Home What did you love about your wedding? What was an abject failure?

[newsboysgrl777]

(I really loved this topic/thread in the Hangout forum and thought I''d re-create it here. I especially like it because I have SOO MANY things that disappointed me about my day that, to be honest, I''d like to know if I''m the only one. So, here is an overview and the questions from the original post...)

So after reading Freke''s thread about embarrassing situations and faux pas (Brides World Wide and Grooms Grooves) and seeing all the responses - many about things going belly up at weddings - i spent some time, for the first time in a LONG time, thinking about my own wedding - the things that well and the things that....didn''t.

-what were the high points and the low points of your day?
-what went well?
-what do you wish you could do-over?
-what was a total failure
-what still brings a light to your eye when you remember it?


(Original thread by whitby here: Love/Hate about wedding)

 

[ficklefaye]

newsboysgrl, i'm so sorry to hear that you were disappointed about so many things on your wedding day

, i hope that these issues did not ruin the overall day, you look gorgeous in your avatar!

 

[Patchee]

Considering I have had 4 people contact me wanting my DJ''s phone number for their events.

2 People contact me for the name and number of my caterer

My photog went above and beyond without charging us extra

The cake actually tasted great!

And................... 11 days later I am still receiving phone calls that my wedding was the best wedding they ever went to... I can say nothing went wrong, no dislikes - nothing. It even rained later in the day and no one cared at all

 

[newsboysgrl777]

Wow Patchee! That''s great!!! I haven''t had ANY phone calls about how aweseome my wedding was. LOL Why? Because it wasn''t.

I think THAT is the most disappointing part. That I spent SOOOOO long (over a year!!) planning ''the most wonderful day'' and so many things didn''t go as planned. I mean, if I hadn''t spent SO MUCH time and energy planning it and things went wrong, I may have been okay with that, you know? It''s just that I tried SO HARD to make sure it was PERFECT, and then SOOOOO many things went south.

I promise to come back and recount each of those things. Maybe I''m just being too...perfectionistic? I don''t know. But I wish I could''ve had a practice wedding to prepare me for the real thing.

Faye...thank you for your sweet words, but this has been my avatar since BEFORE I got married...it''s not me. LOL. The thing is, my pictures DO look nice. I DID look gorgeous, even though I didn''t FEEL LIKE I did. (I''m not saying I felt ugly, but I didn''t feel like "oh! I''m so gorgeous" you know? I hope that makes some sense). I''m still waiting for my pro pics and I''m hoping those captured all of the ''beauty'' of the day, and not my feelings during it. I wish I could really explain better what I mean. I will try later. But for now, it''s back to work. :-\

 

[ficklefaye]

whoops, sorry about that newsboysgrl, i must be off my game, i thought that was you in your avatar

maybe after you share photos, we can ooh and aah

 

[musey]

Date: 7/22/2009 2:07:18 PM
Author:newsboysgrl777
(I really loved this topic/thread in the Hangout forum and thought I''d re-create it here. I especially like it because I have SOO MANY things that disappointed me about my day that, to be honest, I''d like to know if I''m the only one. So, here is an overview and the questions from the original post...)

OH gosh I am sorry to hear that

I was very happy with my day. I don''t feel like everything went perfectly, but I wouldn''t change a thing. My wedding was my wedding, and I wouldn''t change those memories for anything!

 

[musey]

Date: 7/22/2009 2:59:04 PM
Author: newsboysgrl777

Faye...thank you for your sweet words, but this has been my avatar since BEFORE I got married...it''s not me. LOL. The thing is, my pictures DO look nice. I DID look gorgeous, even though I didn''t FEEL LIKE I did. (I''m not saying I felt ugly, but I didn''t feel like ''oh! I''m so gorgeous'' you know? I hope that makes some sense). I''m still waiting for my pro pics and I''m hoping those captured all of the ''beauty'' of the day, and not my feelings during it. I wish I could really explain better what I mean. I will try later. But for now, it''s back to work. :-

Does anyone? If so, maybe I can hop into the minority with you here because I felt just about as "gorgeous" as any other day... I didn''t feel especially radiant or beautiful that day.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 7/22/2009 3:27:19 PM
Author: musey

Date: 7/22/2009 2:59:04 PM

Author: newsboysgrl777


Faye...thank you for your sweet words, but this has been my avatar since BEFORE I got married...it''s not me. LOL. The thing is, my pictures DO look nice. I DID look gorgeous, even though I didn''t FEEL LIKE I did. (I''m not saying I felt ugly, but I didn''t feel like ''oh! I''m so gorgeous'' you know? I hope that makes some sense). I''m still waiting for my pro pics and I''m hoping those captured all of the ''beauty'' of the day, and not my feelings during it. I wish I could really explain better what I mean. I will try later. But for now, it''s back to work. :-

Does anyone? If so, maybe I can hop into the minority with you here because I felt just about as ''gorgeous'' as any other day... I didn''t feel especially radiant or beautiful that day.

