okay,a weird Q... how can you still say (my E-ring) after you ...

[Dancing Fire]

traded in thee "original" (upgraded) that was given to you by your FI?.

 

[iheartscience]

Probably because a ring is just a symbol.

 

[Kaleigh]

Because you upgraded the ering for a NEW ering... Just as if you got a new wedding band, the new wedding band would still be a wedding band.. Same goes for the ering.

 

[Bliss]

Well, if someone lost their wedding band and replaced it, that band would still be their wedding band. And you would still call it your wedding band because it's the meaning behind it that matters.

Like Thing2of2 said - it's what it means in your heart. A marriage can be just a piece of paper or something beautiful that lasts forever.

The holidays have DF all riled up and feisty, I see.

 

[AprilBaby]

Its still an e-ring, just a different one!

 

[Dancing Fire]

IMO...there should only be one Ering.the ring that was "proposed" to you with.

 

[merrijoy]

Date: 12/23/2009 10:35:14 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
IMO...there should only be one Ering.the ring that was ''proposed'' to you with.

So what IYO should you call the ring on your engagement finger if you lost the ring that was proposed to you with and replaced it?

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/23/2009 10:55:17 PM
Author: merrijoy

Date: 12/23/2009 10:35:14 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
IMO...there should only be one Ering.the ring that was ''proposed'' to you with.

So what IYO should you call the ring on your engagement finger if you lost the ring that was proposed to you with and replaced it?

an replacement ring.

 

[lilyfoot]

Date: 12/23/2009 10:35:14 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
IMO...there should only be one Ering.the ring that was ''proposed'' to you with.

In a weird way, I actually agree with you, and have thought the same thing many times myself while browsing PS.

However, I don''t know what else it would be called ..

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

That''s the main thing that stops me upgrading. I''m too sentimental to think of another ring as my e-ring. I can upgrade my RHRs forever, though.

 

[Rhea]

Date: 12/24/2009 12:14:39 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 12/23/2009 10:55:17 PM
Author: merrijoy

Date: 12/23/2009 10:35:14 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
IMO...there should only be one Ering.the ring that was ''proposed'' to you with.

So what IYO should you call the ring on your engagement finger if you lost the ring that was proposed to you with and replaced it?

an replacement ring.

"Wow! You have a georgous engagement ring."

"Thank you. But actually, it''s not an engagment ring."

"I''m sorry?"

"You see, I never received an "engagement ring" because he didn''t propose, we just picked a ring together. Then, the ring was stolen. So we call this my non-engagement, replacement diamond ring."

"Uh, yeah..."

 

[perry]

Oh boy... Some guys don''t get it (and as a guy I think I can say that).

It''s still an engangement ring.... becasue.... If you (the guy) do not do what''s necessary to stay actively "engaged" to your "legal" wife; you will not have much of a marriage or much of a life together.

Of course, it also applies to the gals as well. They need to be actively engaging their "legal" husband as well....

I see far to many "married" couples who are mearly coexisting in life with little, if any, spark at all. Why do you think about 1/2 of all marrages fail... It''s because one or both of the partners forget that they are engaged (susposedly for life) - and they have to take actions to stay engaged.

So here is to replacement and upgraded engagement rings.

Of course, I do understand that the original ring may have sentimental value. But, for many people - the current excitement in their life concerning their engagment to their mate is more important.

A guy getting his wife an upgraded engagement ring can be a very powerful part of the continuing engagement (of course, a ring by itself with no other meaning is only worth its cash value - and may even have negative emotional value).

Perry

 

[aliceinwonderland]

Perry,

I think that is a really great way of putting it...engagement as a commitment to be engaged with your partner!

 

[Upgradable]

I call it "my diamond."

 

[HVVS]

Date: 12/23/2009 10:35:14 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
IMO...there should only be one Ering.the ring that was 'proposed' to you with.

Well, it *is* that way, lol. There's one e-ring (two or more would be excessive and cause financial hardship,) and the successors are upgrades. Do we not post "Here's my upgrade"?

