Wedding This is soooo aggravating!!

[lloydsbride]

Well, my wedding is on Valentine''s next year...i had my church and reception venue set up. Last week the pastor calls to tell me that he had previously agreed to do a wedding at the church on the same day, he forgot to write it in his book so when we spoke to him about our wedding, he thought he had the date available. So, of course i was upset but i moved past it. I contacted the place where we are having our reception because upstairs there is an auditorium that they use sometimes for weddings and things. So, she said okay, it would be an extra $325 to use the upstairs and downstairs....so we agreed and she signed us up. So, today she calls and says that during the week (mon-fri) there will be a play/musical up there and i won''t be able to use it that saturday because she just found out that they won''t be taking down there equipment over the weekend.

This is sooooo irritating. It would be different if people would tell me no from the beginning, i can understand that. But i keep thinking i have everything set and then it blows up in my face. My FI really didn''t want a wedding so he just has the i told u so look on his face when this stuff happens. I''ve already sent out save the dates and everything so i''m going to have a wedding no matter what. He says he''s tired of seeing me hurt and disappointed. Hopefully, in the end it will all be worth it. Sorry for the rant, i''m going to try to calm down now.

 

[dreaming of the day]

Oh that is awful! I am so sorry that you are experiencing such dissapointment! I am sure though if you are determined you will find a gorgeous place for your ceremony. Keep your chin up and get back out there to find your dream location!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I am so sorry!

That is really frustrating.

Do you want us to help you look for another venue?

 

[Sabine]

Wow, that really stinks! As soon as you find a new venue, get them to give you a contract, that way there will be no backing out no matter what!

 

[kittybean]

That is awful! I had a similar thing happen to me with a church, and it really upset and disappointed me. I ended up finding another church in the area, and I''m honestly much happier with it. Can you try to find another church for the ceremony? Will you still be able to have the reception at the venue you chose?

*HUGS* to you--hope it works out okay. Let us know if we can help.

 

[marchswallowbird]

Ugh, that is REALLY sucky. You've handled it a LOT better than I would have. I would have told the church to cancel on the OTHER people, since he apparently forgot about them in the first place.

I agree with Sabine, next time, get it in writing! You should not have to be going through this. Why is it that brides-to-be have to pay cancellation fees, non-refundable deposits, re-stocking fees, etc. if we change our minds about things, but these vendors can get away with being careless and you have no recourse and no compensation other than "sorry"?

 

[pjean]

Wow, I would be super frustrated too. Once, ok, I might bounce back, but twice?? You''re handling it better than I would have been! (Unless you''re secretly posting from jail, where you''re being held on assault charges...)

 

[lloydsbride]

Lol @pjean....nope not in jail...lol.


I''m just going to continue looking for a new place to have the ceremony. The reception is already booked (with a deposit and contract). So, hopefully something comes up soon.