LiW Sad and Disappointed Vent...(Short)

[dcgator]

Hey ladies,

Sorry, but I need to vent a bit. So BF and I have been whittling down our final choices for a diamond for the e-ring over the last few days.weeks. On Sunday night we settled and I sent him off with the certs and info on our top choices. He told me he was going to call the person who would secure the diamond on Monday morning. Low and behold he was "so busy" and didn''t get a chance to. I got on him to do it yesterday too, but yet again he was busy.

Now, I checked this morning, and our favorite diamond that I have been lusting after for weeks is GONE! I just want to cry and sock BF in the nose for not getting it. I am so very upset and pissed at him, b/c I know if it is something he wanted, he would have gotten on it as soon as possible. Now, my happy diamond is gone, and I am so dissappointed I could cry.

Sorry for the rant, but I needed to share with ladies who would understand. Thanks.

 

[debzy103]

Any chance your bf did buy it? Maybe he''s trying to throw you off by saying he didn''t get to it when he''s really working on a fun plan of his own!

One thing I learned in my own case...leave your BF alone once you let him have the info. My bf and I picked a setting over a month ago. I was constantly on him to meet with the jeweler to pick out the diamond...which basically meant I was driving him cRaZy!!! I (very recently!) came to realize that he''ll do it on his own and I should let him have his own fun with it. This is the one thing the guys really want to do right and want to surprise us women with - so my best advice is just let your bf do it on his own.

Even as hard as it is to take my own advice - I promise he''ll get rolling and do it better than you''ve even imagined. Wouldn''t the surprise of it all be nice?

 

[blondebunny]

how do u know he didnt buy it and is just not telling u bcuz he wants to surprise you... speaking from experience.. pushing a guy only annoys them half the time and makes them not want to do it... id just back off and let him do it when he has time...or whatever he has planned....guys are sneaky too...

 

[dcgator]

Thanks for the advice ladies:

Debzy - I wish this was the case, but I don''t really think so, only b/c I know he has been really busy with work, and after I told him that the stone was gone, he said, "well I guess I should really call the guy" and sounded honestly surpirsed.

Blondebunny - I also hear where you are coming from with the annoying stuff, I posted another post about a week or two ago, touching on that topic, b/c I think I may have been getting annoying, and stopped for while, only for him to ask me to continue (crazy boys) https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/and-they-say-girls-are-bad.94716/

Anyway, I know that however he proposes and whichever rock he chooses will be great, I am just disappointed now. In any event, he also told me yesterday he is probably switching jobs and has the possibilty of working abroad for a few months, so I guess that will keep us pre-occupied for a while.

Boo. Not an all together great week I think. Oh well, I hope it will get better soon...

 

[Diamond Confused]

Perhaps he did buy it and he''s trhowing you off. The same thing happened to me, we had found the perfect ring and we were supposed to go see it together. He was really busy with work and when i called the store the ring was gone. Now it''s on my finger. I still have no idea when he found the time since he was working from 8am to 1 am during that time period. A long lunch break I guess...

 

[BlueSki231]

ahhh sounds kinda suspicious

I''m going with everyone else and saying he bought it!!

especially after reading your other post.. he probably wants to see your face light up with surprise after feeling the disappointment of the stone being gone.

and if not, it can only mean that there''s an even more beautiful stone out there, just for YOU!!

 

[Amanda.Rx]

I don''t know your BF... but I think that there''s a good chance that he bought it and he''s playing you.

In the even that he didn''t... don''t get too disappointed. There''s TONS of diamonds out there. I''m sure you can find another one with very similar stats!

Don''t sock him in the nose, either... then he won''t be quite as attractive... lol.

 

[dcgator]

Follow up...

Well, unfortunately, I let my time-of-the-month over reaction tendencies get the best of me, and broke down all emotional like when I get home. Needless to say, he didn''t like me upset and confessed that hint, hint, maybe someone in the room had taken the diamond.

While he was bummed he had to give up the surprise, at least I am not stressing about the whole thing. And, as I told him, as long as I know we are on the same page and moving in the right direction, I can wait a while now.

So, now I am content in the fact that it is coming and can actually enjoy the wait!

Thanks for the words of encouragement ladies!

 

[debzy103]

HA! I''m just gonna say, I told you so!!!

My bf tried the same thing on me. He kept telling me the jeweler was on vacation, etc, etc. Then I found info about getting insured/sending the appraisal, etc. So I KNOW he''s just trying to surprise me.

I think that''s half the fun - we try to find out; they try to hide it from us! Hahaha.

Anyway, congrats that he''s moving forward!!!

 

[Dannielle]

Date: 9/18/2008 7:42:08 AM
Author: dcgator
Follow up...

Well, unfortunately, I let my time-of-the-month over reaction tendencies get the best of me, and broke down all emotional like when I get home. Needless to say, he didn''t like me upset and confessed that hint, hint, maybe someone in the room had taken the diamond.

While he was bummed he had to give up the surprise, at least I am not stressing about the whole thing. And, as I told him, as long as I know we are on the same page and moving in the right direction, I can wait a while now.

So, now I am content in the fact that it is coming and can actually enjoy the wait!

Thanks for the words of encouragement ladies!

Ah.. That is hilarious- Congratulations!

 

[ams0124]

Hehehe...

Something sounded fishy about that story...I''m glad your getting the diamond that you LOVE

Congrats!!

 

[BlueSki231]

Date: 9/18/2008 7:42:08 AM
Author: dcgator
Follow up...


Well, unfortunately, I let my time-of-the-month over reaction tendencies get the best of me, and broke down all emotional like when I get home. Needless to say, he didn''t like me upset and confessed that hint, hint, maybe someone in the room had taken the diamond.


While he was bummed he had to give up the surprise, at least I am not stressing about the whole thing. And, as I told him, as long as I know we are on the same page and moving in the right direction, I can wait a while now.


So, now I am content in the fact that it is coming and can actually enjoy the wait!

Thanks for the words of encouragement ladies!

awwww seee!!! hehe

what a sweetheart