Wedding Travel/Tasting Dilemma - WWYD?

[mjso]

Okay, so I''m planning an out of state wedding, back where I grew up. The wedding is May 1, 2009. So here''s the dilemma that I need opinions on.

I was planning on going home the last week of October/first week of November for my Mom''s birthday and to do wedding stuff. I thought it would be cool to fit it all in one trip. So I emailed my reception location to see if they were having any tastings in late October/early Novemeber. I thought I could maybe wiggle the dates a bit if they were slightly off.

Well, they have a tasting planned for October 8th. And the next one won''t be until late January/early February. I need to go home soon to get other things done (florist, DJ, etc) that can''t wait until 3-4 months beforehand. Plus, I was thinking of going home during the week between Christmas and New Years when my company is giving us a free week off. I don''t want to travel too many times before the wedding and I think that Nov, Dec/Jan and Jan/Feb would probably be too much.

Soooo, my options are:

1 - Go home earlier than I wanted to and go to the tasting on Oct. 8th, but miss my mom''s b-day
2 - Go home the same time I was going to, miss the tasting on the 8th, be there for mom''s b-day, not go home for xmas and go home again for the tasting at the end of Jan/early Feb.
3 - Go home the same time i was going to go, miss tasting on the 8th, be there for mom''s b-day, go home for xmas and let my parents and MOH go to the tasting without me or FI.

Sooo, what would you do?

 

[loverocks]

Hhhmm...I am going to reply none of the above? Do they know that you are traveling from out of state? Is there no way at all they can put you in during the time you are traveling? Typically vendors will be more flexible with you if you are in a "destination" type of situation. Is there a reason they are not doing tastings between Nov - Feb, surely they have people planning during that time

 

[Sabine]

I think it''s really hard to say since it really depends on what means more to you. I would never miss spending Christmas with my family, but my family doesn''t really do a whole lot for birthdays, so I would probably go home for the early tasting and then for Christmas, but miss the birthday. HOWEVER, if the birthday was a big deal, I would trust my family/bridal party to do the tasting for me.

 

[loverocks]

Yes, I agree with Sabine if there is no other way they can accomodate you. I know my family (and I) would prefer to spend the holiday together over the birthday, though it does kinda suck either way for you. I am sorry your in a bad spot with this

 

[mjso]

Thanks for the input!

They only have tastings a few times a year, I think it is four. I''m not really worried about how the food will taste, it is more just picking out which options of things we want to go with. I kind of don''t care if I go to it, but I would like to attend.

I am leaning more towards going earlier and missing my mom''s birthday. Its not a huge deal, I don''t even remember the last time I was home for her b-day, I just thought it would be kind of fun to be able to be there this year. I didn''t go home for christmas last year, FI and I were at home together alone, so I''d really like to go back home, since Christmas is a big deal in my family.

I''m just kind of bummed that it didn''t end up working out.

 

[FoxyBride]

I pick option 1 because just because you''re not there for your mom''s actual birthday doesn''t mean you can''t still celebrate it. Just tell her that this year she''ll get 2 celebrations instead of 1 and I think she should be game.