Wedding Wearing ering during ceremony - silly question

[honey22]

Yet another silly question from Honey - yet this keeps bugging me!

I have big knuckle skinny finger syndrome, so my ering is loose on my finger and slips around but is very tight over my knuckles. If it''s warm or first thing in the morning, I can barely get it off without a struggle but I don''t want to resize it as it will be overly loose in the afternoons. It doens''t even look tight, it''s just getting it over the knuckle. Anway, point is I am not resizing it.

Anyhoo, I am stressing about my wedding ceremony - heah I know I am a dag, it''s 12 months away, but I am getting married in the tropics where I am going to be warm flustered etc, and I worry about getting my ering off and on again, and it doesn''t fit on any other finger.

Question is, can I still wear my ering on my left hand ring finger and have FI put the wedding band on behind it? Then I can swap it after the ceremony where if I need, I will have access to a bucket of ice?

Is this a total no-no? I really want to be physically wearing my ering during the ceremony, but I don''t want to have a struggle at the alter so to speak to get it off for the wband?

I don''t even know why I am stressing this much about it?!?!

 

[doodle]

it won''t fit on the ring finger of your right hand? i don''t think there''s anything wrong with wearing them backwards for a little while if you must. you could also have your engagement ring in your bouquet so that it''s still on you but you can slip it on after the wedding band. good luck!

 

[marchswallowbird]

Honey, it''s not a silly question, I have the same big-knuckle syndrome and have been wondering the same thing! I don''t see anything wrong with slipping the wedding ring on at the ceremony and wearing them "backwards" for a while. That''s what I''m planning to do. Where is it written that life will end if you don''t do everything exactly "perfectly"? Who thought up all these rules, anyway?

 

[Octavia]

I think it''s fine to wear your rings "backward" if that''s what you want to do! If you just want to have the ring on you, but don''t necessarily need to be wearing it on a finger, you could consider hiding it somewhere on your body -- tying it to a garter or your bra, wearing it on a necklace, or in your bouquet like doodle suggested. Don''t stress too much about it, there are so many options, I''m sure that you''ll come up with one that works for you!

 

[bee*]

I think it''s fine to have them backwards for a little while. I''m going to put my e-ring on my right hand during the ceremony and then put it back in it''s normal spot after it.

 

[honey22]

Thanks ladies! I guess I just needed some PS reassurance

. For some reason, it doesn''t fit on my right hand ring finger either. It was just meant for my left ring finger

That''s a nice idea about the bouquet, but I would probably be terrified that I would lose it. I think I am just gonna wear it, and you right - there is nothing wrong with wearing it backwards, it''s not like I have defaulted on my marriage and have to give it back for doing that right.

Thanks again, I appreciate it!

 

[brandy_z28]

Don''t feel bad about asking that question, I didn''t realize that there was a "backwards" way to wear your wedding set...much less what to do with it during the ceremony. LOL

 

[ladyciel]

Honey, I''m wearing mine on my left finger during the ceremony. I too have the big knuckle syndrome, but that wasn''t the motivating factor. FI actually requested that I be wearing it when I asked if he had an opinion on what to do with it. It''s important to him that they''re both there during the ceremony, and I''m not going to argue with him. Really, why complicate things?

Another option: our best man just got married, and his wife wanted all 3 rings to be blessed by the priest. So, FI (he was their best man) held onto her e-ring as well as the two wedding bands, all three rings were blessed, and the groom put her e-ring and band on her finger together in one motion.

 

[pjean]

For those of you with big knuckle syndrome, may I suggest a horseshoe sizer? Mine makes wearing a ring SO much easier.

My actual ering is sized about 1/4 size larger than I would have gotten it otherwise to have room for the sizer to fit over my knuckle. But I was able to get a size that fits comfortably over my knuckle even when it''s swollen, but not spin around like crazy when it''s loose on my finger.

It doesn''t show when I''m wearing the ring unless you look closely, and then you can see that the ring doesn''t sit flush against my finger. But it also doesn''t get stuck, hurt to take off, or move when I shake my hand.

 

[geckodani]

I had mine on my right hand and looking back wish I''d had it on my left and worn them backwards! It would have been nice to see it in the photos of DH putting my wedding band on.

You could also have your FI put BOTH rings on you at the ceremony. I have friends that have done that.

 

[Izzy03]

Date: 9/4/2008 12:04:02 AM
Author:honey22
Yet another silly question from Honey - yet this keeps bugging me!


I have big knuckle skinny finger syndrome, so my ering is loose on my finger and slips around but is very tight over my knuckles. If it's warm or first thing in the morning, I can barely get it off without a struggle but I don't want to resize it as it will be overly loose in the afternoons. It doens't even look tight, it's just getting it over the knuckle. Anway, point is I am not resizing it.


Anyhoo, I am stressing about my wedding ceremony - heah I know I am a dag, it's 12 months away, but I am getting married in the tropics where I am going to be warm flustered etc, and I worry about getting my ering off and on again, and it doesn't fit on any other finger.


Question is, can I still wear my ering on my left hand ring finger and have FI put the wedding band on behind it? Then I can swap it after the ceremony where if I need, I will have access to a bucket of ice?

Is this a total no-no? I really want to be physically wearing my ering during the ceremony, but I don't want to have a struggle at the alter so to speak to get it off for the wband?


I don't even know why I am stressing this much about it?!?!

ME TOO!

My e-ring also won't fit any other finger, and I originally planned on wearing it on my right hand until after the ceremony. Because I really want my left finger to be bare for the ceremony, I am going to pin my e-ring inside my dress (almost as if I was stashing it in my bra, but I won't be wearing a bra so I am going to pin it to the bust portion inside the dress.) Two of my cousins who were recently married wore their e-ring on their left hands, had their hubbys' place the band on top of the e-ring, and that is how they wear their rings every day (this actually bothers me whenever I see their rings). I think you should just have him place the ring on top of your e-ring and switch them out after the ceremony.

If you are crazy, then I am crazy, because I was stressing over the same thing until my aunt told me to pin it inside the dress!

 

[honey22]

Yay for other crazy PSers who worry about little tichy things like this - it's nice to know I am not alone here ! thanks girls

Gekodani - you make a good point, I would want to see it in the pics too - it photographs very nicely, so I am going to wear it on my left hand and have hubby/DF whatever he is at that stage officially put it on behind it, and if people don't like it then too bad

 

[Dandi]

I was a bit different and got my Maid of Honour to wear my Ering for me during the ceremony, so DH put my wedding ring on a nakey left ring finger

Then when we signed the marriage papers she handed it back to me and I popped in onto my finger over my wedding ring so they were in the proper order. There was just no way my Ering was gonna fit my right hand!!

 

[honey22]

Date: 9/5/2008 8:08:05 AM
Author: DandiAndi
I was a bit different and got my Maid of Honour to wear my Ering for me during the ceremony, so DH put my wedding ring on a nakey left ring finger

Then when we signed the marriage papers she handed it back to me and I popped in onto my finger over my wedding ring so they were in the proper order. There was just no way my Ering was gonna fit my right hand!!

DandiAndi, that''s a good idea too, however I have smaller fingers than both my bridesmaids so that won''t work. Considering the size of my backside, I have pretty thin fingers - who would have thought

 

[HollyS]

I left my e-ring on, and hubby slipped the w-band on right behind it. I switched them before we took pictures.

I can''t put my e-ring on my right hand, and I wasn''t not going to wear it.

 

[iheartscience]

I''m planning on wearing my e-ring like normal and then switching the rings around after the ceremony. I want to wear my e-ring! Plus I have a 5 stone diamond ring of my grandmother''s that I want to wear on my right hand.