What was the question, again? Engaged? In what?

 

[somethingshiny]

I refer to my upgrade as an "anniversary piece." It is not a classic e-ring style and I don't wear a wedding band with it (although I have full intentions of rhodium plating a channel set band to wear next to it).

Personally, I would only feel comfortable calling an upgrade an e-ring if it was upgraded while still engaged before the marriage. Otherwise, it wouldn't technically be an "engagement" it would be a "marriage" ring or something.

However, I have no problem with what people choose to call their rings. It would be a mouthful to always say "this is my upgraded engagement ring."


eta- in response to Addy's dialogue, that's just silly. If someone walks up to you and says, "Gosh you look great. Looks like you've slimmed down." You say "thanks" and assume you look good today. You don't go into detail about your diet and exercise and that you've actually gained 5 lbs with all the Holiday cookies."

 

[joelly]

It''s a strange but true question. I am actually wearing the ring that he didn''t use to propose. He proposed to me with another ring in Mar09. Then in Jun09 he bought me another ring. I wear that one more often (cause I like new stuff

) and call it my e-ring because he gave it to me while we are still in the engagement period. If that makes sense.

 

[Dreamer_D]

I like just calling it "My diamond". Good one.

 

[yssie]

As someone who's upgraded, I have trouble calling my new pretty my "engagement ring" as it's not the one FI proposed with. The setting of the ring he proposed with would have needed to be changed anyway, though, as there were several structural problems..


Even if it's not THE ring, my current iteration is no less meaningful - it's just a way to show that we're both still committed to being engaged, and to getting married and spending our lives together, and that's ultimately the important thing. That said, I'm sentimental enough that I won't be upgrading this ring for a very, very long time - not til the setting wears out, in fact, and not just for financial reasons - it's important to me to keep both rings I'll be married with next year. And another upgrade before we get married just ain't gonna happen

.

 

[CaliSun]

Date: 12/24/2009 8:35:14 AM
Author: perry
Oh boy... Some guys don't get it (and as a guy I think I can say that).

It's still an engangement ring.... becasue.... If you (the guy) do not do what's necessary to stay actively 'engaged' to your 'legal' wife; you will not have much of a marriage or much of a life together.

Of course, it also applies to the gals as well. They need to be actively engaging their 'legal' husband as well....

I see far to many 'married' couples who are mearly coexisting in life with little, if any, spark at all. Why do you think about 1/2 of all marrages fail... It's because one or both of the partners forget that they are engaged (susposedly for life) - and they have to take actions to stay engaged.

So here is to replacement and upgraded engagement rings.

Of course, I do understand that the original ring may have sentimental value. But, for many people - the current excitement in their life concerning their engagment to their mate is more important.

A guy getting his wife an upgraded engagement ring can be a very powerful part of the continuing engagement (of course, a ring by itself with no other meaning is only worth its cash value - and may even have negative emotional value).

Perry

Well said, Perry!

I agree with both you, and DancingFire.

The ring that my hubby originally proposed to me with will always be my 'original e-ring' and holds very significant meaning to me. I wouldn't give it up for the world!
However, we agreed to an upgrade at our 5th anni since the e-ring I was given was a family heirloom - not a ring purchased just for me.
It is so special to me as it symbolizes so much. Not just about our relationship, but of his family's support of our relationship to the extent that they were willing to give up an heirloom so he could propose...

The e-ring upgrade ended up becoming a wedding set upgrade as my wedding band (shared prong setting) began to lose stones and I was told by several jewelers that it wasn't made well enough to go the distance

So, I wouldn't feel funny calling my new ring MY e-ring, because the original I was given wasn't originally purchased for me....
But I have been calling it my wonderful anni gift from my loving hubby. It's really both!

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 12/24/2009 7:17:48 AM
Author: Mrs Mitchell
That''s the main thing that stops me upgrading. I''m too sentimental to think of another ring as my e-ring. I can upgrade my RHRs forever, though.

