Wedding Shower Query

[rubybeth]

So, because we''re having a very small wedding (48 guests plus us) and I''m not having bridesmaids, two of S''s aunts offered to host a shower for me. At first, I was very pleased and they had some good ideas (a ''round the clock'' theme, yummy food since they are both awesome cooks, etc) but now I am getting a little annoyed. The date we mutually decided upon is July 13, and invites have yet to be sent out.

I know that the invites are printed, but I told both of his aunts that I have a list with names and addresses, all they had to do was e-mail me for it. I told them this in May! I suppose I am being silly and should have just e-mailed them with the list, but I guess I didn''t want to seem pushy like, "Hey! Get on this!" and figured they would fit it in to their busy schedules (one aunt works more than full time, the other works and has a very busy summer with kids and grandkids visiting constantly). Our wedding is August 8, and we sent our invites out about 8 weeks in advance. Invites for the shower will--at the earliest--go out tomorrow, which would be less than 2 weeks in advance by the time they receive replies.

With summer being such a busy time of year (especially in the midwest since it''s the only nice weather we get), I''m feeling like nobody is going to show up, and it''s going to be me, my mom, and S''s aunts and great-aunts, and none of my aunts or friends will be able to be there with such short notice. I am hoping to have a ''bachelorette'' type night which I''m trying to plan with two of my closest cousins since I definitely want to hang out with ''my girls'' before the wedding day.

How close to the shower date did your host send out invites? Am I just being weird and annoyed for no reason?

 

[LegalGal]

I can definitely understand not wanting to seem pushy when they are throwing the shower in your honor, but it really seems like they dropped the ball on this one. I would call or email them to find out if the plans are still on for that weekend. I hate to say this but, to me, two weeks notice in the summer is not enough time, especially since next weekend is the Fourth of July. From my experiences (being invited), the invitations should have been sent out four weeks before the shower. However, if all of the people attending are local, perhaps the shorter notice would be ok. Did they have the invitations professionally printed? If not and there are only a small number of invites going out, I would consider pushing it back a weekend. Either way, I would definitely contact the aunts to make sure there were no misunderstandings. I hope it all works out!

 

[rubybeth]

Thanks for the reply, LegalGal! I think you''re right that it should be pushed back, but I''m not sure that''s even possible with the aunts busy schedules.

Most of the guests are local, however, or at least within a 30 minute drive, so as long as people are still free, I''m sure they''d make it. I didn''t want a big shower that would seem like a gift-grab, so I guess a small shower is fine, but I really want my godmother and cousins to be able to be there!