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My in-laws are staying with us this weekend and I'm trying very hard to keep smiling but I'm having a hard time. Maybe I'll feel better if I vent because venting in real life is not the answer.
The in-laws are staying at our house in order to attend a birthday party for our nephews (their grandchildren.) Nothing wrong with any of that. Except - I have a dog and my FIL is allergic to dogs. I had the dog long before I even met my DH (their son) so this is not new information to anyone. So I get the stink eye every time I let the dog in the house. If I were allergic to dogs, I wouldn't stay with someone who has a dog but maybe that's just me. Also, I just had surgery a couple of months ago and I'm not up to full-on house cleaning yet. And my DH herniated a disc in his back so he's not up to full-on house cleaning either. Our house isn't dirty but it's not MIL clean either. DH is a clutterer and I'm pretty good at just looking the other way but his mother is a neat freak so I feel judged.
I think I'm still mad about the last time they came for a visit. They drove so they could arrive any time they wanted. They could even kill time if needed when they arrived. But what happened when they arrived is that I was still at work. So instead of calling their son and asking him leave work to let them in our house or maybe killing time at the mall or something, they called and texted me (several times) so I could leave work and let them in. I called and texted DH to see if he could leave work but didn't get an answer until I was already home. Another solution would have been for them to go to their daughter's house (who lives a couple of miles from me and is hosting the birthday party) until work was over. But no. I had to leave work and I'm still aggravated. I have anger issues about this and I don't understand why.
I suggested that it might be best if they stayed in a hotel this time to DH and that was not well received. We could even offer to pay for the hotel even though they are here to attend a birthday party that is hosted by their daughter (who did not consult with us regarding our plans for labor day weekend - even though she knew it would require us to stay home.)
I feel petty and mean and cranky about the whole thing and I really do like my in-laws. I just like them better when they are not in MY guest room.
The in-laws are staying at our house in order to attend a birthday party for our nephews (their grandchildren.) Nothing wrong with any of that. Except - I have a dog and my FIL is allergic to dogs. I had the dog long before I even met my DH (their son) so this is not new information to anyone. So I get the stink eye every time I let the dog in the house. If I were allergic to dogs, I wouldn't stay with someone who has a dog but maybe that's just me. Also, I just had surgery a couple of months ago and I'm not up to full-on house cleaning yet. And my DH herniated a disc in his back so he's not up to full-on house cleaning either. Our house isn't dirty but it's not MIL clean either. DH is a clutterer and I'm pretty good at just looking the other way but his mother is a neat freak so I feel judged.
I think I'm still mad about the last time they came for a visit. They drove so they could arrive any time they wanted. They could even kill time if needed when they arrived. But what happened when they arrived is that I was still at work. So instead of calling their son and asking him leave work to let them in our house or maybe killing time at the mall or something, they called and texted me (several times) so I could leave work and let them in. I called and texted DH to see if he could leave work but didn't get an answer until I was already home. Another solution would have been for them to go to their daughter's house (who lives a couple of miles from me and is hosting the birthday party) until work was over. But no. I had to leave work and I'm still aggravated. I have anger issues about this and I don't understand why.
I suggested that it might be best if they stayed in a hotel this time to DH and that was not well received. We could even offer to pay for the hotel even though they are here to attend a birthday party that is hosted by their daughter (who did not consult with us regarding our plans for labor day weekend - even though she knew it would require us to stay home.)
I feel petty and mean and cranky about the whole thing and I really do like my in-laws. I just like them better when they are not in MY guest room.