RUDE PEOPLE!!!!

[jaysonsmom]

Please share your stories about rude people here.

So I have my own office with a door. I also have a large file cabinet with half of my stuff, and half that I've given our marketing department to use because they need it for storage of some promotional items. So usually when someone needs to get something out of the file cabinet, they knock, and say "excuse me, I need something from the cabinet....".

Well, today, the executive assistant/also family member to the President walks right into my office with a visitor (with whom she is talking loudly to) and proceeds to dig through the file cabinet without so much as a knock, an introduction, or even a glance of acknowledgement! The visitor felt weird, and proceeded to compliment my kids' pictures which were on the file cabinet....and I was so stunned my mouth was wide open! I guess I wasn't worth the time or the effort to be courteous to, and it was IN MY OWN OFFICE!

 

[zoebartlett]

Well, today I ran to the mall to pick up a few things. On my way out, I noticed that a woman and her two little kids were behind me. I held open the first door, and the mom walked right past me as her daughter smiled and said "thank you." We got to the next door and the same thing happened. I'm glad one of them thanked me, but I kind of wish it had been the girl's mom.

For some reason, that's a huge pet peeve of mine.

I can almost hear Tacori now: "Zoe, let it go. Don't let the little things bother you." I know, I know!

 

[Yimmers]

Put a passive-aggressive note on it:

Jesus is watching...and so am I!

I'm sure everybody will feel highly uncomfortable as they root through the file cabinet. Alternatively, put up a picture where the eyes seem to follow you where you walk.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I just went to the girl in marketing who is in charge of the key to my file cabinet. She said the key was taken from her drawer without her even knowing about it! In other words, the executive assistant thinks that she can help herself to things in other people's drawers too!

 

[Yimmers]

She grew up with no class or manners. She gets away with it b/c she's an executive assistant or else someone would have set her straight a long time ago.

I loathe it when people look through my drawers. I would be infuriated too.

 

[Haven]

Jaysonsmom--Would you be comfortable giving this colleague a gentle reminder that you would prefer she knock before she enters your office? That doesn't seem like an unreasonable request to me. That way, she'll hopefully comply in the future, and if she doesn't, then you can take your complaint to her superior.

ETA: If you say something, and this still continues to happen, I'd just tell marketing to find their own storage for their things.

 

[dragonfly411]

I once had a woman come into the book store I used to work at. At the time we had an assortment of wind chimes which hung around the register counter (it was a rectangle...opening at the back... faced the door...with two side counters to help people...central in the store...if this helps). Anyways, the chimes were all tuned, and there were different sizes which had different notes. There was a super tall one which sounded like church bells.... a medium but thick one that made the most beautiful notes in the world ever... another thinner medium one (**** KEY**** I had given this set to my grandparents for Christmas the year before), and some tiny ones that made sounds like you would hear in a fair elf forest. So this lady is looking at wind chimes and prices them, and I said "Oh I got one of the sets for my grandparents... they are fantastic" And she looked at me and said "YOU?" And I said "yes" and she said "you ... you bought a set of these chimes"... and I said "yes... let me check which ones" and she pointed at a set just slightly smaller than mine and said "It must have been those, they are more in your price budget I think"

I walked to my set and grabbed them and said "These were them, if you think you can afford them I can wrap them up for you, they really do make amazing notes".

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I can almost hear Tacori now: "Zoe, let it go. Don't let the little things bother you." I know, I know!

Bwaahaha...awareness is the first step Zoe my dear

 

[zoebartlett]

I can almost hear Tacori now: "Zoe, let it go. Don't let the little things bother you." I know, I know!

Bwaahaha...awareness is the first step Zoe my dear

Ahhh, truer words were never spoken. I'm a work in progress. Have I told you lately how awesome you'll be in your new career? Very wise woman, you are...

 

[shihtzulover]

I know a TON of rude people, but this one just came to mind first:

I was 18, and I went to dinner with my boyfriend's (at the time, definitely not anymore!) family. They were talking about how they didn't have a lot of money (in a light manner, joking around). I was just sitting there, not really knowing what to say. His grandmother turned to me and asked me "Are you poor?". I just looked at her because I was in shock at what just came out of her mouth, and she goes "Yeah, you are."

I don't even know how she reached that conclusion, nor why it would be any of her business either way. But no, my family is not poor.

It was just so ridiculous and inappropriate. But then again, that's not the first time that I had issues with them, and I should have bolted way before this incident took place.