Ditto. I felt just as pretty as a nice dinner out or something, but I did feel like "a bride." But..I am not crazy with how overweight I am so I am kind of having the opposite reaction to pictures. I feel skinnier than I look in reality!

Even though I don''t have pro photos yet..just from looking at my non-pro I look so large. Always promised myself I wouldn''t be larger still at my wedding.

Also my dress felt a little tighter the day of because it was hot and I think I was a little swollen or something because I watched my weight and I didn''t gain a large amount between the last fitting and the wedding. It fit better as time went on...so maybe that not being able to breathe feeling was nervousness or something? Anyway I am off topic, just wanted to say yes you''re not the only one that wasn''t like "oh I am the most gorgeous girl in the world ever!!" lol. No worries!

 

[October2008bride]

-what were the high points and the low points of your day?
High points were walking to the church with my parents and the the bells ringing, walking down the aisle to meet my hubby, and the last dance of the night.

-what went well?

The ceremony was awesome. I''ve heard the food was great (didn''t eat any).

-what do you wish you could do-over?
My speech. As you will see below, I threw out my back that day and was in so much pain I didn''t prepare and left my speech in my bag. I still feel sick when I feel about it.
-what was a total failure
My back. Almost the whole reception was a write off for me. Upside was that DH stayed with me the whole time and I never felt closer to him.

-what still brings a light to your eye when you remember it?
When I see my pics I think "oh that looked like an okay day!" I still feel sad and bad about everything - hopefully that will lessen with time.

 

[bee*]

The high points for me were:

Partying the night before with everyone-it was one of the best nights I''ve ever had-so much fun.
Getting ready the next day as we were all so excited.
Walking down the aisle and seeing D
I loved getting our photos done
Dinner was delicious
Loved dancing the night away with my friends

Low points-

There really weren''t any. It would have been nice if the weather had been a bit better-we had a bit of rain and it was really windy, but it could have been far worse, weatherwise.

There isn''t really anything I''d do-over again-I just enjoyed every minute of it. Wouldn''t change any of it.

 

[Cleopatra]

I''m lucky to say that I loved every detail and second of my wedding - there was nothing that I would change - except for maybe making the day just a bit longer!

Favorites:
Our reception band
Our food
Our cake
My dress
My friends and family having a blast
My photographer - my pictures turned out exactly as I would have hoped!

Couldn''t ask for more

 

[Patchee]

Awe Newboygirl!!! I am sure your day went ok from other eyes even if you were not feeling like it was. Also, I am sure you are a beautiful person in and out and your photos WILL show that beauty of your whole day!!! Hugs from Patchee!!

 

[allycat0303]

The bad: My mom.
The high points: everything else.

I get mad whenever I think about that fiasco.

 

[Blair138]

Bad: Limo never showed at my parents house and my BM had to drive me to the church
My sister busted her zipper and had to be sewn in her dress seconds before the ceremony
My bro got pulled over on his way to the hotel and missed the limo
I missed some photos that I really wanted
I got sick, didn''t eat barely any of my AWESOME FOOD and puked a bunch of times

Good: Everyone looked beautiful
My venue was perfect
candy buffet was AWESOME
SO MANY PEOPLE said it was the best wedding they ever went to
DJ was PHENOMENAL
Flowers were perfect

I think there were a couple more problems that I can''t remember right now but overall I am really happy

 

[PearlDahhhling]

Oh man... I didn''t want to post about some of these things because I want my wedding day memories to be strictly happy ones, but I''m right there with ya newsboysgrl777 when you say that a lot of things disappointed you on your big day...

I don''t feel like answering the questions in the format given because my answers are so long and drawn out, so I''ll just give you this...



We had DH''s cousin officiate our wedding. It was his very first (and probably last) wedding as he got ordained to do ours. We figured he''d be the perfect person! He''s really outgoing, funny, charismatic, and since most of our wedding guests were family, we really loved the idea of having him be up there with us officiating.

