ring size issues

[stacy11101]

ok, i''ve been addicted to this web-site for a few weeks now....here is some history.....

my name is stacy, i live in NJ, i have been with my bf for over 8 years. we''ve both been married before, i''m 38 and he''s 50 and we are VERY MUCH IN LOVE, we are in a zone right now that is a fantasy come true, it''s amazing and he is the best thing that''s ever happened to me....so on to the ring....a few months ago he decided to buy me THE RING. now that the time is approaching, (he''s giving it to me in january) i''m starting to have doubts about it. you see i''ve been reading all these articles on here about size and price and i''m beginning to feel a bit "selfish". i''m getting a 3 1/4 princess set in a simple platinum band, nothing fancy, no side stones. it''s an amazing quality because his family is in the business and it''s a stone that has never been on the market before...it''s not too late to trade it and get a smaller stone (i was thinking 1 1/2 ct)

i don''t mean to sound like an idiot, i just don''t want people to say things, does this sound nuts?

please respond and tell me your thoughts, it''s just that people can be so mean...

thanks....stacy

 

[Hest88]

Well, if you love it, why not keep it? I think that in NJ such a large rock wouldn''t be uncommon.

 

[Kaleigh]

I agree, keep it. His family is in the business so you must be getting a good deal. In the end it''s all what you are comfortable with.

 

[stacy11101]

i don''t know what''s common and what isn''t, i can tell you this that anytime my boyfriend mentions it to someone they turn their nose up, it makes me feel bad, i told him not to tell anyone but he just says that he''s proud that he''s getting me a ring and he thinks it in my head

 

[Jennifer5973]

Much ado about nothing.

Get what you want and be happy. Life is too short to worry about whether an ering is ''too big." Be grateful you are getting such a nice diamond and go on your merry way.

I don''t mean to sound rude but I really think your''re stressing over nothing.

 

[Poker face]

So you''ve found the guy of your dreams, things are terrific and he wants to give you an amazing ring. I''d be more concerned with hurting his feelings about this wonderful gift he wants you to have than the opinions of jealous strangers.

Take the ring, wear it with pride, and post some pictures when you get it!!!!

 

[fancyrock]

too big.... too small.... it''s just someone''s opinion!! Have what YOU are COMFORTABLE with.....

Give the 3 1/4ct a try... if that''s just not you... then downgrade to something that fits you best!!

 

[stacy11101]

i''m really not stressing, it''s just that i don''t want to be perceived as a "spoiled brat" and i just feel a bit funny about it, i guess considering that my ex husband really didn''t have the means to spoil me to this degree, this just seems so extravagant....maybe it''s just me, i don''t mean to sound whinney really....i love the ring, like i said people can just be very opinionated, someone said a week ago (they don''t know the price) that they could buy a new mercedes for that.

i wish people would just shut up...including my mother, LOL

 

[Hest88]

You know Stacey, you''re also of that age--luckily--where you can easily pull off a ring of that size. Just hold your head up high and don''t worry about what those jealous women are saying. You earned it!

 

[fortheloveofdiamonds]

If someone says something to you about your engagement ring being too extravagant i''d be hard pressed not to think that it was not out of jealousy or envy....so...if someone says something, just say yes, it is extravagant "but I AM WORTH IT."

 

[moremoremore]

JFlo wrote: "Much ado about nothing"
MMM write: DITTO!

 

[glaucomflecken]

I''ve heard people say their stone was too small but never too big wow i would KILL to have a diamond over 3 carats! unfortunately we are too poor to get that...yet. I would say enjoy it and every time you look at it think of what a great guy you have and what a wonderful gift that is! Sure people may be jealous, but I think to some degree we all have a little bit of jealousy inside our hearts of something. If it''s not a diamond we want maybe its someone''s car we covet or their great house or wonderful relationship. Now if you were going around and rubbing it in people''s faces, that''s another story. But just having it and wearing it and loving it, it only matters what you feel about it. If you feel uncomfortable, trade it now before you get sentimental about it or risk feelings. I also agree that in your 30s you are much more able to wear a stone that size than say someone who is in their early 20s without as much "whispering".

good luck and congrats!

 

[headlight]

You know what -- you both have been through marriages that weren''t "forever", and that must have brought on much pain for both of you. You are not some struggling "college kids" where a ring of that size might seem inappropriate depending on the circumstances. Add to that the fact that your future in-law''s are "in the business". People should be HAPPY for you that you have been given a "second chance" at love. Anyone that makes rude comments is NOT your friend. Inconsiderate family -- well, there''s not much you can do about them. Just realize they are J-E-A-L-O-U-S! Don''t let that stop you from getting this magnificent ROCK. You deserve it and it is absolutely spectacular that your beloved is so PROUD of showering you with such luxury. Enjoy your guy, enjoy your life, enjoy the beautiful ring that will soon adorn your finger.