tough day

[Miscka]

Today I am sending my kitty to her new home. I recently got married, and my husband has a large dog, and I have a small dog. My cat is not a fan of dogs, and our new apartment only allows 2 pets. We have been living in my old apartment with my kitty and my dog, and his parents have kept his dog until we move.

This breaks my heart

because I have had her for 4 years and I love her so much. She has a funny little personality, and I am really attached to her. I got her when I was in college and we have been through a lot together.

I know I am doing the right thing, and I am fortunate that I found a great new home for her. They are really excited to have her, and the guy who will be her main "parent" loves cats, and especially big cats (she is 20lbs). Well, she especially loves men so I know they will be a great match.

Anyone have any advice? I feel guilty and sad today. I know there is nothing I can do, and these things happen when merging households, but still. Sigh.

 

[jcarlylew]

*hugs*
I am sorry.
Go take your pups for a walk around the new neighborhood, and reconnect with them. When my fathers dog passed away, i "lent" him my dog during my 2nd job so that he would still have a companion to help transition him.

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Aww Miscka first of all congratulations on your marriage! I didn''t even know you were engaged!!!!!

I''m sorry about your kitty. That has to be really tough. Do you know the person who is taking her in very well? Will you be able to visit?

Take lots of pictures of her to remember her by. Spend some time cuddling with her. I''m really sorry you have to give her up!

 

[Miscka]

Thanks girls, I appreciate it.

Jcar-good idea. I am happy because the new place will be GREAT for the dogs, and I love his dog a ton too, and I know I will have enough "furkid" love, but dogs are so different than cats, so it will be weird for awhile.

OU-I don''t know them well and they live an hour away, but I have talked to them a lot and really like them. I feel lucky that I found people I feel comfortable with, and I bet that they will fawn all over her and she will be so happy.

I wasn''t engaged, we eloped! I had a thread in BWW last week, I think? Thanks for the congrats!

 

[mayachel]

Aww how hard a choice this must have been for you. Isn''t it great that you know she''ll be going to such a loving home? Just focus on the positive.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Oh Miscka, I am so sorry. I am sure your kitty is going to a wonderful home, where she will the center of the universe to her new people.

It''s always hard to rehome a pet...when I moved in with my DH, I had to rehome my persian cat...and it killed me. But, she wouldn''t have been happy...and I knew that...so I did what was best for her, just as you are now doing whats best for you kitty.

Maybe you ask the new owner to update you from time to time on how she doing? And also ask them that if it doesn''t work out--for whatever reason--to please call you before doing anything. Little bits of reassurance can really help ease the transition!

 

[tlh]

I just wanted to give you a HUGE HUG!!!!!!!

I''d take comfort in knowing she''s going to a good home... and maybe just take a lot of pictures of her before she goes, and look at some of the pictures of her from your past? Sometimes I like to look at pictures of old friends that I don''t see anymore... just because I don''t see them, doesn''t mean I love them any less.

 

[monarch64]

I''m sorry, Mischka. I went through the same thing about 5 years ago. I found a really great home for my kitty, and I knew she would be happier there, so I definitely was consoled by that fact. {{{{Hugs!}}}}

 

[mirre]

Awww! I''m so sorry!

I had to give up my cat last year due to behavior problems and even though I knew I had to do it it was still really tough. I just held on to her all day until it was time for her to go. Maybe you can see if they would mind sending you updates and pictures through email from time to time to let you know that she is still doing great?

 

[Pandora II]

I''m so sorry!

DH keeps wanting me to find a new home for our hedgehogs - as they take up loads of space and a lot of work to keep clean and smelling nice. With the baby arriving soon, we need more space and he thinks looking after the baby and the hedgepigs will be too much for me.

I''m someone who has always felt that you take on a pet for life and I''m currently refusing to discuss it even though I know that his idea is sensible and I could find them a new and happy home without too many problems. So, I know exactly how painful a decision like this is - and even more difficult with an animal like a cat or a dog.

Hugs and hope it all goes okay.

 

[April20]

I''m so sorry. We get so attached to our furry ones, it''s hard to let go.

When I got married I had to find a home for both of my kitties. I''d had them for almost 6 years at the time. It was really hard. I was able to find a good home as well and I trust that they are being well cared for. It''s all I can do.

I second the idea of taking pics of your kitty and seeing if the new parent will send you the occasional update.

 

[Miscka]

Thanks guys. Ugh. I keep loving on her and she licks me, like a dog! She also keeps trying to "unpack" her bag of toys I packed. I really hope it all goes well tonight when they get here.

 

[gwendolyn]

Aww, honey, that must be really hard. I''ve never been in that position, but can imagine how you feel, so am sending lots of hugs your way.

 

[Skippy123]

sending hugs your way.

 

[Miscka]

Well, she is gone.

Man this is harder than I thought. The good news is that I really really really liked them, and I think she will be happy.

I just keep crying though. I am really going to miss her

and I feel like a bad parent.

Thanks for listening to my bummer thread!

 

[VRBeauty]

Miscka: I'm so sorry that you've had to part with your pet. I'm so glad you were able to find her a good home!

I hope you soon discover that part of you that's a dog lover... and I hope that someday you'll have the chance to have another kitty!

ETA -- I had to smile when I found that the "kitty" you were referring to was a 20-pounder since "Kitty" seems somehow diminutive. I've never had a cat quite as large as yours -- I think mine have maxed out at 13 pounds or so -- but now that I think of it, I guess I'd consider mine "kitties" no matter what their size!

 

[Little Monster]

Miscka,

I am very sorry you had to find a new home for your kitty -- that is one of the hardest things to do, ever! Don''t let anyone make you feel bad about missing her -- if anyone acts like it''s "no big thing" I give you full permission to kick them in the shins! Clearly they''re idiots...

Know that you found her a loving home who will take wonderful care of her -- you did the best a kitty mom can do.

Keep your chin up & like someone else said, take the pugs for a nice walk.