Wedding Question re how to give a gift

[newbie124]

So silly, ignorant me, but I didn''t figure out until I started getting into wedding planning that guests should not bring their gifts to the actual wedding, but instead ship it to the couple beforehand.

I just recently purchased some nice Riedel stemware for a friend''s wedding and am wondering if it would be OK for me to somehow give it to her in person beforehand? I didn''t want to ship it b/c I''m afraid of the glass getting broken.

We live in the same city and actually work a block away from each other. We chat at least a few times a week although we don''t necessarily see each other in person as often (maybe once every few months). It''d be a little out of the way for us to bring it by their home, but I''d also feel weird just giving it to her after work and making her carry it home herself.

I guess I''m just not sure what the best way to approach this would be and if there are any etiquette rules on what would be most proper in this situation?

 

[clop]

Hi Newbie,

I''m also not up to date on wedding etiquette too, so my suggestion may not be the proper one.

Could you call her or her moh and ask which she''d prefer? You can call to say hi, and maybe meet for lunch, and inquire how she would like her present delivered. If you do end up bringing it to the wedding, it shouldn''t be a big deal - inevitably not everyone ships their gifts, so they usually have a gift table, or someone assigned to take care of the gifts.

Hope that helps. I''m also curious to what etiquette dictates.

 

[Sabine]

I would suggest just mentioning to her one day that you''d like to give her the gift so you don''t have to bring it to the actual wedding, and ask if there was a day you could drop it by her work that wouldn''t be a hassle for her (unless she takes public transportation).

 

[newbie124]

Thanks for chiming in, clop and Sabine!

I think that''s a good idea to just ask her and see what she''d prefer. I guess I originally thought it''d be weird to bring it up, but this would definitely make sense.

 

[Pandora II]

Half my gifts were sent and the other half were brought to the wedding.

DH and I had a great evening unwrapping them all last night - I vote for bringing to the wedding!

 

[miraclesrule]

It is inevitable that people will bring a gift to the actual wedding. As Pandora noted, most people get a bunch in the mail and the rest are brought to the reception. There is usually always a gift table set up in the reception area.

My daughter and SIL had a gift opening party with family the day after the wedding and we all ate the grooms cake and left over wedding cake.

So, don''t worry, you aren''t breaking any etiquette rules...and if you are...well, I bet you will be in good company.