AmberGretchen
Ideal_Rock
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OK, so I know that this really won''t seem like a big deal in 6 months, and that its not the end of the world, but I just needed to get it out.
I''ve been working my tail off in a PhD program for almost 5 years. I''m now about 5 weeks away from filing my dissertation and being completely done. My advisor and my thesis committee have signed off on my graduation, and I was supposed to spend these final weeks just tying up loose ends, cleaning up my stuff around the lab, and writing my dissertation. When my advisor signed off that I was done with my lab work I practically threw a party - I''ve hate lab work with a passion the whole time I''ve been in grad school, and I really don''t like being physically at my lab - its in a very unsafe area, and you have to park far away and walk there (we won''t discuss that when I started in the lab he promised me parking nearby the entire time I was there and then went back on his promise when it was too late for me to switch labs
), plus, all the friends/mentors I had in lab have left, and I''m not close with anyone there - I''ve made overtures, which have by and large been rebuffed (and I''m a pretty friendly person, in general, as those who''ve met me at PS GTGs can attest).
However, instead of being done like he said I was, because of a misunderstanding on HIS part (I was crystal clear - he acknowledges that I told him what I had done), he realizes he wants a few more data points for a paper I was supposed to be a co-first-author on. And guess who he wants to do those experiments, even though I told him I don''t think there''s enough time before I leave? That''s right, me.
I don''t see any way to get out of it either, because he still has to sign my dissertation in order for me to graduate. I offered to show someone else in the lab how to do the experiments, but he would think that wasn''t "fair" even though I offered to give up my first authorship on the paper to do that so that I wouldn''t have to try to cram in a ton of extra work when I''m supposed to be finishing up and getting out of there.
And there''s really no wiggle room on my graduation date, as I have a firm, set in stone, start date with the company I''ll be working for, and we are moving out of state and I need a little bit of time to pack and get my life in order. I''ve told him this too, repeatedly, and I''m still not sure its sunk in.
I''m sorry this has gotten so long, its just a horrible feeling of powerlessness and helplessness, and I''m so angry that he thinks this is an OK way to treat anyone, let alone a graduate student who has been working so hard and is so close to being done.
I''ve been working my tail off in a PhD program for almost 5 years. I''m now about 5 weeks away from filing my dissertation and being completely done. My advisor and my thesis committee have signed off on my graduation, and I was supposed to spend these final weeks just tying up loose ends, cleaning up my stuff around the lab, and writing my dissertation. When my advisor signed off that I was done with my lab work I practically threw a party - I''ve hate lab work with a passion the whole time I''ve been in grad school, and I really don''t like being physically at my lab - its in a very unsafe area, and you have to park far away and walk there (we won''t discuss that when I started in the lab he promised me parking nearby the entire time I was there and then went back on his promise when it was too late for me to switch labs
However, instead of being done like he said I was, because of a misunderstanding on HIS part (I was crystal clear - he acknowledges that I told him what I had done), he realizes he wants a few more data points for a paper I was supposed to be a co-first-author on. And guess who he wants to do those experiments, even though I told him I don''t think there''s enough time before I leave? That''s right, me.
I don''t see any way to get out of it either, because he still has to sign my dissertation in order for me to graduate. I offered to show someone else in the lab how to do the experiments, but he would think that wasn''t "fair" even though I offered to give up my first authorship on the paper to do that so that I wouldn''t have to try to cram in a ton of extra work when I''m supposed to be finishing up and getting out of there.
And there''s really no wiggle room on my graduation date, as I have a firm, set in stone, start date with the company I''ll be working for, and we are moving out of state and I need a little bit of time to pack and get my life in order. I''ve told him this too, repeatedly, and I''m still not sure its sunk in.
I''m sorry this has gotten so long, its just a horrible feeling of powerlessness and helplessness, and I''m so angry that he thinks this is an OK way to treat anyone, let alone a graduate student who has been working so hard and is so close to being done.
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