I found all of this out this morning while dropping my mom off at the bus stop to go home. She was visiting this weekend to help plan the wedding.
Before my dad passed away, he was the go-to person for his entire family (4 brothers and 2 sisters). Evicted? No problem, stay with us. No money? No problem, here’s half the paycheck. I found out today that after all that my father did for them, not one of them helped my mother with funeral costs. This entire time I thought the veterans took care of the funeral/burial but it turns out they only gave $250 and my mom had to pay $9,000
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My mom wanted to bury him in Kissimmee where it was cheaper and closer to home. His family felt he deserved to be buried in the veterans cemetery 3 hours away from the house which cost $2,000 that none of them paid for. They felt that my father deserved to have a proper ceremony so they wanted limos to “keep everyone together”. So my mom got limos for the entire family (15 limos in total) to drive us all 3 hours away and 3 hours back. The food while they were there, my grandmother’s clothing, the ceremony all came out of my mom’s pocket
. And to top it off, one of my aunts got mad at my mother for not giving her money for her and her family’s airfare back home
. I asked my mom why she would even entertain the idea of paying for all of this and she said that she felt my father deserved it and the last thing she was going to do was fight with them during that time. She said she was so numb with pain and heartache and at the same time trying to be strong for us that she just did whatever they told her to do.
How can they do that? Their own brother! They knew she was left with 3 small children and they all had money but not one of them helped. After all he did for them all of those years.
And to think all those church donations and making ends meet and seeing my mom cry when she couldn’t put together a thanksgiving without any help from his family…
There really is no point to all of this except that I don’t think I’ve ever been this angry in my entire life. And I know there isn''t much I can do about it now but it just hit me that I''m stressing over the guest list because of them when they really are just horrible people. So...I think my guest list is about to lose some weight
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Before my dad passed away, he was the go-to person for his entire family (4 brothers and 2 sisters). Evicted? No problem, stay with us. No money? No problem, here’s half the paycheck. I found out today that after all that my father did for them, not one of them helped my mother with funeral costs. This entire time I thought the veterans took care of the funeral/burial but it turns out they only gave $250 and my mom had to pay $9,000

My mom wanted to bury him in Kissimmee where it was cheaper and closer to home. His family felt he deserved to be buried in the veterans cemetery 3 hours away from the house which cost $2,000 that none of them paid for. They felt that my father deserved to have a proper ceremony so they wanted limos to “keep everyone together”. So my mom got limos for the entire family (15 limos in total) to drive us all 3 hours away and 3 hours back. The food while they were there, my grandmother’s clothing, the ceremony all came out of my mom’s pocket



How can they do that? Their own brother! They knew she was left with 3 small children and they all had money but not one of them helped. After all he did for them all of those years.



And to think all those church donations and making ends meet and seeing my mom cry when she couldn’t put together a thanksgiving without any help from his family…

There really is no point to all of this except that I don’t think I’ve ever been this angry in my entire life. And I know there isn''t much I can do about it now but it just hit me that I''m stressing over the guest list because of them when they really are just horrible people. So...I think my guest list is about to lose some weight