Well, I don''t know what happened, but he was SO nervous. I mean shaking/sweating/stuttering nervous. I figured it would go away after we got into the ceremony, and the first part went pretty well, but when we got to the rings, he lost his place in the little book I made him. He couldn''t find the "I give you this ring..." section and kept insisting it wasn''t in there. I kept insisting that it was (I made the darn thing, I think I''d know if a page was missing...). Then he found it, but instead of reading one line at a time so DH could repeat after him, he just blurted out like three sentances, and poor DH goes "Uhhh, I''m supposed to repeat that?" So then I just finally told him what to say since I wrote our whole ceremony and had the whole thing memorized anyway. He for some reason couldn''t just say it. DH had to stumble through it, then I said it, and then THANK GOD it was over.

We didn''t have a professional videographer, but my aunt videotaped the ceremony, and that whole part is just this big awkward silence/whispering thing and I can''t stand to watch it or think about it. It makes me so mad that he messed up especially since I gave him the script for the ceremony weeks and weeks beforehand and he insisted he was going to read it and memorize it. UGH.



Another disappointment, although small, was my bridal bouquet. I loved my girls bouquets, but mine was supposed to have pink peonies in it. I have ALWAYS wanted peonies in my bouquet. MIL made all the centerpieces, bouquets, etc. and I specifically told her that the pink peonies we ordered were supposed to go in my bouquet. Well I don''t know why, but she ended up using them ALL in the centerpieces and my bouquet was just roses. AND the bouquets were supposed to just be the simple tied stems with ribbon wrapped around them. Instead she got these foam orb things with handles and you stick the flowers in them to form a bouquet. Sounds like a good idea, except the flowers kept falling out. Ugh. That made me mad.


Another strange thing was that I went inside to cool off (It was HOT in my giant dress on the dancefloor!) and people were freaking out about something! I had no idea what was going on and then people kept saying some girl was passed out in the bathroom and had alcohol poisoning. This girl is the sister of one of DH''s friends, both people I''d never met, and I was completely confused as to what was going on. We didn''t have an open bar, just wine on the tables, and the drinks at our venue were extremely expensive, so that would''ve had to have been some pretty expensive alcohol poisoning... So then it turns out that she just hit her head and was knocked unconscious for a second, and they took her to the hospital and she''s completely fine (thank goodness). But it bothered me SO much that people were freaking out and making up these crazy stories! It was so confusing and strange!


There were other little things that went wrong that day too, and I think the reason they upset me so much was that I spent SO much time planning all the little details, and then on the day of the wedding I had to put my trust in other people to do things the right way, and they didn''t.


Thankfully I do have fond memories of my wedding day as well!

The ceremony (aside from the cousin disaster) was lovely. SIL read "The Blessing of The Hands" and she got really emotional which made everyone else emotional and it was a really touching part of the ceremony.

My dad got to be there and roll down the aisle with my mom and I and that in itself was one of the best parts of the day for me. For those of you who don''t know, my dad got an infection in his spine in January and had to have emergency spinal surgery. He has been paralyzed ever since and was in the hospital for several months. There was a time when it wasn''t certain whether he was going to be able to make it to the wedding or not (we live about 2 hours from one another). So him being there with me was so special.

The food and cake were phenomenal. Everyone raved about them! I was really happy about that! People also loved our DJs (even though they upset me.... but that''s another story....) and I think people had a good time at our wedding.

I did have a good time at our wedding, but I wish I could go back and do parts of it over, and make sure that everyone else was as prepared as I''d hoped they''d be. But from talking to guests, no one else noticed anything wrong at all and everyone I''ve talked to said they had a great time! So I guess I shouldn''t dwell on it. I''m glad I got some of it out here though!

 

[StarbuttsKoffee]

The overall of our wedding went well. I couldn't ask for more! Heard good things about the Church ceremony and catering from Hotel and my dress from our guests.

Favorites:
-Make up and Dress
-Both parents and Siblings (They look really great!)
-Our 14 months-old Ring boy walked down the aisle by himself with his mother(my Matron of honor) and our Flower girl!
-Ceremony Choir (they were awesome! I felt like I was in the opera when we were signing the marriage cert!)
-Photographer (he jumped up and down and lay on the street during a red light

of course the photos were gorgeous!)
-My mom's creations: Bridesmaids' bouquets and restroom's flower decor and ring pillow
-When I wear the Chinese gown for tea ceremony in the morning (it was the most touching moment that I had shared with my bridesmaids, we broke into tears)

Bad :
Lighting at venue, Videographer at venue (he drank 2 bottles of our wine on duty

)

If I can re-do.... :
I would call a final meeting before the big day with every single crew member and give them certain restrictions.

