NakedFinger
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I didnt want to invade your TTC thread, since I am not TTC (yet!
), but I have a question!
My SIL's friend has been TTC for the last year. After trying naturally with no success, they got tested, have implantation problems, and went onto invitro with two railed rounds. She finally got pregnant but it was ectopic and had to be aborted today, and she is devastated. Her other friend, at 28 years old, after trying, found out she went through early menopause and cant conceive.
Her IV friend put it well when she said "You spend half your life trying NOT to get pregnant, and then when you finally want to you cant". Its funny, I always assumed that when I wanted to get pregnant, I would. Simple as that. But the truth is on this forum alone I hear so many problems.
My question is, did you know ahead of time, going into TTC that there were any "obstacles" for you or your DH, or do you find out about things like this after? Lazy ovaries, tilted uterus, early menopause, low sperm count, history of ectopic pregnancy (is that genetic?)miscarriages, etc etc. So much is out there...does it just come as a surprise when TTC proves unsuccessful? Or did you know ahead of time (or can you find out ahead of time) if there will be challenges? I guess I'm wondering because it matters how soon you start to "try" if you know it might take longer?
Sorry for rambling, its just hearing all this has got my jolted.
My SIL's friend has been TTC for the last year. After trying naturally with no success, they got tested, have implantation problems, and went onto invitro with two railed rounds. She finally got pregnant but it was ectopic and had to be aborted today, and she is devastated. Her other friend, at 28 years old, after trying, found out she went through early menopause and cant conceive.
Her IV friend put it well when she said "You spend half your life trying NOT to get pregnant, and then when you finally want to you cant". Its funny, I always assumed that when I wanted to get pregnant, I would. Simple as that. But the truth is on this forum alone I hear so many problems.
My question is, did you know ahead of time, going into TTC that there were any "obstacles" for you or your DH, or do you find out about things like this after? Lazy ovaries, tilted uterus, early menopause, low sperm count, history of ectopic pregnancy (is that genetic?)miscarriages, etc etc. So much is out there...does it just come as a surprise when TTC proves unsuccessful? Or did you know ahead of time (or can you find out ahead of time) if there will be challenges? I guess I'm wondering because it matters how soon you start to "try" if you know it might take longer?
Sorry for rambling, its just hearing all this has got my jolted.