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Wow. I definitely know that I''m not cut out to be an adoptive mom, let alone for a child who is high needs. Sometimes your heart is in the right place, but your abilities/reserves/support is not.
I know it is to a miniscule degree what she experienced, but my husband and I had a similar wrenching experience with the dog we "adopted". We had adopted rescues before as puppies and totally believed in the "forever home" philosophy of taking an animal into own''s home. But adopting Chuck put a terrible strain on our family, our children, and our marriage. It never seriously entered my mind giving him up, until I had gotten to the point I was in tears realizing that it was breaking up my marriage. It was that bad.
I would have given Chuck to an another home, but there was no home for him, in the state he was at that time. We still have Chuck, he is loads better, but would I have adopted him if I had known what was going to happen? No. So never say never. And biological parents DO go through this. Parents have divorced over issues with children, families split up, children left to grandparents or other foster parents but it is usually not front page news, just a personal, private tragedy.
I know it is to a miniscule degree what she experienced, but my husband and I had a similar wrenching experience with the dog we "adopted". We had adopted rescues before as puppies and totally believed in the "forever home" philosophy of taking an animal into own''s home. But adopting Chuck put a terrible strain on our family, our children, and our marriage. It never seriously entered my mind giving him up, until I had gotten to the point I was in tears realizing that it was breaking up my marriage. It was that bad.
I would have given Chuck to an another home, but there was no home for him, in the state he was at that time. We still have Chuck, he is loads better, but would I have adopted him if I had known what was going to happen? No. So never say never. And biological parents DO go through this. Parents have divorced over issues with children, families split up, children left to grandparents or other foster parents but it is usually not front page news, just a personal, private tragedy.