-SBK

 

[iheartscience]

My wedding was seriously amazing. Everything went perfectly and I wouldn't change a thing! I'm sorry not everyone feels the same way, though.

High points: The whole evening was a high point, really! Let me think...I loved loved LOVED my dress, hair and make up! I also loved our music and I loved dancing my ass off once the party really got started! I liked our bridal party introduction song a lot (The Final Countdown!) and I also loved our sparkler send off.
Low points: None! Seriously, everything was awesome and everyone did an awesome job of taking care of business so I had nothing to stress about.
What went well: Everything, really!
What do you wish you could do-over: Nothing, although I do wish I could have eaten the food because it looked so good! I barely nibbled anything at all because when I'm excited/worked up I can't eat. But everyone told me everything was delicious!
What was a total failure: Nothing.
What still brings a light to your eye when you remember it: How emotional my now-husband got! He is so tender and that's one of the reasons I love him so much!

 

[Lilac]

High points:
1. My husband. All I wanted from that day was to marry the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and that was what we did, so what could be bad?
2. My parents were so supportive (both emotionally and financially - they paid for the whole wedding and we are soo grateful)
3. The band was amazing and we got compliments on them the whole night and the past 5 months since the wedding
4. The singer we picked was incredible
5. Everyone said the food was amazing (but unfortunately we didn''t get to eat anything at our wedding we were so busy!)
6. The hall - I always dreamed of getting married there
7. The weather - it was the beginning of February and every single weekend before it snowed a LOT and about 2 weeks later we had a huge snowstorm, but on the day of our wedding it was sunny and 60 degrees
8. The flowers - our florist totally exceeded our expectations and did a BEAUTIFUL job
9. The color - I picked purple and the bridesmaids were in a dark royal purple and our moms and sisters were in a lighter shade and it looked wonderful in person and in pictures (and everyone had argued with me about the color because nobody wanted to wear purple, but in the end everyone said it looked amazing)
10. My hair and makeup - I was very happy with how they came out
11. Our first dance - this was one of the best moments of the night. I loved our song and the whole dance and those few moments were just like I had pictured them from the time we met.
12. Our wedding night - we stayed in a beautiful hotel and it was everything I dreamed it would be (we had waited until our wedding night, and it was so special)

Low Points:
1. I wish it could have been a little smaller - we had over 500 people and I didn''t know half of them - I wish it could have been smaller and more intimate with people DH and I really felt close to.
2. The photographer - terrible. Refused to take ANY shots outdoors even though it was a gorgeous day and beautiful scenery outside for pictures. I was really really disappointed on the day with him and when we got the pictures it''s almost painful to look at most of them because he just was so bad. He missed a ton of key shots and moments and I wish we had gone with someone else. I''m getting the video this week and I''m very nervous about it because if it''s just as bad as the pictures I''ll be really disappointed and sad.

What I wish I could do over:
The pictures - but 3 weeks ago my husband surprised me for my birthday and we DID do those over

And for good reasons - I wish we could do the whole day over because it was so amazing!

What was a total failure:
I can''t think of anything (other than maybe the pictures). Well my bustle totally didn''t work and fell down, but I didn''t care much at the time, it was more of an annoyance.

What still brings a light to my eye:
Thinking about the ceremony and the moment we were finally husband and wife. And our first dance was one of the best and most romantic parts of the wedding.

 

[jstarfireb]

Reposted from the original thread:

I wouldn''t consider anything from my wedding an abject failure (maybe I''m a Pollyanna, but I wouldn''t!). But a few things went wrong that probably could have been avoided...

Loved:

-The food was fabulous, and the cake was not only beautiful but delicious! Nothing worse than a beautiful but dry and unsatisfying wedding cake.

-Bridesmaid dresses looked great

-Dad, MOH, and BM gave great toasts

-Bouquets were really unique

-It didn''t rain!!! It rained the whole week before and much of the week after, but not on my wedding day!

-FI''s cute nervousness during the vows. He couldn''t remember them, so he wrote them down, and when he was taking out the paper, he blurted out "I need Cliff''s Notes!" He was visibly shaking...it was just adorable.

-Photographer did a great job for a very reasonable rate, and we got a 2nd photog for free because he was a trainee!

-Couldn''t be happier with the DJ, and they also took pictures and put together a great DVD slideshow.


Disliked:

-Letting my mom, FI, and MOH push me into changing my dress from one that was completely "me" to one that was a lot more "them." It worked out fine in the end with a simple alteration, but it was tainted to me.

