Wedding S<3JS Wedding Updates & Question for PSers from Mom

[SarahLovesJS]

Hello all! So here's the update.

1. We found our stemware!! We chose Encore Platinum by Lenox to go with our China which is Ballet Ribbon by Waterford.

2. I think we narrowed down BM dress choices.

So here's what it is down between: Amsale in Jade or Steel Blue With Straps, Amsale in Jade or Steel Blue w/o Straps, and Bill Levkoff in Sage.


Pros for choices 1 & 2: Long dresses could be more formal. The tissue taffeta is cool looking in photos (silly I know). Other two BMs kind of liked these two more I believe. Very pretty?

Cons: Girls aren't 100% hip wearing long dresses however. Color seemed a bit harsher on everyone and more fallish. Could get a bit hotter. Kind of looked promy. More expensive.

Pros for choice 3: More elegant, looked a bit better on BM # 2 and love the twisted shoulder detail, has rouching(sp) like my dress has. Color actually flattered everyone better and lighter color seems more summery. Also matches my current color scheme. Like almost half the price of the Amsale. Less expensive.

Cons: Shorter could be less formal.

Right now I feel like we're probably going with the Bill Levkoff gown..but if we didn't..here's the question: if my Matron of Honor (a.k.a my Mom) wears the Amsale gown with the straps and the other BMs wear the strapless will it emphasize her size? She's a plus size gal like me and the other two BMs are very small (petite as in height and weight..my Mom is taller/average and plus size). So my Mom asks if wearing different dresses will make her stand out even more? She said she doesn't want it to look like she had to wear the "big girl dress" if that makes sense. Not that this is a big girl dress..but I hope you follow me. Anyway, any advice would be great. Overall we feel like choice number 3 is a bit more elegant and dressy even though it is tea length. Choices 1 and 2 are a bit promy and kind of made the other two BMs look younger rather than older and more elegant like choice number 3 (they are both late teens, early 20s). Any help/advice would be great! Also, the lady from the salon advised that the satin would actually breathe a bit better than the tissue taffeta in the heat.

ETA: Thanks in advance for your help/opinions!

 

[Sabine]

I definitely like the the BL dress better, especially because of what you said about the colors of the Amsale being harsh and more appropriate for fall.

I think if you went with the Amsale, your mom could wear it with straps and your bm''s could wear it strapless without your mom''s size standing out any more than it would if they all wore the same dress. Most people would probably just think she opted for straps due to it being more age appropriate. But what is your mom going to wear if you go with the BL?

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Sabine!! Thank you for giving me your opinion!

She''ll wear the BL. I had her try on a dress I have with a similar cut/neckline, straps, and length and it looked really good....especially since she''s lost so much weight she''s now smaller than I was when I wore the dress. I am a bit jealous!!

Anyway, I think the BL will look fine.

 

[havernell]

If I saw your mom wearing the Amsale with straps and your other BM wearing the Amsale withouth straps, I''d just think to myself that your Mom didn''t feel comfortable wearing the strapless for some reason. I''d most likely think that reason was a combo of 1) not wanting to feel like she would be tugging the dress up all night 2) age appropriateness like Sabine said, 3) that being the maid of honor, you wanted her to look just a smidge different and 4) for extra support in the bust area. Now, I''ll be honest and say that reason #4 and mabye #1 could be perceived by some people as being related to her body size. Bottom line- will the different dress draw some attention/be noticed? Yes. Will it be negative attention? No, I think it would be neutral attention, if that makes sense.

However, after all of that, based on what you said above I think you should go for the Bill Levkoff dress. I''m a big fan of not spending a lot of money on BM dresses, and it sounds like YOU like the BL dresses more since they go with your season/color palette.

Finally, if you do really prefer a long BM gown, it may be worth asking BL if they could make that gown long instead of tea length for you. I have no idea if they take custom requests, but I can''t hurt to at least call and ask...

Good luck coming to a collective decision on BM dresses!

 

[julesbeth]

I actually LOVE both Amsale dresses, and I think that having the MOH in a different dress is a nice way for her to stand out and be recognized (for the awesome mom she is). I think the Amsale ones are very formal, the material looks gorgeous and I just LOVE long bridesmaids dresses. The BL are cute too, but I guess I feel that the others are more speical than BL.

MMmmm amsale. Can I be in your wedding?


ALSO, I love the stemware, good choice girl!