Wedding Slight stress case

[DearBuddha]

My fiance and I are getting married July 27-barely one week away at this point. We''ve basically planned our entire wedding from across the country. We live in La Jolla, Ca, and we''re getting married in Boston (where we''re both originally from). I''m flying back to Massachusetts tomorrow night to oversee last minute details and get most stuff prepped. This isn''t the source of stress-I''m so looking forward to the wedding and our European honeymoon.

What''s stressing me out is the fact that my fiance just accepted a new position back in Boston. Meaning as soon as we get back from our honeymoon, we have to pack up, drive, and move back across the country before September 1st (we get back to CA Aug. 14th).

It just seems like so much at once, you know? I''m a teacher at a small school in North county, and telling my kids I was leaving yesterday broke our hearts, even though I could tell everyone was excited for me. Don''t get me wrong-I''m very excited to go back home, b/c that''s where our families are, and we always planned on going back eventually. It just really seems like a litany of tasks, though.

-Wedding
-Honeymoon
-Packing
-Moving

Has this happened to anyone else here? Any tips on relaxing and going with the flow? I''m worried that stressing over the move will make my wedding day so much less enjoyable

 

[rockzilla]

Yes, it is a lot, but it will be OK!

Do whatever you can to make it easier. Hire movers, fly instead of drive if you can, etc. It will be worth it. But, if you are not working, 2 weeks for a move should be fine.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Wow, it seems several PSers are moving here to Boston this summer. At least you're in good company

My cousin moved from CA to the East Coast the week after they got back from their honeymoon (they also planned a long-distance wedding) and they said it wasn't as bad as they thought it would be. They were able to fully enjoy the wedding and honeymoon and the move was really exciting for them, so they were glad to be able to start out their married life on the other coast

Wedding and moving are always stressful, but I think that all of the excitement around it will actually help. Good luck with everything, it will fall into place!

Oh, and September is the perfect time for a Boston move--what a great time of year!

 

[saltymuffin]

We were in a VERY similar situation. We got married, moved across the country, started new jobs and bought our first house all in a span of about 60 days. It is stressful, but doing everything at once isn''t so bad. It keeps things in perspective. If you were doing all these things at 2 month intervals I think it would be worse. Just get it all over with!

 

[Independent Gal]

Hey, I hear ya. We had a crazy two-part wedding on two different continents, then we got home and found out that DH was in serious danger of losing his job, then my mom got cancer, then we did our shortened honeymoon, then we found out I'm pregnant with twins (in the same sac...which means there's a 25% chance one or both of them will die in utero), now I'm nursing my mom (she just had her surgery) who lives in another country, then I go home and in two weeks we're moving across the country. And all of this happened in the space of about 3 months. THREE MONTHS!

Can you say stress?

Girl, my advice is to keep breathing deeeeeply, exercise a LOT, and just deal with one thing at a time. Don't think 3 steps ahead, just do one step at a time, deal with it, then move on to the next thing. That's what's keeping me sane! That and a sense of humor about it all.

 

[ljsmith001]

Aww.. I am SOOOOOOO excited for you!! What a wonderful time in your life! Your wedding will be magnificent, your honeymoon will be out of this world, you will get back and soon you will be reunited with your family! I think things couldn''t be better for you! You two will literally be starting a whole new life together! I am sure it was so hard to tell the children and faculty you were leaving, but you had to do it! If you have any time at all before the trip for the wedding I would try to get things organized and together. Maybe already have boxes waiting for you when you get home! Do you guys know where you will live in Boston? Will you stay with family until you find a home of your own? I think you guys are going to be extremely happy, definitely stressful during the move, but its so worth it!! Good luck with everything!!

 

[tberube]

Yep, it''s a lot!! It will be a stressful month or two, but you''ll get through it.