Ugh, my husband is going to kill me!

[MichelleCarmen]

For my b-day (which is this coming friday) I asked for a 35-gallon fish tank and dh said I''d only get one if I got rid of two of my other tanks. Well, no-can-do because four of the five tanks have bettas (siamese fighting fish who rip each other to shreds) and unless I put dividers down the middle of two of my tanks to keep the fish from killing each other, the five tanks remain as is (four betta and one guppy/pygmy cory tank). . .

So, just a few hours back, I was in petco and they had all their neglected, sickly looking bettas, and as I sat there feeling sad for them, I came across an active little one who had blown a huge bubble nest at the top of his cup. So sweet.

With the knowledge that under my sink I have kept a 2-gallon fish bowl for about five months and also have an extra heater I did what made perfect sense. . .I bought him. Right now, he''s being slowly acclimated to the water.

What do I do though re: my husband? I''m going to keep the bowl in my bathroom so the fish and I can hang out while I get ready in the morning. (I''d rather have him moved into a 5-gallon tank, but that''s down the road, I guess)

Should I hide the fish and then get my husband REALLY drunk (on Friday when the kids are gone at Grandma''s) and then ask him for another fish and then if I can get him to agree, whip the fish out, "surprise?"

 

[Smurfysmiles]

lol Do you really think he''ll mind that much I used to have a raging betta obsession lol and dh ended up not even being surprised each time I brought home a new fish. Eventually it turned out I wasn''t meant to be a fish owner and got my kitty instead Much easier to cuddle with btw!

 

[Haven]

I would just be honest with him. In my experience, lying is rarely the best option, especially when one''s spouse is involved.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Date: 12/14/2009 5:02:37 PM
Author: Haven
I would just be honest with him. In my experience, lying is rarely the best option, especially when one''s spouse is involved.

And other living creatures

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/14/2009 4:59:53 PM
Author: Smurfyimproved
lol Do you really think he''ll mind that much I used to have a raging betta obsession lol and dh ended up not even being surprised each time I brought home a new fish. Eventually it turned out I wasn''t meant to be a fish owner and got my kitty instead Much easier to cuddle with btw!

hahaha I don''t think he will be suprised. . .he''ll probably be relieved that the only money I shelled out was for the fish. We have two cats and have always decided to keep that amount. They''re great for cuddling with. . .the fish are therapeutic to me. . .watching them swim around relaxes me. Two of them are females and they''re cool because they glide around.

 

[Haven]

Date: 12/14/2009 5:04:50 PM
Author: Smurfyimproved

Date: 12/14/2009 5:02:37 PM
Author: Haven
I would just be honest with him. In my experience, lying is rarely the best option, especially when one''s spouse is involved.

And other living creatures

Good point! You don''t want the little guy to feel unloved when you''re hiding him!

 

[Kaleigh]

Don't lie. If he won't get it for you buy it for yourself..... You are just loving these fish MC, it's been such fun reading about your new passion. If he won't buy it for you, I will!!

And if DancingFire comes here asking for Koi, he's outta luck...

Just tell your husband what you tell us....

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/14/2009 5:02:37 PM
Author: Haven
I would just be honest with him. In my experience, lying is rarely the best option, especially when one''s spouse is involved.

Can you imagine what he would do if he found it hidden on my side of the bed behind my bed-side table? He''d probably have me committed

The fish is adorable. I''ll post some photos of him this week. Right now I still have him in his cup floating in our water. . .that reminds me. . .gotta add a touch of our water to get him use to the different ph, etc.

(I just want to mention, this thread was meant to have humor to it, not to imply I''d truely hid a pet from my husband.)

 

[Haven]

The thought of your husband finding a fish hidden by your bedside is hysterical!
You''ve just inspired me to write!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/14/2009 5:10:02 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Don''t lie. If he won''t get it for you buy it for yourself..... You are just loving these fish MC, it''s been such fun reading about your new passion. If he won''t by it for you, I will!!

Bettas are a blast. So much personality. (FWIW, I bought two baby guppies hoping to breed them and DH was okay with that. The fish were too small to identify gender at that time and now it seems at least one of them has turned out to be male. . .so we have two males - including a larger one I already had - and one mystery guppy. lol)

 

[Kaleigh]

My grandfather had a heart attack when I was little. His friends gave him fish... He didn''t want them so gave them to me. I love all creatures big and small. They were guppies, and man did they multiply like crazy, luckily the local pet store bought them from me, when I had to many.


I bet the Beta''s are full of personality. I had a gold fish I won at a fair, I know, so not good. But that gold fish lived for almost 6 years.

You definitely develop a bond with fish, people don''t get that.

 

[Cehrabehra]

hahaha depends on what else you do while he''s drunk I can think of more promising positions

 

[junebug17]

MC, you love and enjoy these fish so much I don''t think he''ll mind! You already had everything you needed for him, so it doesn''t seem so bad! My daughter came home with a betta several years ago...well, guess who ended up taking care of it...but I loved that fish, he would swim up to greet me when I was by his bowl! I was so depressed when he died. I was actually a little surprised by how upset I was...sorry to ramble, just wanted to make the point that I understand your love for bettas, they are great!

 

[Luckyeshe]

Can''t wait to see new pictures of your new betta! My Sampson just passed away

but I''ll probably go to the store this weekend and see what they have in stock. I miss having him swimming in his bowl...So I can understand your attachment to them.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/14/2009 5:02:37 PM
Author: Haven
I would just be honest with him. In my experience, lying is rarely the best option, especially when one's spouse is involved.

MC...don't listen to these ladies

you must LIE!!....it's the only option.

 

[that_someone_special]

MC I was totally smiling while reading your post... I too, want to buy all sickly looking anythings at petco/ petsmart lol ....

I think you should be honest with him. It''s your birthday and you can buy yourself a fish if you want! I would batt my eyelashes and say, "But honey, YOU GOT A BOAT.. I just wanted this poor little fishy..."

 

[Italiahaircolor]

They''re fish...how much work and stress could another one bring? It''s not like you brought home a great dane puppy!

I would just tell him the truth...what''s the worst that could happen? You''re the primary fish caregiver right? So big deal. You''re the one who added another thing to your plate, not him.

 

[perry]

Ugh, my husband is going to kill me!

MC:

But at least you will die happy!


Life is meant to be enjoyed - and you seem to be doing a good job of it.


Perry

 

[stone-cold11]

hmm... I used to have a tank full of fighting fishes... And they multiplied like mad once they get their position established...

 

[doodle]

Date: 12/14/2009 7:27:46 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor
It''s not like you brought home a great dane puppy!

Ah, my husband''s greatest fear in life. Hey, today''s MY birthday--wonder if I could actually get away with it today...

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/15/2009 6:34:43 AM
Author: Stone-cold11
hmm... I used to have a tank full of fighting fishes... And they multiplied like mad once they get their position established...

Yeah. That is a risky venture. I''m not a fan of forcing bettas into establishing a pecking order after first beating the crap out of each other.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/15/2009 10:51:44 AM
Author: doodle

Date: 12/14/2009 7:27:46 PM
Author: Italiahaircolor
It''s not like you brought home a great dane puppy!

Ah, my husband''s greatest fear in life. Hey, today''s MY birthday--wonder if I could actually get away with it today...

Happy Birthday Doodle!!!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Well: I got home after my Dh as kids had after-school activities and he hadn''t even gone into the upstairs bathroom yet. I told him about the betta and he''s not very happy about it. Now I feel guilty!