Wedding Time between engagement and wedding??

[sklingem]

Hi ladies - a quick poll here:
How long did you wait/are you waiting between your engagement and your wedding? It seems to me that a lot of couples pretty much start planning a day after the engagement and I always wonder what the hurry is!?
Cheers,
Rob

 

[bensbride]

Exactly 13 months. I know 13 is supposed to be an "unlucky" number, but it has proven to be lucky for us so far. We were engaged 13 months after we met and we are getting married 13 months after we got engaged.

 

[pichuchy21]

We waited 2 years we are getting married this July 3rd and I just started planning for it 2 months ago. We are having a small ceremony so I didn''t see the need to plan months in advance and it has worked out just fine.

 

[lliang_chi]

The typical is a year or just under. We''ll be waiting 18 months because of school and it being ridiculously hot in FL in the summer. I guess it''s just personal choice. Some people just love planning weddings. My FI had friends who got engaged and started looking @ venues the next day. To each their own.

 

[Aloros]

16 months. We were originally going to go with 10 months, but we were planning on buying a house (in the process), and figured it would take up a lot of time (it has!), so we pushed the date back.

We''ve looked at venues, but we haven''t pinned anything down yet. We''ll get back to it after we move in!

 

[swingirl]

1 year. That''s how long it took to plan the wedding and get the date we wanted.

 

[lucy.lucy.80]

time between our engagement and marriage is about 10 months

Several reasons factored into our short engagement, reception venue & church were both available, we wanted to get married in the fall, buying a home (we did not want to to coincide with our wedding), and weve been together for 7 years we just didnt see the point in waiting any longer.

 

[Harleigh]

1 year, 11 days...I would''ve been happy running out to the courthouse, but planning a wedding in Maui takes time!

 

[Courtneylub]

8 months

 

[shimmer]

17 months!

 

[blissfulbride]

2 long years and im really ready to get married. We just wanted to save as much as we could. We didnt want to get into dept for this wedding and it has worked out.

 

[Stephanie]

15 months because there was no way that I was getting married in this heat and humidity!

 

[musey]

We waited about 2 weeks to even think about it at all. I didn't start seriously looking at venues until about 1.5 months after, when I discovered that I was already a little behind--things were already booked for the month/year that we wanted. We had to change our desired date to get our venue. LA books up early.

Engaged 2/5/07
Started planning 4/1/07
Venue booked 5/11/07
Wedding 10/4/08

20-month engagement

 

[emilina22]

we got engaged 12/15/07, our engagement party will be 8/16/08, and then our wedding will be 6/14/09 so we will be engaged about a year an a half from the time M proposed

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

we got engaged when we were very young, only 18 for me and 19 for him! needless to say we waited almost 4 years and just got married yesterday on our seven year anniversary. it was wonderful and i''m glad we waited!

 

[IrishAngel7982]

For us, almost exactly 18 months. We were engaged on 12/23/07, but waited to start planning until I finished my Master's degree in May. We chose June 20, 2009 for our wedding because I'm a teacher and it just makes too much sense to have the wedding when at least one of us will have free time. So, our planning timeline will be about 13 months, although we were engaged for 5 when we started.

 

[loverocks]

I had an unsually long engagement, about 4 years it will be (almost 5!). When we became engaged he was in law school and then we were relocating so we anticipated it to be a long engagement. While a long engagement can be good in some ways, I have to say that at some point (at least for me), it is really silly and I just want to be married already! Also, I really did not "feel" engaged until I started planning the actual wedding a few months ago. So, in some ways I kinda feel cheated out of the whole "I''m Engaged" experience. Does that make sense?
Our wedding will be 10 days prior to our 10 year anniversary. I love him dearly and can not wait!

 

[Cleopatra]

Engaged: April 14, 2007
Wedding: August 2, 2008

So, it will be just about 16 months for us!

 

[redfaerythinker]

Engaged May 10, 2008
Married in either October of 2010 or March/April 2011. So two and a half, to three years. We wanted to finish school and get jobs first. And we also just wanted to enjoy being engaged just as much as we enjoyed being BF and GF!

 

[swimmer]

We dated for five months and five days before officially getting engaged and got married nine months later. We just waited till we were 30 to meet each other, that was the delay. When you know, you just know.

