Wedding Planning Procrastination

[blissfulbride]

We will have been engaged for 2 years by the time we get married and even though we planned it this way in order to save it been a while. So now that the wedding is now 9 months away. The excitement that I once had is gone and im no longer as motivated as I was when we got engaged. My mom tell me im in denial because when she bring up the wedding I change the subject, because just thinking about it stresses me out. It has nothing to do with my fiance. I can''t wait to finally be his wife. It''s just dont have the excited energy for the planning. People ask me questions about things all the time and when I tell them I haven''t done that yet they think im crazy lol

Anything I can do to get me motivated ?

 

[Shoopy]

Well…I’ve never planned a wedding so I don’t know how long you need to plan everything but I will tell you this:

My best friend started talking about planning her wedding when she had about 15 months left. Then nothing until 9 months when she started talking about it again.

Now she has four months left and hasn’t done a single thing except send over pictures of pretty things…and the location she originally wanted is now booked solid for the two weekends before, day of, and two weekends after the date she wanted to get married.

So get moving girl!

 

[mimzy]

it depends!

if you are the sort of person that needs stress to be motivated, make a list of all the things you have to take care of still (mine is currently three pages long) and keep it tacked up somewhere and make it a goal to cross two things off a week, even if they are small things.

if you are the sort of person that buckles under stress, write one thing down and tack it up on your door/mirror/refrigerator a week, and that''s your only responsibility for the week. CAKE. DECIDE FLOWERS. WEDDING BAND. something like that.

also depending on your style it might help to plan planning time (although some people this stresses them out more i think). that way you are dedicated to do at least SOMETHING in that time, even if it isn''t a lot.

start with the second most fun thing first, then tell yourself you have to figure out _____, ________, and _______ before you start working on the *most* fun thing (dress maybe? i don''t remember if you have one yet!)

worst comes to worst, delegate and match their efforts. or better yet, get some one to do it along side you.

hopefully once you get into it it will become more fun than you are anticipating. good luck!

 

[bee*]

I have a long engagement too (19 months) and I have 11 months left. I just booked most of the big things when we first got engaged and I''ve taken the last couple of months out from the wedding planning as I had exams, holidays and moving house. Is there anything in particular that''s stressing your out? Do you have most of the bigger things booked? I haven''t been stressed out about mine, I know that it will all work out on the day but I do need to start doing some of the planning again soon.

 

[blissfulbride]

1- I have my dress

2- sent out the save the dates

3- Venue is booked


Next up is the bridesmaids dresses, and we are going shopping for that in september. Just for now im going to do one thinking at a time, and then when the time comes closer I guess I''ll have to get moving.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Don''t sweat it--you''re probably not feeling motivated because 9 months is still so far away. You have the top 3 things done, so unless you have your heart set on specific vendors (a certain photographer or a caterer you MUST have), it''s not a big deal. We had a 7-month engagement and we booked the venue, got the dress and sent out the STD''s within a month or so, then we didn''t do a single thing until 3 months beforehand. If planning a wedding is not your cup of tea, break up the tasks between you and your FI, I found that to be really helpful. Or start with something fun like menu or cake tasting. In 3 months we went to 3 cake tastings, though we knew what we wanted after the first time. It was our favorite part!