-The venue didn''t tell me about something that happened EVERY Mother''s Day (=my wedding date) in the area: the Mother''s Day Truck Convoy, where all the truckers start honking their horns as they drive from one city to another, and somehow this raises money for Make A Wish. Good cause, but I really wish someone had told me not to schedule an outdoor wedding for that day. Luckily, they started after the ceremony...but it could have been a disaster!

-It rained up to the day before the wedding, and although the weather was beautiful during the wedding itself, there were major heel sinking issues!

-I couldn''t afford the urban museum venue I really loved and had to get married in my hometown, a rural setting. The upshot was that by coming home to get married, my parents then offered to pay for most of the wedding (they wouldn''t pay if it was in any other city). I''m saving the museum for a vow renewal once I have more money!

-Wireless microphones + wind = fail. I wish there would have been a better way to amplify our voices for the ceremony!

-We can''t dance...at all. Even if we would have had the time to take lessons, it wouldn''t have helped. There''s really no hope for us. So the formal dances were pretty awkward. I would have done without them, but the parents insisted.

-My skin was perfectly clear until the week before the wedding, when I made the unwise decision to get a facial from a new esthetician. She used some sort of pig placenta product that gave me two huge, painful, cystic pimples on my chin. Luckily they were on their way down by the wedding date and concealed easily.

-Honeymoon was fabulous, but the new husband actually behaved pretty poorly regarding some hotel issues and ended up arguing with me quite a bit. Nothing worse than fighting during your honeymoon.

 

[MakingTheGrade]

Just got married 8/1/09.

Loved:
-The relaxed rehearsal dinner with my friends and family.
-For the receptionI had the caterer put two extra seats at each table, and loved table hopping with the fiance throughout our long 9 course dinner to spend some time chatting with all our guests.
-Glad I had the reception in a restaurant, they had a fully stocked bar and the food and service were fantastic! -Having karaoke, it was a blast, and almost everyone sang (mostly in groups). And the DJ was great at balancing the singing and dancing and keeping everything flowing.
-I also got tons of compliments on how good the cake was, and what a fun reception it was. The reception was from 5-11pm, but we were having so much fun, that the younger crowd grabbed some of the left overs, got some drinks, and kept the party going back at the hotel until 3 am!

I also loved that I sprang the reception set up on my dad last minute, but he totally pulled through for me and it all looked amazing. He also gave a great speech.

Hated:
Nothing really. Though we had 2 casualties to the open bar, none of the guests really noticed and it wasn't disruptive. My BIL was cut off by the bartender, and one of my classmates spent the night by a bathroom. Also, we had a ton of food left, but the restaurant put it in take out containers, and most of it got taken home.

I also wasn't a huge fan of posed photos, but it was a necessary evil.

Oh and my hair stylist was not the best, good thing I'm not really a hair person. She gave me bangs, which I didn't want, oh well.

 

[espressa]

Ok, so I admit I haven''t read all of the responses or the other thread...

My loves/regrets might be a bit different because they also include our honeymoon a bit since we got married in Italy and everything sort of meshed together...

I regret...
- not going to a doctor in France on our honeymoon when I had bronchitis. I didn''t know that health care was free in France and I was worried about the cost, so I waited until we got home and I was very sick for quite a while. Taking a month off of work for your wedding and honeymoon only to take more days off for bronchitis and pneumonia really sucks.
- that I didn''t stand up to the people in the castle we rented when they bitched about little things that weren''t perfect. We were in a freakin'' castle, and they weren''t paying for it anyway (excluding my in-laws, who generously paid for the rental for the week). I mean, come on, you get a free week of logding in Italy in a CASTLE and you complain because not everything is perfect?

- that I didn''t have the photographer take more formal shots. I don''t have a single formal shot with my sister (maid of honor) or with my husband and his best friend (best man). I didn''t want to waste time with formal shots and I really regretted it. We got a ton of beautiful pro pics but I really wish I had more formal ones.
- that I didn''t plan things out more and forgot to tip our photographer and my hair dresser. It''s terrible that I didn''t but everything seemed so rushed and being in a foreign country was very difficult for these things. I''m not sure if my mother-in-law ended up tipping them (I know she tipped some people) and I''m too embarrassed to ask...
- not insisting on more of a rehearsal or explanation of what the wedding ceremony would be like. We went into it blind and it did turn out beautiful but it was very stressful not knowing what to do at the time.
- not insisting that everyone in the castle bring an alarm clock to Italy. My sister (maid of honor) overslept and ended up rushing to get ready, setting me behind, and everyone else was ready for the wedding before I was. I had to run around the castle screaming to find people to help me get ready, because everyone forgot about me.

