Wedding Quick question: Friend''s gf''s invitation

[violet02]

So my ''man of honor'' just got serious gf about 3 months ago. She''s invited to my bachelorette party and shower (both in sept) and now the wedding (in oct.).

Originally my ''man of honor'' was going to get his invite sent to his house with his brothers name on it too since they both live together.

What''s the proper way to include his gf? Do I
a) put Mr. (man of honor), Mr. (man of honor''s bro), Ms. (man of honor''s gf) - address etc.
b) Send her her own invite.

The ONLY caveat I have about b) is what if they break up? I do like her a lot though regardless. I also think though cramming three names on an invite seems kind of lame as well.

 

[brooklyngirl]

I vote for option B. If they break up, how you sent your invitations will have no bearing on whether she attends the wedding. I am sure that if it comes to that, she will not want to attend.

 

[neatfreak]

Can I ask why there isn't an option C? 3 months is a short time to be dating and "serious"...you never know what will happen.

I personally would send his brother his OWN invite and then send one to Mr. Man of Honor, with his GF's name on the inside with his. That way you aren't cramming, but you also aren't inviting the GF on her own accord, which could be weird for Man of Honor if something were to happen before the wedding and she showed up anyway, KWIM?

 

[nclrgirl]

I agree with neatfreak

 

[ladyciel]

Date: 7/3/2008 7:11:24 PM
Author: neatfreak
Can I ask why there isn''t an option C? 3 months is a short time to be dating and ''serious''...you never know what will happen.


I personally would send his brother his OWN invite and then send one to Mr. Man of Honor, with his GF''s name on the inside with his. That way you aren''t cramming, but you also aren''t inviting the GF on her own accord, which could be weird for Man of Honor if something were to happen before the wedding and she showed up anyway, KWIM?

What she said. My brothers are at college and share an apartment together. They''re both in serious relationships, but the girls do not live with them. I sent two invitations to their apartment, one addressed to each of them. The GFs were included on the inside envelope.

 

[violet02]

Okay now that''s not a bad idea but how about this caveat....

Mr. Man of Honor''s brother is to put it simply kind of crazy. Ever since his divorce he''s being losing it and honestly neither myself nor his brother really want him to go but he will FLIP OUT if he''s not invited.

So we figured if we put Mr. Man of Honor, Mr Man of Honor''s brother, he''d get a token invite/shout out but he wouldn''t have invite in hand and he''s flakey anyways so he''d forget about it probably. With his own invite, he and his whacky on again/off again gf might decide it''s good to show up because he''ll definitely have the invite as a reminder.

Complicated I know. My friend was going to just flash the invite at his brother and then put it away.

 

[Sabine]

In that case, I would send the separate invite to the gf. She''s already invited to other wedding related activities, so it shouldn''t be too weird to get her own invite to the wedding. And if they break up, they break up. She probably wouldn''t still come to the shower/bparty, so why would she feel weird not coming to the wedding?

 

[Guilty Pleasure]

Definitely option B. If you like her enough to invite her to the shower and bachelorette party - where she will be spending money on celebrating you- then she warrants her own invitation. Anyone who is invited to a shower should be invited to the actual wedding. I''m sure she would not want to come to the wedding if they broke up anyway. I bet the girl would appreciate her own invitation. I know that I have always appreciated it when a boyfriend''s friends sent me my own invitation because it made me feel like they were my friends too and not just looking at me as a guy''s sidekick.


You also might ask the MOH how he feels about it. He''d probably have the best idea and be able to give you a good idea about their seriousness or what he feels would be appropriate. I wouldn''t stress about it though

 

[zoebartlett]

Date: 7/3/2008 7:11:24 PM
Author: neatfreak
Can I ask why there isn''t an option C? 3 months is a short time to be dating and ''serious''...you never know what will happen.

I personally would send his brother his OWN invite and then send one to Mr. Man of Honor, with his GF''s name on the inside with his. That way you aren''t cramming, but you also aren''t inviting the GF on her own accord, which could be weird for Man of Honor if something were to happen before the wedding and she showed up anyway, KWIM?

I was wondering about a third option as well, and I''d do exactly what Neatfreak would do.

 

[Gypsy]

In that case, just send her a separate invite. If you don''t want crazy bro to attend ... that seems like the best option.