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Laila619|1329684640|3129485 said:How 'bad' is it to sell your original engagement ring? If your DH picked out your engagement ring all on his own and was very proud of it, would you sell it if he said it was okay, even if you suspected that secretly, he probably would feel a bit sad/hurt about it? Thanks for your opinions!
I 100% agree with Maria, as usual.Maria D|1329686006|3129503 said:It depends.
Did he go out and spend a ridiculously large amount of money on a ring whose design reflects only his tastes without any consideration of yours? Or did he spend a reasonable amount on a traditional type engagement ring that doesn't happen to be the ring of your dreams? If it's the latter, and it is something he is proud of having done, then honestly I think you are a fool to sell it. Appreciate the ring and your guy and save up money for your dream ring, which you can still wear on your left hand ring finger, just not every day.
If it's the first scenario, it is a bigger problem than whether or not to sell this ring, imo.
TristanC|1329704182|3129713 said:I think there are two levels - a practical and an emotional. If there is financial need to liquidate assets you rather not, hence the existence of pawnshops (even when people know they can't afford to buy i back), that's a different question.
If it wasn't a need, then I don't see why you should sell it. Especially when you can see the hurt in your DH's eyes. As the guy speaking, it would be very sad if the woman sold on the symbolic item she said yes with, unless it was as Maria D said.
kenny|1329694012|3129584 said:Laila619|1329684640|3129485 said:How 'bad' is it to sell your original engagement ring? If your DH picked out your engagement ring all on his own and was very proud of it, would you sell it if he said it was okay, even if you suspected that secretly, he probably would feel a bit sad/hurt about it? Thanks for your opinions!
Suspicions carry less weight than his words.
Sell it.
If your suspicions are correct he'll blow up.
Let him.
Maybe that's what it takes for him to learn that being passive aggressive doesn't work.
Instead of playing games, it is much more workable to say what you mean, mean what you say, and take your lumps up front.
My SO may not like many things I say but he never has to wonder what I REALLY think.