please help.
my bf and i are beginning to plan for our shindig. we live in wisconsin, and have a variety of options in several areas around here. most of our family and friends are in the area as well. we made a rough draft guest list and ended up with approximately 130 people on it. not too bad, i think. and we could probably trim a few off it.
here''s our trouble. we recently vacationed in arkansas and LOVED it. we stayed in the most charming b & b i''ve ever seen. having the entire wedding there (all 130 [or however many make the final cut] guests) is not an option, because the rain site (indoors, vs. outside under a tent) holds 30 people. the b & b has only 7 rooms, so we really don''t think it''s fair to have people travel all that way and then end up in a hotel a few miles away. we want to have only parents and siblings (ends up being 8 people - 2 parents each and 1 sibling each, plus us) travel to arkansas with us for a ceremony only. we would pay airfare and lodging for everyone. after the ceremony we would take a limo to a big city (probably little rock or hot springs) for a fancy dinner for the 8 of us. the problem is that our families do not like this idea. mine are bummed that grandma and great aunt wouldn''t go (arthritic joints and long plane rides don''t mix). fair enough. and i know that this is "our" day, but family is important, and if i can avoid WW3, so much the better. both of our families prefer the traditional ceremony with reception after. they know it won''t be a church wedding, which doesn''t thrill my folks, but they''ll have to get over it. in this instance, the "traditional" route means having it around here, with the whole guest list. we''d really prefer the arkansas route. but am i going to regret not having the reception and dancing and all of that? has anyone else done a small ceremony only? we doubt we''d throw a reception after arkansas (that''s the expensive part of the wedding day...not the ceremony), or if we do, it''d be a casual event at a park or pot-luck style or whatnot.
feel free to share tips, opinions, experiences. i would appreciate it. a lot of venues are booked for 2009 already. i feel like we''re running out of time. i''m stressed.
my bf and i are beginning to plan for our shindig. we live in wisconsin, and have a variety of options in several areas around here. most of our family and friends are in the area as well. we made a rough draft guest list and ended up with approximately 130 people on it. not too bad, i think. and we could probably trim a few off it.
here''s our trouble. we recently vacationed in arkansas and LOVED it. we stayed in the most charming b & b i''ve ever seen. having the entire wedding there (all 130 [or however many make the final cut] guests) is not an option, because the rain site (indoors, vs. outside under a tent) holds 30 people. the b & b has only 7 rooms, so we really don''t think it''s fair to have people travel all that way and then end up in a hotel a few miles away. we want to have only parents and siblings (ends up being 8 people - 2 parents each and 1 sibling each, plus us) travel to arkansas with us for a ceremony only. we would pay airfare and lodging for everyone. after the ceremony we would take a limo to a big city (probably little rock or hot springs) for a fancy dinner for the 8 of us. the problem is that our families do not like this idea. mine are bummed that grandma and great aunt wouldn''t go (arthritic joints and long plane rides don''t mix). fair enough. and i know that this is "our" day, but family is important, and if i can avoid WW3, so much the better. both of our families prefer the traditional ceremony with reception after. they know it won''t be a church wedding, which doesn''t thrill my folks, but they''ll have to get over it. in this instance, the "traditional" route means having it around here, with the whole guest list. we''d really prefer the arkansas route. but am i going to regret not having the reception and dancing and all of that? has anyone else done a small ceremony only? we doubt we''d throw a reception after arkansas (that''s the expensive part of the wedding day...not the ceremony), or if we do, it''d be a casual event at a park or pot-luck style or whatnot.
feel free to share tips, opinions, experiences. i would appreciate it. a lot of venues are booked for 2009 already. i feel like we''re running out of time. i''m stressed.
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