 

[Dancing Fire]

I know a TON of rude people, but this one just came to mind first:

I was 18, and I went to dinner with my boyfriend's (at the time, definitely not anymore!) family. They were talking about how they didn't have a lot of money (in a light manner, joking around). I was just sitting there, not really knowing what to say. His grandmother turned to me and asked me "Are you poor?". I just looked at her because I was in shock at what just came out of her mouth, and she goes "Yeah, you are."

I don't even know how she reached that conclusion, nor why it would be any of her business either way. But no, my family is not poor.

It was just so ridiculous and inappropriate. But then again, that's not the first time that I had issues with them, and I should have bolted way before this incident took place.

i would of said "YES" how much can you spare?

 

[Amethyste]

Speaking of Executive Assistant... We have one of "those" in our office. We call her "Princess". She is all mighty at 4'11'', wearing 5 inch spiked heels bouncing her assetts up and down... She is rather annoying...

She is a fashionista - latest styles, shoes... I am a hippie. I wear layered clothes and most of them in a floral patterned style. I do it tastefully and it looks nice. I get compliments on how I dress all the time.

I was in the cafeteria pouring some cream in my coffee... She asks: " Do you own any other style of clothes other than what you wear all the time?" I said: "Well, do you own a pair of Dansko shoes?" She said: "No.. I wouldn't wear "THOSE"..." I said: " Well then, I wouldn't walk a mile in your shoes either..."

How rude... And she asked that question in front of my top Boss... The nerves!

 

[Imdanny]

Thanks for the chance to vent. Does it have to be about people IRL? Because my story is about someone on the internet.

There is this lady who has posted on the same forum as me for probably three years now maybe longer.

Years (!) ago I asked a forum member a personal question that I had PM'ed him about BEFORE asking and got his PERMISSION and ENCOURAGEMENT to ask him.

It was a thread about this forum member where the forum members spend a month asking each person questions, getting to know them better, that kind of thing.

So this lady, in the thread, chews me out for asking my question!

I sent her a PM explaining I had permission.

She just ignores me.

I explain in the thread I had permission.

She doesn't listen to a word I'm saying and turns into a raving lunatic.

Ok, so like I said this was years ago.

This lady NEVER misses an opportunity to take passive aggressive swipes at me.

Once I made a post about taking a break from the forum (several of us have taken breaks from the forum- unlike PS at this forum we talk about politics- SO glad we don't here).

Someone else posts and says that he had considered doing the same thing. Let's call him Mark.

So this lady posts and says, "I hope Mark stays".

You know, just totally gratuitous. Mark wasn't even talking about leaving. She just wanted to get that out there without having the courage to actually say, "I hope Danny leaves".

So (and keep in mind she's been mad at me for years, I've said that three times, but I can't believe anyone would act like that, especially someone who was WRONG in the first place) she asked a question about a bat in her house.

I THINK SHE'S BATS.

But I didn't say that, of course. I wrote a short post explaining to her since she asked for advice how I would trap the bat and release it outside.

A couple more people write posts. Two of them to me/ about my post, one of them taking me to task for being so stupid as to possibly expose the poor woman to rabies, and the other agreeing with my (IMHO) humane suggestion.

The person who took me to task suggested calling the fire department. I think my fire department would laugh at me if I called them and said I had some scary creature in my house. It's not like the fire department, you know, has to deal with FIRES.

Then this lady posts and says, "I haven't read Danny's post. He's on my ignore list".

Ok, talking about someone in the 3rd person is just plain rude.

Second, I was just trying to help her. She could have just ignored my post.

But no, she had to point out to everyone that she hadn't even read it! And like I said above, I know she's read my posts in the past. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if when she said she didn't read my post she was lying.

Just rude, and unbalanced. It's not normal to hold a grudge against someone for years and to go out of your way to take passive aggressive swipes at another member of the group you're supposed to be a part of.

I wish this rude lady would get off her high horse, get help for her emotional problems, or just go away. She is the one that passed judgment on me for doing something I had the perfect right to do and then refused, absolutely refused, to listen to my point of view. I feel quite put upon by her years of passive aggressive BS at this point. I should have known better than to even post my advice. Silly me to think I'm a member of the forum and could write a simple post trying to help her without getting spit on.

 

[jaysonsmom]

Jaysonsmom--Would you be comfortable giving this colleague a gentle reminder that you would prefer she knock before she enters your office? That doesn't seem like an unreasonable request to me. That way, she'll hopefully comply in the future, and if she doesn't, then you can take your complaint to her superior.

ETA: If you say something, and this still continues to happen, I'd just tell marketing to find their own storage for their things.