My mom, dad and step-dad ended up helping me get dressed. We got great pictures out of it but it wasn''t how I envisioned the day going...
- my husband ended our reception dinner without me, because I was getting the corset on my dress loosened at the time. I spent 3 weeks in Italy and never got to have grappa or limoncella, which pissed me off. We had like 10 courses at our wedding I missed the entire last one. That ended up being our first "married" fight, during the reception, because I couldn''t believe he would wrap up the dinner without me.
- I''ve been ill nearly the entire time that I''ve been back from Europe (approaching 10 months now) and I still haven''t gotten out my thank you notes. I''m not sure if I''m even going to bother anymore, I''m so ashamed about the whole thing. There was the bronchitis and pneumonia, then the pinched nerve and sciatica in my back, then the mystery illness that has me constantly fatigued and unable to do much more than go to work (when I can make it in), and I''m about ready to give up. None of the doctors know what''s wrong with me and I''m beginning to think it really is all in my head...

Sorry for the pity party, I''ll try to post about some of things I loved about my wedding tomorrow. If I don''t just hit submit now this will be another one of the hundred posts that I write but never bother submitting on pricescope. I''ve been lurking for months but never bothered to post pictures or anything else, and now I''ve gained a bunch of weight because I have no energy and everything just seems useless...

 

[Sharon101]

Date: 8/19/2009 12:16:13 AM
Author: espressa
Ok, so I admit I haven''t read all of the responses or the other thread...


My loves/regrets might be a bit different because they also include our honeymoon a bit since we got married in Italy and everything sort of meshed together...


I regret...

- not going to a doctor in France on our honeymoon when I had bronchitis. I didn''t know that health care was free in France and I was worried about the cost, so I waited until we got home and I was very sick for quite a while. Taking a month off of work for your wedding and honeymoon only to take more days off for bronchitis and pneumonia really sucks.





- I''ve been ill nearly the entire time that I''ve been back from Europe (approaching 10 months now) and I still haven''t gotten out my thank you notes. I''m not sure if I''m even going to bother anymore, I''m so ashamed about the whole thing. There was the bronchitis and pneumonia, then the pinched nerve and sciatica in my back, then the mystery illness that has me constantly fatigued and unable to do much more than go to work (when I can make it in), and I''m about ready to give up. None of the doctors know what''s wrong with me and I''m beginning to think it really is all in my head...


Sorry for the pity party, I''ll try to post about some of things I loved about my wedding tomorrow. If I don''t just hit submit now this will be another one of the hundred posts that I write but never bother submitting on pricescope. I''ve been lurking for months but never bothered to post pictures or anything else, and now I''ve gained a bunch of weight because I have no energy and everything just seems useless...

Oh you poor thing, it really sounds like one thing after another. I just want to say that its my experience from friends and family that you can take at least a year to get over pneumonia. ie extreem fatigue. What you are experiencing is completely normal. One of my friends is an orthopedic surgeon (and really fit), and when he got pneumonia it took him over a year to completely recover and work full time.

Good luck with looking after yourself.

 

[musincy]

I waited to respond to this thread for a little while because I thought maybe if I gave it some time, I''d remember things that weren''t so great about my wedding. But to be honest, the more I think about my wedding, the more I love it. That''s a good thing

I was so calm the whole day (somehow), and I was able to really enjoy everything. We ended up having 80 guests, which was perfect. It felt small, but my closest family/friends were all there. I was so happy to be able to talk to everyone at the reception. The little bit of food I was able to eat was delicious, the DJ did an amazing job, and my photographer was sooooo great. I''ve already recommended him to other people. Even the weather was even spring-like, which is unheard of in July!

The only thing I was upset about was the fact that I talked to people so much that I never got any cake! The leftovers were still good the next day though!

 

[cammy85]

Honestly, I can't think of anything bad that happened on our wedding day. We had a couple of snafus, but nothing we couldn't laugh off or have a good story from later. It did rain, but it didn't hamper our plans, and our photographer even photoshopped raindrops out of our pictures before he gave them to us Also our ride to the hotel after the wedding never showed, so one of our friends had to drive us! That was such a crowded ride - compact car with all of my dress in it!

What was a hit?
Our favors - we made our favors before the wedding as a little *nod* to our nerdy side. Took forever, but so worth it. People are still talking about them.