 

[kcoursolle]

Ours was 14 months and I think it was a great amoung of time to plan a wedding. I started shopping for a site pretty much the week after and picked that out fast since places book up early, but I didn''t start the other stuff until later.

 

[vintagelover229]

Oh, we were engaged in Nov. because he got transftered and wanted me to go with him. That was 7 months ago, and the wedding is almost 10 months away, so that would be 17 months before the wedding. So, just shy of a year and a half! But I''m in school, we moved 1500 miles to a new location, AND I''m planning the wedding 1500 miles away!

 

[zoebartlett]

We got engaged over a year ago (May 6th) and we''re getting married on July 12. I''m not sure what the rush is. Maybe it''s jsut a feeling of "okay, now we''re engaged. We should DO something."

 

[modernsparkler]

18 months for us!!! Engaged 12/07, Wedding 05/09

 

[sarahmills]

it will be 16 months exactly for us - engaged September 25, 2007 and married April 25, 2009. i had my heart set on a spring wedding (and it was really the only time we could get away for a long honeymoon due to our jobs) and we didn''t want to rush into the planning to turn around a spring 2008 wedding. we took our time and enjoyed our newly engaged status

 

[musey]

Date: 6/16/2008 10:55:22 AM
Author:rob09

It seems to me that a lot of couples pretty much start planning a day after the engagement and I always wonder what the hurry is!?

It seems to me that this is a common guy wonderment.

If you do want a typical length engagement (~1 year), it's necessary, in most regions, to begin planning quickly.

You get engaged (or at least most people do, unless I'm way off) with the idea that you are ready to get married NOW, and would do it tomorrow if the planning process and advance notice were unnecessary. Otherwise, it wouldn't be "Will you marry me?", it would be "Will you marry me... eventually?" But then I've always been one to not understand the "We're not ready to get married right now, but we know we want to eventually" engagement scenario, because I feel like if I'm not ready to be married, then I'm not ready to be engaged.


There's certainly no harm in taking time to enjoy the engagement before beginning the planning process, but many couples want to get a move on so that the wedding day will come all that much more quickly. So, I guess my approach is less "What's the hurry" than "Why wait?", but I think that's an inherent personality difference between people.

 

[Sue16]

10 months for us. Engaged 10/20/07, wedding 08/09/08

 

[violet02]

Under 10 months for us.

Engaged: 12/21/07
Getting married: 10/4/08

We knew we were going to get married as far back as last September but we waited until we got the ring first. We also knew we wanted to get married in Carmel and their prime wedding season is Sept/Oct... other times of the year you''re risking colder weather, fog etc. So it was either this year or next. We already have to wait until next spring for the honeymoon since Greece isn''t great in Oct/Nov. Also my family canceled a big trip to Vietnam this year due to a variety of issues and they put it off til next July so that would be too much in one year for everyone. Lastly I''m 37 and we''d like to start having kids soon since we want more than one.

 

[BriBee]

22 months and the wait is killing me! We got engaged last November and I wanted to wait until I finished school (this December) and then the venue we liked is nicest in the late summer/early fall, so our date is August of 2009. I started doing quite a bit of planning right off the bat, and I got the venue, photographer, DJ, and catering booked, and I haven''t done much since then. My best friend is getting married in October, so I''m going to be really busy planning showers, bachelorette, etc... for her, but it''s all making me wish that my wedding was much closer than about 14 months away.

 

[BriBee]

Date: 6/16/2008 2:22:59 PM
Author: loverocks
I had an unsually long engagement, about 4 years it will be (almost 5!). When we became engaged he was in law school and then we were relocating so we anticipated it to be a long engagement. While a long engagement can be good in some ways, I have to say that at some point (at least for me), it is really silly and I just want to be married already! Also, I really did not ''feel'' engaged until I started planning the actual wedding a few months ago. So, in some ways I kinda feel cheated out of the whole ''I''m Engaged'' experience. Does that make sense?
Our wedding will be 10 days prior to our 10 year anniversary. I love him dearly and can not wait!

I totally understand how you don''t really "feel" engaged until you''re planning. It''s funny because I started planning right off the bat and so I really immersed myself in the whole "engaged experience." Then I stopped completely so I could focus on school, and during that time I really didn''t feel engaged sometimes.