Wedding Telephone RSVPs?

[marchswallowbird]

We''re having a small wedding (40 people) and almost everyone is either family, except for three of my closest friends. To save money I am considering not including printed RSVP cards, but instead asking everyone to RSVP by phone.

Does anyone have thoughts or opinions about this?

 

[Sabine]

Personally, I hate making phone calls. Maybe if you had a wedding website (you can make them for free) and you could rsvp online or by phone, that would work, or even just by email.

Also, you just have to know your guests. Do you have any super-traditionalists who would be offended that you aren''t doing the conventional thing? If not, then by all means, save the $

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Date: 8/14/2008 1:41:16 PM
Author: Sabine
Personally, I hate making phone calls. Maybe if you had a wedding website (you can make them for free) and you could rsvp online or by phone, that would work, or even just by email.

Also, you just have to know your guests. Do you have any super-traditionalists who would be offended that you aren''t doing the conventional thing? If not, then by all means, save the $

I totally agree. I would hate to have to call in an RSVP...I''d feel this sort of responsibilty to "chat" with the bride about how everything was going...and while I''m not opposed to wedding chitter-chatter (HELLO PS!!!)...I just imagine it being one of my DH friends fiancees and getting that uncomfortable "ummm" thing on the phone.

The wedding website is a great idea!

And, btw...just a thought...but post card stamps are super cheap...less than $.50 each....and if you''re having 40 people that means 20 invites which means less than $10 buckaroos in stamps...it''s really actually pretty affordable and a lot easier than designing a whole website for 20 RSVPs....

 

[gtn]

I did the postcard rsvps and the turned out great. I left the backside blank and it was really sweet to read the little notes people wrote on the back (and front) of the postcard. Of course, my family is so bad about rsvping that I have gotten many phone rsvps as well. Each call is not a quick, "yes I''m going with my husband and kids", it was, "I got your invitation in the mail. [some comments on the invitation]. Yes, me and [fill in names here] are going. I''ve been looking forward to your wedding. I''m so sorry I haven''t sent the rsvp, but I will. [more chit-chat]. How is the wedding planning going? Is there something I can do, just ask." There were some long, some short conversations, but conversations non-the-less. If you don''t mind, I say go for it.

 

[marchswallowbird]

Excellent feedback thank you! Especially about the feeling obligated to offer chit-chat. Most of the guests are my fiancee''s family (his immediate family is bigger than mine) and I don''t know most of them very well. I think we''d be uncomfortable on both sides trying to come up with small talk!

I like the idea of postcards. It''s not the postage so much I was thinking of as the actual invitation cost. Postcards may be the perfect solution.