Wedding Speaking of Registrys....

[Gwyn]

FI and I really don't need anything and things we do we are perfectly capable of procuring on our own. If you can't tell already, i am a horrible gift receiver. They make me so uncomfortable. So i was really dreading the whole wedding gift thing and registrys etc.

So I tell FI that if he wants a registry, he is going to have to do it on his one. Okay by him. He goes down to the store and starts clicking away.

Fast forward to the other day. A friend of ours is on the phone with me and also looking at our registry. She exclaims...wow $80 towels!!! Sheesh Gwen.

To which I am like...huh? So I go and look on the registry. Sure enough, there they are $80 towels, right under the matching washclothes for $14. So I mention to FI, you know...you put $80 towels on our registry, to which he replys that they are bath sheets not towels. For anyone that doesnt get the distinction the average towel is about 4 feet long. these are 6 feet long (and another 10 inches wider). Now, to his credit he is 6 feet five inches tall, so the large towel does make sense. We currently own about 8 bath sheets that he uses (I am only 5 feet tall and use regular the regular towels we have).

Anyway...now I am all uncomfortable that people are going to be looking at this and critisizing us for our "elaborate/over the top" choices. Actually I am afraid they are going to be critisizing me, lol.

When FI and I got together he bought me this adorable coach purse. Before that I used whatever was on sale at payless shoes or something. Anyway, its a great pattern and I love it so i used it alot. Because of this, however, his mother and sister think i am all into labels. They constantly make little comments about it. Like, "oh thats nice, oh but it isnt a name brand so Gwen wouldnt like it". Stuff like that...everytime i see them. I think its just jealousy or something, I dont know i just ignore it because it makes no sense to me but it does sometimes get under my skin.

Anyhow, I can just see them now talking and me and my "expensive tastes"... I am never going to hear the end of it...Like I need a 6 foot long towel...

 

[iheartscience]

Eh, don''t worry about it. An $80 gift is perfectly reasonable to put on a registry. In my opinion, it doesn''t matter what the gift is-if a guest wants to spend $80, they''ll buy it, and if not, they won''t! Plus, high quality towels are expensive!

And if his sister or mother make any little comments again, I would point out that your fiance is the one who picked out everything on the registry, and P.S., he picked out your Coach bag himself and bought it for you, so maybe they should make those comments to him from now on.

 

[Gwyn]

Date: 8/16/2008 9:43:53 PM
Author: thing2of2
Eh, don''t worry about it. An $80 gift is perfectly reasonable to put on a registry. In my opinion, it doesn''t matter what the gift is-if a guest wants to spend $80, they''ll buy it, and if not, they won''t! Plus, high quality towels are expensive!

And if his sister or mother make any little comments again, I would point out that your fiance is the one who picked out everything on the registry, and P.S., he picked out your Coach bag himself and bought it for you, so maybe they should make those comments to him from now on.

LOL yea I tried that reasoning with the bag thing. they don''t get it...I think they just like having something to harp on at times

I actually have a pretty good relationship with them, which is why its so bizarre. Oh well.

Thanks! Ill try to worry less about what people are thinking about me. I still dont know that someone will want to get us a towel for a wedding gift but I dont see a reason to take them down or change to regular towels since we get a discount on our unbought registry items and plan to buy them afterwards if they are not purchased.

 

[Deelight]

Date: 8/16/2008 9:49:13 PM
Author: Gwyn

Date: 8/16/2008 9:43:53 PM

Author: thing2of2

Eh, don''t worry about it. An $80 gift is perfectly reasonable to put on a registry. In my opinion, it doesn''t matter what the gift is-if a guest wants to spend $80, they''ll buy it, and if not, they won''t! Plus, high quality towels are expensive!


And if his sister or mother make any little comments again, I would point out that your fiance is the one who picked out everything on the registry, and P.S., he picked out your Coach bag himself and bought it for you, so maybe they should make those comments to him from now on.

LOL yea I tried that reasoning with the bag thing. they don''t get it...I think they just like having something to harp on at times


I actually have a pretty good relationship with them, which is why its so bizarre. Oh well.


Thanks! Ill try to worry less about what people are thinking about me. I still dont know that someone will want to get us a towel for a wedding gift but I dont see a reason to take them down or change to regular towels since we get a discount on our unbought registry items and plan to buy them afterwards if they are not purchased.

LOL maybe i''m weird cause I would likely buy a person towels if they wanted them. I am obsessed with large fluffy towels. For a friends engagement I got her and her new FI beautiful fairly expensive large fluffy bath sheets (they are both tall) and had them embroidered each with their first initial they loved them and I figured it was something they would use, you might end up getting them .

 

[Pandora II]

I wouldn''t worry.

A friend of mine had a nice dinner service on her registry recently. We bought them the sugar bowl for $140

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But, that''s what they wanted!

 

[MaggieB]

I think that your friend who commented on the prices on your registry was being completely inappropriate. If you want to register for solid platinum corn cob holders, that is your prerogative. The only thing that would make think twice about someone''s registry is if they didn''t have ANY lower cost options at all - which is clearly not what you did.

 

[musey]

Date: 8/17/2008 11:17:20 AM
Author: MaggieB
I think that your friend who commented on the prices on your registry was being completely inappropriate. If you want to register for solid platinum corn cob holders, that is your prerogative. The only thing that would make think twice about someone''s registry is if they didn''t have ANY lower cost options at all - which is clearly not what you did.

Ditto.

The only thing that crosses my mind when I see a registry with very high-end items is "Ooh, I hope they invite me for dinner sometime, I''d love to see all their fancy stuff!"

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 8/17/2008 11:17:20 AM
Author: MaggieB
I think that your friend who commented on the prices on your registry was being completely inappropriate. If you want to register for solid platinum corn cob holders, that is your prerogative. The only thing that would make think twice about someone''s registry is if they didn''t have ANY lower cost options at all - which is clearly not what you did.

I agree with this...

And let me just say that I had some things way over $80 in mine.

 

[Gwyn]

I dont think its the cost of the item itself. We have things over $80 on there too. As well as many low things. The comment was more because it was a towel for $80. Oh well. i feel better about it now!

Man, this wedding planning brings out the most insecure parts of me sometimes