I'd love to give this person a piece of my mind, but unfortunately she is a CLOSE relative of some important people at my company, and I don't want to jeopardize my job, that is why I almost deleted this post because she may be a PSer. She's into gemstones .....

 

[LGK]

I had one customer at work freak the heck out when I wouldn't tell her what I paid for a ring I was wearing. Utter complete batsh!t crazy freakout. Yelling and stuff. It was great. And I'd been polite!

I had one other guy earlier this year stalk me on the phone for weeks. He was angry because he couldn't return something he'd decided he didn't like; sometimes we allow returns (item not as described, etc.) but not after the owner has been paid for the thing and it's just buyer's remorse. He didn't like that. He was actually a fairly creative curser, called me a number of atrocious names (mostly involving female anatomy) and would just ring our main desk phone for hours on end. We have caller ID and after he cussed me out I refused to take the calls but that didn't phaze him. For a few weeks he'd just call for hours. It wasn't much fun. He actually had this intense loathing in his voice that creeped me out a lot. I was really glad he was a few states away.

 

[Haven]

Jaysonsmom--Would you be comfortable giving this colleague a gentle reminder that you would prefer she knock before she enters your office? That doesn't seem like an unreasonable request to me. That way, she'll hopefully comply in the future, and if she doesn't, then you can take your complaint to her superior.

ETA: If you say something, and this still continues to happen, I'd just tell marketing to find their own storage for their things.

I'd love to give this person a piece of my mind, but unfortunately she is a CLOSE relative of some important people at my company, and I don't want to jeopardize my job, that is why I almost deleted this post because she may be a PSer. She's into gemstones .....

Oh, I definitely don't think it would be appropriate to chew her out, but I think the professional thing to do would be to voice your expectations to her. There is nothing wrong with that, and I always have more respect for my colleagues who are clear and professional about things like this over the ones who allow people to cross lines that they would rather have drawn.

Either way, she sounds like an absolute joy to work with. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I wasn't kidding when I said I'd have the department remove their things from my office. Her behavior is inappropriate, but as long as you tolerate it, it isn't going to change.

 

[Arkteia]

Once during our trip to Vancouver, B.C. we went into a highly recommended restaurant. There were some tables outside, and we wanted to use one, but the host said we were not allowed to, citing license restrictions (we had our 6-year old with us). He said that we were allowed to sit in the restaurant. He said the waiting time should be 20 minutes or so. So we are sitting in the waiting area, talking, waiting and smelling very nice aromas from the kitchen. Then a company of three women walks in... they are happy and loud, and ask if there is a table for three... and he says, surely there is, and brings them to a spare table.

My husband got angry and got up to leave. I got angrier and said that I never expected such treatment from the host of so highly acclaimed restaurant. I mentioned that he was the first Aussie that I had ever met that was so unwelcoming (he mentioned coming from Australia... it had to do something with the shirt my son was wearing). Then I added that I would not specifically look for either a tourists' forum or a website, but if I ever stumbled upon such, I'd surely leave negative review about their restaurant. I said that attitude to children told a lot about a person.

I am very soft-spoken. So I did not yell, or scream. Just very nicely said what I thought of him. He got red in the face and started repeating, "I am sorry, I am sorry".

I do not think it had to do with any license because he let us in. But in many places, they simply do not like having kids - kids may misbehave.

 

[LGK]

I've got to add another gripe. Today at work this group of people did one of my Least Favorite Things.

We gather up stuff for people at the front desk as they shop throughout the antique mall, so people will gather piles of goodies with their names written on the backs of the price tags.

So this lady comes up and is like "I want to pay for my stuff, and also my sister's stuff." She knew what name her sister's stuff was held under so no problem. Then she comes up with the genius idea that, every so often, someone will decide sounds like great fun (and always makes me cringe.) She wants me to not tell her sister what happened to her stuff. Insists on it. Oh boy! What a good idea. Her sister will (reasonably enough) have a big ol' freak out because her stuff is missing and I'm supposed to say nothing. If I tell sister what happened, the woman who bought it for a "surprise" will be angry with me. If I say nothing, the sister will be angry. Yay! I love that game.

Predictably enough, the Sister #2 is very upset when her stuff was MIA, and Sister #1 it was hovering around watching to see if I would cave and making faces at me behind #2's back trying to keep me quiet. I eventually started giggling nervously and that was the last straw for Sister #2, boy did she not like that... I think she thought I was laughing at her "predicament", not because the whole thing was just ridiculous and I had no clue what to say by then. She was clearly just about hitting full boil right about then so I decided I couldn't stand it anymore and told her Sister #1 had made off with her goodies. Sister #1 was not pleased that I told. But at least she wasn't screaming at me at that point, so I called it an improvement...