Our programs. We may have had a typo making my dad also my grandfather (darn jr vs sr...) but people really liked the personalization of them.

the reception in general - we are still hearing that our wedding was the best wedding some of our guests have been to. no one has had one negative reaction to it. I had a ball and hope our guests did as well. Our dj did a fantastic job and only played one song that inadvertently cleared the dance floor. The song was quickly changed and people were out dancing the entire rest of the night!

shoes - i chose to do colored shoes, and did a much brighter color than anyone was expecting, but once the whole ensemble was together, everyone saw that it just worked.


I know there is a big debate over whether you should feel your most beautiful ever or whether your wedding day is the best day of your life but, honestly, for me, I have never felt more beautiful. I think it may have been the bridal glow or something, but the happiness and joy i felt that day was reflected in every single picture and every single memory I have of our wedding.

ETA musincy - i read your thing abotu the cake - i had two bites of mine, left to talk to someone for a second, came back and it was GONE! we think the best man ate my piece! The nerve! haha

at least the two bites i had were tasty!

 

[espressa]

Thanks for the kind words, Sharon.

You''re right, it could be that it''s just taking my body a while to get over the pneumonia. I''m starting to feel a little bit better, but it''s slow going...

Anyway, contrary to my previous gloomy post, the vast majority of things at the wedding went much better than I could have hoped for! The cake turned out even more beautiful than I imagined, the food was to die for (and there was tons of it!), our photos were great (aside from the missing formal shots), and so on.

The welcome baskets that we left in our guest''s rooms were a big hit, especially since the grocery store was closed by the time most people got to the castle or their villas, so the water, snacks and wine were put to good use.

There were some bumpy times with our families being together for an entire week, but overall everyone got along very well and it was great for our families to get to know each other so well. I still fondly remember our grandmothers in the kitchen cooking dinner together, the night we went through 15 bottles of wine, everybody being blown away by the view from the roof of the castle, and my father-in-law coming back from Florence with a Swarovski tiara for me to wear on our wedding today.

And lastly, I will never forget, 2 nights before the wedding, coming back from our friends'' villa to find my father out on the castle porch, drinking vodka straight, wondering where "his baby" was and laughing that he never before worried where I was at night, but here we were thousands of miles from home and he was waiting up for me to get back. The conversation that followed with him telling me how proud he was of me, how happy he was for my husband and I, and telling me to say "F... them" to all of the people who had complaints about the castle or other things during the week, how they didn''t matter, everyone was having a great time, and as long as I was happy everything had gone just perfectly. That was probably the best conversation I''ve ever had with my father, and given our previous rocky relationship, meant more to me that any of the things that went wrong that week.

There were many more high points, but those were the first things that came to mind...

 

[Kim N]

High points:
Hair, makeup, dress, FLOWERS, music, ceremony, walking down the aisle, perfect WEATHER, hors d''oeuvres, the photos, how the car was decorated.

Low points:
Didn''t feel well in the morning, a few wardrobe problems, forgot my jewelry for the formal photos.

Overall, it was a wonderful day.

 

[canada_ham]

hi newsboysgrl777

you''re not the only one. there were a lot of great things about my wedding but there were quite a few things that disappointed me. kinda nice to know i''m not alone

the low points don''t bother me as much as they used to. i think in time i will forget about them and just focus on the high points

i hope in time, you can also forget about things that disappointed you and just remember the things you loved.

high points:
- the flowers, decor and ceremony location
- my hair, makeup and dress
- the photographer: some photos turned out beautifully
- the ceremony was perfect, my pastor did a great job

low points:
- the photographer: unfortunately, she did a terrible job on the photos taken with our families
- the cake tasted great but looked TERRIBLE. it looked NOTHING like i had asked for

- reception location: the tent was an eyesore and the "dance floor" was terrible. i was afraid i was going to trip on it during my first dance
- the caterer did not do a very good job and did not follow my instructions

 

[emeraldlover1]

I so embarassed that I have to write the bad things. Oh well, I spent the entire honeymoon trying to focus on the great parts but the bad parts are totally on me. Let me explain.

