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[Abby12]

Started a new thread to make it easier....

Gypsy! Still no budging from JA about money i want and am owed according to lawyer.
I am staying here for now to save the money since he will not pay, but would rather leave.
Was just wondering if you have any other tActics i should employ, think i should give up or just continue not talking.
I know he really wants me out now that his child knows amd has knowm for a week.

 

[Gypsy]

Okay. So here's the thing.

You aren't gonna get it all.
List what you want out of this, in order of importance and let's see what I can do to advise you.

 

[Abby12]

15k
He applies for divorce
I leave as soon as agreement signed (well a few weeks so i
can book mover)

That is it!

He does not want to pay me a dime so i am staying in house until i save money.

 

[Gypsy]

15k
He applies for divorce
I leave as soon as agreement signed (well a few weeks so i
can book mover)

That is it!

He does not want to pay me a dime so i am staying in house until i save money.

I think you need to adjust your goals.

The 15k is gone. And it's not coming back. Don't stick around and put yourself through this for that.

Here's what *I* think your goals should be:

He initiates mediation.
He agrees to no spousal support and no child support, ever. Acknowledges in writing that HE will never seek either. In exchange you agree to walk away from any interest in the house, and the 15k he owes you. And that you will never seek either of those.
You get a reasonable time, after the agreement is signed, to move (3-4 weeks) to move out.


The first step to that is to get him to go for mediation.
It's the holidays. It's going to be hard for you to be there. But it is going to be hard for him to have you there too.
Talk to your lawyer. Give her the goals above. And ask her to contact his lawyer with the request that he initiate mediation IF he agrees to the rest. If he does-- start mediation.

 

[Abby12]

He already agrees to the rest of what you said...
Walking away from any money from him makes me feel unempowered, walked all over and used.
15k was me bargaining as i could ask for quite a bit more.

He is sitting pretty now courtesy of me.....but i know where your coming from.

I will consider it.

 

[Gypsy]

Does he have 15k to give you?

 

[Abby12]

He has a line of credit.....
After all he has hardly any expenses.....
And he makes decent money!