about was with the Venue. Its a very expensive, high end venue, and they so totally weren''t organized. We custom did the menu - the risotto wasn''t too good at all! They placed the wrong ice sculpture in our room, then had to change it out later. They set up the centerpieces incorrect, but MIL made them fix that. We spend half of our cocktail hour waiting for our appointed wedding planner from the venue to complain about the ice sculpture, the cake in the wrong location so on....
Oh and worst is my photog was taking pics of the reception ballroom when we were setting up for the ceremony and the site was supposed to tell him when we were starting - THEY didn''t. He missed us all walking down the aisle. My DH noticed he wasn''t there and had someone grab him.

But even with all that it was still the most wonderful day of my life, so even tho i''m annoyed about all that, I guess it really doesn''t matter, right?

 

[wannaBMrsH]

It took me about three months to be able to sit down and think of this:

What were the high points?
I married my husband. I know it sounds so cheesy, but he really is my best friend, lover, soulmate. I would go through anything if at the end, it meant I could spend my life with him.

What were the low points of your day?
The complete lack of planning the actual day of. No matter how often I tried to tell everyone what needed to be done, everyone knew more than I did.

What went well?
-I had an amazing MOH. I asked my 15-year-old sister to be my MOH and I fully expected her to be clueless and scattered, but I love her and I couldn''t imagine anyone but her being my MOH. She kept me from losing my mind, helped me into my dress, helped me do my makeup and was just freaking amazing.
-We had a terrific photographer. He didn''t have much experience shooting weddings and we knew that going in, but he got some amazing shots of our wedding and it''s been so hard to narrow down the photos for our albums and to print for our home.
-Our friends. We had 42 guests fly into the Dominican Republic as a hurricane was forming and NO ONE mentioned this to me, they all showed up, danced and celebrated with us. We are so blessed.

What do you wish you could do-over?
Paying for my 21-year-old sister''s trip and asking her to be a BM. She is in no way capacitated for it and I could have spent that money to pay for people who really DID want to be there and just couldn''t afford it.
-We used miles for her RT airfare from her home state to mine before the wedding and she decided to cancel the second leg of her trip without telling me. I could have used those miles to fly another friend to the wedding. My sister''s trip used so many miles because she waited so long to tell me she was coming. My friend and her husband could pay for the hotel, but they couldn''t afford the airfare and only had miles for one of them to travel.
-We paid for her RT airfare and hotel at the wedding. That would have paid for a whole other person''s trip and they probably would have helped more, or at least stayed out of the way!
-I paid for her BM dress (which she forgot to take to the DR) and both pairs of shoes, jewelry, hair & make-up. That would have paid for at least one extra bag fee!

What was a total failure?
-My Jewelry and Makeup - My 21 year-old sister was in charge of the carryon with this and she left it back home.
-Resort Photographer - I told him we had our own photographer and he interfered with our hired photog during the entire ceremony
-DJ - We sent him the music for the special dances ahead of time and we brought a CD AND a flash drive with all the music as back up and he still played DH and my first song (Love Song by The Cure) for the Mother/Groom dance!
-The kids (but not anything they could control). We have no photos of us with our Flower Girl and Ring Bearer, or DH''s kids because we were all so preoccupied with everything else! Then during the cocktail hour, they all ran into the ocean during the formal portrait session and ended up in different (not wedding attire) outfits for the reception.

What still brings a light to your eye when you remember it?
-My Husband
-The fact that our families were there (both sets of parents, brothers, sisters, kids, etc.)
-The Speeches. Our Best Man gave the most amazing speech. DHs family is not touchy-feely and I never knew my BIL loved me so much. AND, then he gave the speech in Spanish so that my parents understood it. As much heartache as I went through with their other brother (who didn''t attend the wedding) and DHs ex-wife, my BIL (our Best Man) completely made up for it.
-It''s very superficial, but my SHOES! I get super excited when I wear them out for dates with my DH and it reminds me that I really did feel like a million bucks that day!
-The food and the cake. I wasn''t expecting everything to taste so great, but everyone commented on how great the food was and the cake was delicious!
-Our Photos- I LOVE our photos! We had a terrific photographer!

 

[Winslet]

Thanks for doing this thread for us newsboysgrl777. Although overall we had a wonderful wedding and were so incredibly happy that day, I feel as though sharing this will help me to move past the little things that bothered me. Here goes:

What were the high points?
-DH and I were elated and overjoyed the entire day.
-Our DJ was incredible and the dance floor was crowded just about the whole night.
-The food and cake were awesome.

What were the low points?
-ALL of the groomsmen were cut off from the bar early in the evening because the bartender didn’t like the SOBER behavior of one of the groomsmen. When I found out an hour later, I had them immediately reopen the bar (but it had already left a bad taste in everyone's mouth)

What went well?
-Everything that truly mattered.

What do you wish you could do-over?
-Although we have many incredible photos to remember the day, I wish we had better shots of me walking down the aisle with my dad, exchanging rings with DH, our first kiss, and our first dance. Not the photographer’s fault, but mine for not specifying that I wanted a normal, straight-on shot of those moments.

What was an abject failure?
-My flowers were a HIDEOUS DISASTER! I swear the florist did it on purpose - not only were we missing a bouquet, but the BM bouquets were the wrong color, were tiny, and were overwhelmed by big, ratty ribbons and bows

What still brings a light to your eye when you remember it?
-Laughing with my parents at the “FLORAL EMERGENCY!” as we stopped at a different florist on our way to the church to have another BM bouquet made up last minute.
-Cutting the cake with my husband to “God Only Knows” - an idea inspired by Love Actually, one of our favorite movies.
-Seeing so many friends and family members crying with joy at different points throughout the day (especially the ones I would have never imagined crying)

 

[Lauren8211]

-what were the high points and the low points of your day?
I hated waiting. Our ceremony wasn''t until 5:30 and i was so nervous and I just wanted to get on with it already! That was the only thing that could really be considered a low point. The entire day was a high point!

-what went well?
Logistically, everything was PERFECT. I don''t know how it went so smoothly but it did. It was just one seamless transition after another. We really lucked out!

We received many compliments on the food, especially the appetizers. A lot of people told it was far and away the best wedding food they''d ever had. People are still asking us about the wines that the sommelier selected for the dinner!

-what do you wish you could do-over?
Nothing really. Even though I hated waiting all day for the ceremony, I wouldn''t have wanted it earlier.

-what was a total failure
Nothing. Everything went perfectly. I wouldn''t change a thing.

-what still brings a light to your eye when you remember it?
Turning the corner and seeing DH for the first time. It was probably one of the best moments of my life!

 

[sunnyd]

What were the high points and the low points of your day?
High: It stopped raining! November in Seattle, this is a big deal.

The whole ceremony was amazing. My photog offered to set up a photobooth for us, and our guests loved it! They keep hounding us for the pics not 1 week later.

Low: Rude staff at the venue, and staff not paying attention/knowing what was going on (our candle lighting almost didn''t happen and my aunt had to set up centerpieces because the banquet captain was MIA). People leaving right after dinner. Jackass friend of my parents'' who complained to us about the timeline.

What went well?
Most things. My face hurt from smiling so much, and it was really special to have most of our family from the east come out to celebrate.

What do you wish you could do-over?
Hiring a DOC. Playing bride and DOC simultaneously wasn''t fun.

What was a total failure?
My door to exit after the ceremony was locked...see pic in non-pro thread. LOL! My face says it all.

What still brings a light to your eye when you remember it?
The ceremony. I''ll always remember how DH was looking at me walking down, his vows made everyone cry, mine made them laugh then cry.