I''m with you on that one, Mrs. Mitchell. I''m on the sentimental side too but I''m of the mind that RHRs can definitely be upgraded!

 

[junebug17]

to tell you the truth, at almost age 50, I just call my new wedding set "my anniversary present" (given to me for our 25th). There's really no need for me to call it anything else, I really don't have to use the term "engagement ring". These rings are certainly packed with meaning and sentiment, even though they are not the original rings we were married with. This new set was given to me by my husband with much love, and they represent our marriage, so that's really all that matters to me. I lost my e-ring some years back, and still have my wb, but now I can enjoy a wedding set that we just couldn't afford when we started out. And this set marks a milestone anniversary, which makes it very special to me!

 

[Ashleigh]

I put on too much weight and have to have a new wedding band, hoping one day my finger can fit into the old one again. But it''s still called my wedding band.

I did resize my ering though since it was purely platinum with no milgrain (1st wedding band was too complicated to be resized according to my jeweler.)

 

[lyra]

Well, since my proposal 26 years ago consisted of "Hey I picked up the ring, it''s in the glovebox.", I feel I can call my jewelery whatever I want... It kind of all started with a general lack of sentiment really, which can be fine. It''s just a material object that is symbolic of something else.

(BTW, he''ll never live that lack of proposal down. It still haunts him to this day. heehee)

 

[setell]

Eh I guess I''m in the group that don''t really care what you call it because at the end of the day the ring is just a ring. I returned the original ring my FI proposed with and is wearing this beautiful ring I worked hard to get it the exact way I envisioned my E-ring to be. I have no urge to ever replace the ring but I told my FI that for our 10 year wedding anniversary I want a big fat upgrade

I was thinking 1ct before but after PS...hehehe for my big upgrade I want it to be 1.5 to 2ct''s!!! Of course this is assuming we''re still together then too but I got faith we will since come January it''ll be 6 years for us! Woo hoo!!!! I mean...our 10 year wedding anniversary could mean we''ve been together for 20 years so wanting a big rock is justifiable!

 

[coda72]

I didn''t trade in my orginal wedding set, just got a new one to wear on days I don''t feel like wearing the original set. Furthermore I never technically had an ering because my hubby asked me to marry him without a ring. I picked out a ring and we got married with it. I added a wedding band later because I got tired of people asking me when we''re getting married.

 

[movie zombie]

Date: 12/24/2009 8:35:14 AM
Author: perry
Oh boy... Some guys don''t get it (and as a guy I think I can say that).

It''s still an engangement ring.... becasue.... If you (the guy) do not do what''s necessary to stay actively ''engaged'' to your ''legal'' wife; you will not have much of a marriage or much of a life together.

Of course, it also applies to the gals as well. They need to be actively engaging their ''legal'' husband as well....

I see far to many ''married'' couples who are mearly coexisting in life with little, if any, spark at all. Why do you think about 1/2 of all marrages fail... It''s because one or both of the partners forget that they are engaged (susposedly for life) - and they have to take actions to stay engaged.

So here is to replacement and upgraded engagement rings.

Of course, I do understand that the original ring may have sentimental value. But, for many people - the current excitement in their life concerning their engagment to their mate is more important.

A guy getting his wife an upgraded engagement ring can be a very powerful part of the continuing engagement (of course, a ring by itself with no other meaning is only worth its cash value - and may even have negative emotional value).

Perry

well said!

mz

 

[Laila619]

Because it''s still a ring(s) you wear on your left hand to show you are engaged and/or married. Therefore, they are still called an engagement ring and wedding band.

 

[junebug17]

Date: 12/31/2009 4:14:53 PM
Author: Laila619
Because it''s still a ring(s) you wear on your left hand to show you are engaged and/or married. Therefore, they are still called an engagement ring and wedding band.

That''s exactly the way I look at it Laila!

 

[Steel]

Hmmm,

DF will this be used in Court?

Are PS descriptions legally binding?