Wedding Weird feeling regarding RSVP regrets. Anyone else?

[Gypsy]

We''ve been getting our RSVPs in and (even though they are all late at this point, and half of them are still missing) I have this bitter sweet feeling about them. A few people I was really hoping would be able to make it can''t... oddly enough because all of them are expecting Fall babies (8 to 9 month preggers and due around our date) and would have to fly in, and then others who I really couldn''t care less if they attended have accepted and well... it''s just weird. I totally understand people not coming but... I''m gonna miss them.

I wasn''t going to do announcements. But because of the individuals who have sent their regrets being ones I care about, and wanted to share the day with... I''m thinking I might send some photo announcements out. Or something.

Anyone got any ideas how to include these people who can''t come (other than sending them a heartfelt thank you for their gifts and expressing to them that we''ll miss them)? We aren''t doing a videographer, so there isn''t going to be like a trailer or anything I can send out.

And is it weird that I want to send them something?

 

[zoebartlett]

The first things I thought of were giving them a DVD of your wedding or a few framed pics from the big day. If you''re not super close to some of them, I''d say that a photo announcement would be just fine.

 

[ladyciel]

Gypsy, there must have been something in the water, because we have THREE couples who can''t come (two of them my cousins on my mom''s side, the third good friends of FI) due to traveling at 8-8.5 months preggo. My two cousins are due 1 day apart, 2 weeks after our wedding. I hadn''t really thought of sending them something other than a really nice thank you, but maybe a cd of photos?

 

[newbie124]

Hi Gypsy,

Unfortunately, I don't really have any great ideas for you, although I do think it's nice that you want to send them something (photo announcement seems like a good idea).

I mainly just wanted to send you my sympathies

This is what I'm kind of worried about, too, for our wedding. We have a very tight guest list (invited 83 and are hoping we get no more than 70 and no less than 65...it's a tiny window, I know), and a good portion is made up of FI's aunts/uncles who he isn't really even close to, but we had to at least invite them (though we did get out of inviting all but one of his 50 million cousins). While I hope some of his relatives are able to attend, it would definitely make things easier on if there were a few no shows (I hope I don't get bad wedding karma for saying that!)....His mom doesn't *think* most if any will come, but you never know...

So far it sounds like most of our friends are planning to come (luckily few are married or at the baby-making stage at this point), so I have my fingers crossed.

Hope the rest of your RSVPs are closer to what you were hoping for!

 

[CrookedRock]

Aww... that is a bummer. I feel that way even with weekend plans LOL!
Maybe you could send the picture CD along with whatever favor they would have recieved had then been able to attend, and of course the note thanking them for the gift and expressing how much you missed them that day.

 

[gtn]

Gypsy, I compile a photo slide show and either post it online or send them a cd/dvd. You could put a picture of you and John on the cd/dvd. If you have a lightscribe burner, it could look really cool and best yet, it''s pretty cheap to do. You could send the disk along with the thank you card.

 

[basil]

We don''t have all our replies in, but I''m sort of experiencing the same thing (minus the pregnancies). The people who I hang out most with currently (coworkers who live where I do, far away from the wedding) can''t make it. I knew it would happen - none of us make that much money so a weekend away is kind of a big deal, but I''m still a little disappointed

My plan is to spam the whole department with wedding photos once they come in I think a CD of photos is a really nice idea though. I know I would love to see the photos of the wedding of a friend of mine who just got married where I was unable to attend her wedding.

 

[violet02]

I feel the same way Gypsy... I''m sad about some of the folks that can''t make it. It''s been even harder on my FI because most of his friends and family are east coast or Colordao and half of his guests can''t come! Out of our current 80 count he only has 22 people coming. We moved to the B list once he started losing people.

I''m going to be doing wedding anouncements as well. I was going to use a photo from our engagement photo shoot for them. I was also going to send a wedding photo/post card thanking everyone after the wedding... (This is separate from our other normal fold over thank you cards - no photo). I like the slide show idea as well that''s cool. We are actually having a videographer but I didn''t think that everyone would want to watch our dvd... but they might actually so that might be cool to share with people.

 

[miraclesrule]

I''m sorry some of your close friends won''t be able to make it to your wedding. That bites.

Even though you aren''t having a videographer, you can have the photographer put together a slide show that you can send to them. Sort of like Courtneylub''s who had an amazing one. Or you could go with a cheap and easy DIY slideshow.

I don''t really think you need to do anything more for them. A thank you card for the gift is a good time to let them know how much their presence was missed by you.

And hon, you''re always wierd.

 

[Gypsy]

Okay yeah. I''m always weird. Admittedly.

I love the slideshow idea A LOT. I can burn CD''s and send them out!! What a fabo idea!!! YAY!!!

Glad to see I''m not the only one to feel this way. ((GROUP HUG))

 

[Italiahaircolor]

What if you wanted to...you could make a poster, or some sort of sign that said "We missed you much!" and at some point slip away from the reception with you new DH and have the photographer take your picture holding the sign. You could have it transformed into beautiful cards that you could write a heartfelt message on about how you missed them, but thought of them often.

That way you have accomplished your goal of touching base with them on the big day...given a photo...and have a great thank you note!!

 

[Gypsy]

Hi Italia, that is a really cute idea! Thank you!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Date: 8/13/2008 8:34:35 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor
What if you wanted to...you could make a poster, or some sort of sign that said ''We missed you much!'' and at some point slip away from the reception with you new DH and have the photographer take your picture holding the sign. You could have it transformed into beautiful cards that you could write a heartfelt message on about how you missed them, but thought of them often.

That way you have accomplished your goal of touching base with them on the big day...given a photo...and have a great thank you note!!

Love this idea...amazing.

 

[miraclesrule]

Italia...You go girl....Great Idea!!

 

[meresal]

I got this idea from Say Yes to the Dress, and we are thinking about using it for C''s grandparents who are house stricken...

What about setting up a live feed to a website? They could huddle around their computers at home at the exact time, and they can watch along as if they were sitting right there.

 

[CrownJewel]

I love Italia''s idea too. You can do a blog of the day''s events. Have your photographer document you getting ready, and each step of the wedding ceremony and reception. If I were one of your preggo friends who cannot go to your wedding, I would be so happy seeing photos of you on your big day.

You could also send over your wedding favors to each MIA guest, with a "we missed you" card or photo. Or wedding favor + welcome new baby gift. I think it''s wonderful of you to feel a desire to send a gift to those who can''t go to your wedding. I would feel the same way.

 

[LaraOnline]

I think it's LOVELY that you want to send them a photo, a pressed flower, something simple in their thank you card....
if you are missing them, it's likely that they also are missing you, and regret not being there for you. A photo is easy, and they are likely to really enjoy it.

It'll bring you closer together for next time!

ETA: Oooh, a slide show! I LOVE it!!!!