Should the e-ring be the best diamond you've got?

[Circe]

This is something I've come across a few times, and it's always sort of puzzled me - I mean, most people get engaged before they're at their financial peak, as it were, so it just makes sense to me that, yeah, anniversary rings or pendants or what-have-you might well outshine the e-ring in terms of the 4 C's, if not in terms of emotional significance.

It seems like these days a lot of people sort of side-step the question by upgrading, so the rock on the left-hand ring finger is always the nicest one, with the original e-ring stone sometimes migrating to become a sidestone ... or an earring ... or a pendant you wear close to your heart, or what-have-you. Just wondering how the rest of y'all feel - should the e-ring be the best stone on your person, and if so ... why?

 

[zoebartlett]

Circe -- I agree with you. I think many people keep the stone in their engagement ring for their sentimental value, although it might not be the best one they own, in terms of quality.

 

[Lottie]

I don't think so, for most of us our financial position will change during the course of our marriages and our tastes will change as well. My non resizeable original engagement ring doesn't even fit me anymore. I think whatever makes you happy and am all for changing things around - I would prefer a variety and I don't mind which finger or earlobe my fantasy diamond adorns one day.

 

[Gypsy]

Nope. I don't think so at all.

Also it depends on your definition of best.

 

[MissGotRocks]

For me, the answer is yes. I want that stone to be the star of the show. Others obviously feel different and I think the most important point is that everyone should do what makes them happy. My first ering stone didn't work out but I see lots of folks that still wear theirs - even if it is small - with lots of love and pride and I find that very heartwarming. I see a lot of women with the traditional ering and plain wedding band sporting a large eternity ring on the other hand. I think that speaks as well to their ever improving financial situation.

You're in a great position as well to have two beautiful solitaire diamonds! There are many ways to set and wear them - my best advice is to do what makes your heart sing and enjoy!!

 

[marcy]

I think it is up to the person. My ering is my best diamond but it's not my most sentimental piece. My original diamond which is .15 ct is in a pendant and means a great deal to me.

 

[gardengloves]

I'm in a bit of similiar situation as you Circe.

We picked up a new stone on 7th anniversary but kept the original ring as well. I wear the new stone on daily basis - it gives endless joy and my hubby is very happy. I switch up from time to time as the original stone is totally different cut - its an OEC and I really enjoy the great contrast in how these two stones reflect light--but for primary every day wear, it the new 7th anniversary ring. My husband, a practical guy, suggested resetting the old ring into a pendant or selling it outright, but I am attached to it and would love one day, time, money and stars aligned to have it reset.

 

[lyra]

I don't know about "shoulds", but I "prefer" to wear my best diamond on my ER finger. I still have my original ER (.26ct) and would wear the stone in another ring but it's more expensive to reset than it's worth. I also have a huge insecurity that the jeweler might break my little stone in resetting and replace it with another because it is not a significant size or anything special. So I just keep the ring, which is too small for me to wear, in my jewellery box. I visit it often.

I actually have 3 other rings which I have worn or do wear now as ER's. One is a 5 stone I got for our 15th anniversary, one is my 1.77 that I got for our 25th anniversary, and one is a .76 that I got last Christmas because I liked the bezel setting it came in. I wear the .76ct ring 24/7 and really don't take it off for anything but cleaning it once in a while. My 1.77ct sits in our safe and I've only worn it once or twice this year.

 

[iheartscience]

I think the e-ring should be whatever you want it to be. That said, if I got a new (bigger ) diamond, I'd most likely wear it as my e-ring, just because I don't wear rings on my right hand that often and I'd want to wear the new fresh BIG one the most often.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I'm hoping to have at least one larger diamond down the road, which I plan to wear as a RHR. My e-ring will always be my favorite ring, hands down. So if favorite = best, then yes. But if largest = best, then no.

 

[Dreamer_D]

I like my most treasured piece on my left ring finger because culturally that is a finger with special meaning.

I will be wearing a stand alone band (soonsoonsoon) on that finger now that I sold my solitaire, but have thought that if/when I get more rings in the future I might wear them on my right middle.

 

[Fly Girl]

I don't think that the e-ring diamond has to be the best diamond that you own. I think that it often ends up that way because most women wear their e-ring constantly, so it makes sense to put your hard-earned cash into the piece that is worn the most.

 

[ame]

It's the best diamond I own, and probably unless we upgrade it, will be the last good diamond I own lol

 

[NovemberBride]

I don't know about should, but for me it probably always will be. I have a fairly large e-ring at just over 2 carats and I just don't see anyway I'd be wearing a larger diamond anywhere but on my left hand. I prefer RHRs that don't look like engagement rings, so I wouldn't wear a large diamond on my right hand. I like to switch my pendants frequently, so I don't think I would ever spend the $ for 2 carat plus solitaire pendant since it wouldn't get worn frequently enough to justify the cost. I currently wear 1 carat each diamond studs and think they are the perfect size for me, I don't envision ever upgrading them. So by default, my e-ring diamond will always be the largest or "best" diamond I wear.

 

[Rhea]

Nope. It's right under 1/2 carat and was bought when we were in our very early 20s. By a British man. Just in case this topic hasn't been covered here before Brits don't do diamonds in the same way Americans do.

So I now have lovely earrings - smaller but better cut and OECs which is what I actually wanted in an engagement ring, and a larger loose stone which is 1 of 2 earrings. I still need to find the 2nd stone but plan to take my sweet time.

DH doesn't want to upgrade, doesn't like the idea, and thinks it's a bit mean. So the ring is no longer the most expensive or nicest piece I own. I'm okay with that, he's okay with that. I do love rings, but getting more and more British everyday I feel a bit more comfortable with the flashier pieces stuck to my ears.

 

[Amys Bling]

i struggle with this all the time. I love my ERing and I dont want to "cheat" on it... but is that being reasonable? hmm, i dont know.