 

[JewelFreak]

I really get sick of rudeness on the internet! Danny's post is a good example -- people will write stuff they would never dare say to your face. What's the joy in it, anyway? They hide behind the anonymity, knowing you're not going to come to their door & shout in their face. Too many people feel free to behave like 3rd-graders -- who ought to be spanked at that. Also get darn tired of snippiness when people give un-asked-for critiques to somebody they don't know from Adam. They end up showing themselves to be mental slobs!

--- Laurie

 

[Nashville]

I was at the grocery store last week. It was kind of an insane day that day, we had 100,000 things to do and not enough time. It was just me and my daughter and she hadn't been able to get a nap and was about an hour past dinner, so she was hungry and whining. Mind you WHINING, not throwing a tantrum. I was in line at the grocery store to pay and the woman in front of me was glaring at my daughter, who mind you is a toddler. GLARING at her, huffing, rolling her eyes.

I am not a confrontational person whatsoever, but I was furious. My daughter is a small child, as we all were once. She wasn't throwing things or screaming, she wasn't even crying. When the glaring continued I peeked my head around the cart and said "Excuse me, can I help you?" She looked away and hustled out of there.

So unbelievably rude, I was floored.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I can almost hear Tacori now: "Zoe, let it go. Don't let the little things bother you." I know, I know!

Bwaahaha...awareness is the first step Zoe my dear

Ahhh, truer words were never spoken. I'm a work in progress. Have I told you lately how awesome you'll be in your new career? Very wise woman, you are...

Thanks friend. You are good for the ego

 

[junebug17]

I work at a paint-your-own pottery store a few days a week. I don't really have any horror stories, and most people are pleasant. but sometimes a person will come in to pick up her pottery as well as the order of the friend/relative they painted with that day. I will be rooting around, desperately trying to find the friend's order. I will then ask the person "Is there any possibility so and so already picked hers up?" And the person is absolutely 100% sure the person did not..."Oh,no, I'm sure she didn't pick it up, I just talked to her, she would have told me if she had." More nervous rooting around the store, which isn't very well-organized to begin with. And the customer standing there, getting more annoyed at me by the minute. Finally, the customer either breaks down and calls said friend, to find out yes indeed, she already picked it up. Or I call the owner, to be told that the order had been picked up. And almost every time, the person will exclaim her surprise/annoyance at her friend, grab her pottery and run out the door. No "sorry about that" or anything. this has occurred quite a few times, and sometimes when the store is busy.

There are other times people will come in, complaining they are in a rush, and expect me to run around like an idiot for them. I proceed to get dirty looks if the person feels I'm not moving fast enough for them. Really angers me, don't run an errand you don't have time for it.

I'm 50 years old, and things like this make me say to myself "I'm getting too old for this sh...er, stuff."

 

[Nashville]

Once during our trip to Vancouver, B.C. we went into a highly recommended restaurant. There were some tables outside, and we wanted to use one, but the host said we were not allowed to, citing license restrictions (we had our 6-year old with us). He said that we were allowed to sit in the restaurant. He said the waiting time should be 20 minutes or so. So we are sitting in the waiting area, talking, waiting and smelling very nice aromas from the kitchen. Then a company of three women walks in... they are happy and loud, and ask if there is a table for three... and he says, surely there is, and brings them to a spare table.

My husband got angry and got up to leave. I got angrier and said that I never expected such treatment from the host of so highly acclaimed restaurant. I mentioned that he was the first Aussie that I had ever met that was so unwelcoming (he mentioned coming from Australia... it had to do something with the shirt my son was wearing). Then I added that I would not specifically look for either a tourists' forum or a website, but if I ever stumbled upon such, I'd surely leave negative review about their restaurant. I said that attitude to children told a lot about a person.

I am very soft-spoken. So I did not yell, or scream. Just very nicely said what I thought of him. He got red in the face and started repeating, "I am sorry, I am sorry".

I do not think it had to do with any license because he let us in. But in many places, they simply do not like having kids - kids may misbehave.

I used to hostess for a long time and that's ridiculous. At the very least, let people know why you can't sit them at a specific table. For instance at some places, certain tables can't be set with high chair/booster seats because of fire codes. Also sometimes servers give the host hell if they are swamped with tables and get sat again because then they get backed up with orders. But let people know what's up, don't just leave them hanging! FWIW I've worked in many restaurants and have never been told not to accommodate people with children.