I hadn''t slept in days I was so stressed out. Our rehersal was very on edge because my mother was all over the place hounding me about everything. It was so hard to deal with. Anyway, by the time we got to the rehersal dinner she had calmed down a bit but I was fealing a little under the weather and it was cold. Overall that turned out ok and I didn''t drink very much at all because I knew I had to get up really early. I only slept for a few hours and was so excited when my hair dresser showed up early at 5:45am. The rest of the wedding day went as planned however by the time 9pm rolled around and we cut the cake I was so tired. Couple that with a couple of drinks, I went up to our suite to go to the bathroom and decided to lay down for a nap. WHAT?? Who does that? Anway, 20 minutes later my husband found me curled up in my dress totatlly sound asleep in our suite. I don''t remember him trying to wake me up but he was so mad!! I seriously did not drink that much but when I haven''t slept a lot people can wake me up and I will have a whole conversation asleep and not remember it the next day. Anyway, I missed the last hour of our reception and our after party. Since the main part of our day was over no one really noticed until I wasn''t at the after party. The most dissapointing of that is that I missed the last hour with my husband and he went to the after party by himself. I woke up at 5:30 am in my dress and couldn''t believe I didn''t wake back up. I was mad at him for not waking me!! I cried the first 4 days of our honeymoon and DH was beside himself trying to console me. We planned this amazing day but never planned for what the lack of sleep would do to me.

Secondly, we thought we would be done taking pictures by coctail hour so that we could talk to all of our guests then. When things didn''t go exactly as planned it didn''t leave us enough time to talk to everyone. After our dinner we wound up talking to our tables individually so that we could get to everyone. If we could do it again I''d make sure that we had a back up plan to talk to everyone. Since I went to be early, I was terrified that people would think I was a bad host especially since I didnt'' say good bye.

Everything else was perfect! All the details I planned came together better than I could have ever expected.

As you can tell I''m still dealing with the fact that I missed some of our day.

 

[noelwr]

high points
that we didn't have to memorize anything. the officiant prompted us to speak and the venue coordinators just let us know whenever we had to do something.

low points
1. that my mom caught her heel in between the wooden slats on the deck and at the end of the night was in so much pain that she had to go to the hospital. she thought she had ruined my wedding! of course she didn't because she didn't even complain until the last hour.
2. We asked DJ to please get everyone onto the floor before we started the first dance but he kind of just went into it so we were stuck dancing on our own for a few minutes with everyone looking at us which is not what we wanted.
3. the cake. it was beautiful on the outside and my MIL arranged having it made, but the people just didn't listen and it was quite dry inside and they put marsipan in it - EW!
4. 2 guys dived into the swimming pool. it was shallow so it could have been quite dangerous. I just ignored them.

what went well
the whole day just moved along smoothly. apparently people are still calling up our in-laws telling them how great a wedding it was.

what do you wish you could do-over
walking down the aisle. my brother gave me away and I kept telling him over and over again to walk as slow as possible. of course he did this, but I totally forgot and was rushing to the alter dragging the poor guy along! totally my fault. at least I can laugh about it now.

what was a total failure
nothing! yay!

what still brings a light to your eye when you remember it?
DH's speech saying how the more he gets to know me the more he gets to love me.

also that there was a rumor going around that I bought a seat on the plane just for my dress.

yes, I felt really beautiful because I chose out a dress that I loved and I used a fake ponytail to give my hair volume and length. also the photographer did an excellent job and made my look even better than I look in real life, but who's complaining?

 

[Diva0413]

Good thread.

High points?
1. Seeing everybody get up and dance during the reception. I was so nervous that no one would like the music.
2. Hearing that my wedding was the best people have been to.

Low points?
1. The biggest thing was that my dress was too big on top. I lost wedding-stress-related weight the week of the wedding so I spent most of the night praying my boobs wouldn''t fall out.
2. Ruined my beautiful Christian Louboutins by walking through the grass and dirt for the ceremony and cocktail hour. They''re covered in dried mud.

3. I also felt a little sad once it was over. A little aimless because there was nothing left to plan for. Ripped my dress on the bottom while trying to walk up the stairs after the ceremony.
4. ***EXTRA*** Not really a low point, but just a weird one. The best man stating during his speech/toast that he wishes he could clone me because of my attractive look. Boy, that certainly created an awkward moment.

What went well? Overall, everything went well from what I could tell. Very few mishaps.

Do-overs?
1. I should''ve made a must-shoot list for the photographer. While he did a great job, I had some things I wanted to see photographed that was missed.
2. The bakery spelled "aisle" incorrectly on the groom''s cake.
3. The weather was beautiful and very sunny. Unfortunately, it was a bit too bright outside so I have lots of pictures of me squinting during the ceremony.

What was a total failure? My wedding band. I took it to the jeweler 2 weeks before the wedding. For whatever reason, they couldn''t get the sizing right so I ended up using a plastic ring while exchanging my vows.

What still brings a light to your eye when you remember it? Seeing DH''s face for the first time while walking down the aisle.