Octavia Asscher do you remember?

[mary poppins]

Date: 5/20/2010 10:03:39 AM
Author: Lady_Disdain
What a sweet woman (not).


If she ever brings the subject up again, I would go into all the technical details of why the two rings are completely different, with as much lingo as you can possibly use. Make it very, very apparent that the only reason she thinks the two rings are similar is because she knows zip about diamonds and fine jewelry.

+1

My thoughts, exactly. Although the rings may look similar to people who aren''t familiar with details like PSers are, they are actually very different. If anyone raises the topic again, use the opportunity to "educate" the person, especially your tacky, jealous SIL. Do so with confidence about your knowledge and excitement to share it rather than being defensive.

Oh, and your ring is beautiful.

 

[debi1960]

Thanks!

The funny thing is I did compliment Felicia when she got her ring and told her it was perfect and that I had never seen such a beautiful engagement ring. I also complimented my nephew.

I know she is crazy - but it still made me feel bad. I am going to get over it - because I will not let her win. (I secretly hope she does stay home for my son''s party).

 

[AprilBaby]

Wear yours with pride, it is unique! And I hope they stay away from your party!

 

[gardengloves]

The craziest thing about this whole story, is you could have been her best ally helping SIL get the upgrade she so badly and obviously wants. Worked with her and brother to find something that doesn''t break the bank, helped ease the whole process for her.

With your PS information and sources, you could have helped her get a killer cut, instead, blinding jealously pushed you away, and rightly so. It''s really sad she is also going to punish your son by not attending his graduation. Not that you will miss her, but really that is taking it very far...

The craziest part of the whole thing is there are no copy cat Octavias.... there is only one....

Feel good Deb, and please post more pictures of your gorgeous ring!

 

[Tuckins1]

She is just uninformed, and a jealous beee-atch!! I know WAY too many people who think that all square shaped stones are princess.... They just don''t know any better. But, for her to insinuate that you would copy her band, or are copying off of others- she''s just trying to steal your thunder. Don''t let her.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 5/20/2010 9:01:27 AM
Author: debi1960
Here''s the kicker, I am having my son''s high school graduation party in June and I don''t think my sister in law will be attending because of this. I don''t know if my niece and nephew are coming either. My brother told me he would definitely be there.

My motto in life is that you are not responsible for crazy. If someone wants to be insecure and crazy and unreasonable then you have absolutely no responsibility to play into their craziness. And this snippet from your post clearly shows that she is crazy. Over a ring

Really? When dealing with crazy people, I always ignore the crazy and just carry on with my own reasonable behaviour. So if she comments again, ignore it and change the subject. If she is not coming, say "Oh, too bad!" and change the subject.

You really do need to move on mentally from this. She does not deseve one second of thought.

 

[Natylad]

That woman is insane and ridiculous. She has also turned green from jealousy

IGNORE HER...COMPLETELY...
And honestly Debi...i think that when you own such a true diamond perfection (ah, the beloved Octavia

) NOTHING should upset you

You should be very busy enjoying your amazing diamond and not have any time to give a second thought to all that crap...

Your ring is divine!!!

 

[Circe]

Your SIL sounds ... special.

My suggestion for irrational behavior is always to just keep your temper and play dumb. She says something outrageous? Blink at her. Slowly. Take the time to keep your temper, and just say "I''m not following you," as deadpan as you can. Past a certain point, even the most passive aggressive (or aggressive-aggressive) types will start to realize they sound a little silly. And if they don''t, well, you can briskly say "What? How silly." Dismiss them, and move on. When it comes to confrontation, less really is more - and if you leave them sputtering, they will (deservedly) be the ones who are left feeling ridiculous.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 5/21/2010 2:26:32 PM
Author: Circe
Your SIL sounds ... special.

My suggestion for irrational behavior is always to just keep your temper and play dumb. She says something outrageous? Blink at her. Slowly. Take the time to keep your temper, and just say ''I''m not following you,'' as deadpan as you can. Past a certain point, even the most passive aggressive (or aggressive-aggressive) types will start to realize they sound a little silly. And if they don''t, well, you can briskly say ''What? How silly.'' Dismiss them, and move on. When it comes to confrontation, less really is more - and if you leave them sputtering, they will (deservedly) be the ones who are left feeling ridiculous.

How I love that word....so descriptive.....

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 5/21/2010 2:26:32 PM
Author: Circe
Your SIL sounds ... special.

My suggestion for irrational behavior is always to just keep your temper and play dumb. She says something outrageous? Blink at her. Slowly. Take the time to keep your temper, and just say ''I''m not following you,'' as deadpan as you can. Past a certain point, even the most passive aggressive (or aggressive-aggressive) types will start to realize they sound a little silly. And if they don''t, well, you can briskly say ''What? How silly.'' Dismiss them, and move on. When it comes to confrontation, less really is more - and if you leave them sputtering, they will (deservedly) be the ones who are left feeling ridiculous.

I like this method. I am making notes for the future here.

 

[Maisie]

I wouldn''t put up with this sort of bad behaviour. I would say something like ''Oh no, its nothing like her ring. Mine is an Octavia. Did you know there are only a handful of these diamonds in the world? Very exclusive dear.''

 

[NOYFB]

Ugh. Sorry your sis-in-law is being so catty. I feel your pain. My sis-in-law (Dh''s brother''s wife) is the same way. When I got my upgrade she just looked at it and, instead of complimenting it''s beauty, she said "Eh, I''m just not into diamonds". Meanwhile, she hasn''t worn her marquise E-ring in many years, and when she did it was always FILTHY! You could tell that she never cleaned the damn thing. Within the last year she started wearing a fake (from Kohl''s) eternity-looking band, I guess just to have *something* to prove she was married. Well, when I got my eternity band last year for my birthday, which I personally designed, she had the nerve to post a comment on one of the pics of it on my Facebook page that said "I have the same exact ring!!! Guess how much it cost? $10!" I was so offended and told her that it was impossible for her to have the same ring since mine was a custom design. I mean, really? How catty! Grrr....I have other stories about her, but I won''t hijack this thread for those. LOL


Wear your ring with pride and don''t let her jealousy bother you. She clearly has issues. And you have an amazingly beautiful ring, so there!

 

[debi1960]

Thanks again everyone. If she doesn''t come to my son''s graduation - she will be at our cousin''s wedding on July 10th. It will be very interesting to see how she acts - I know she won''t pull anything around my husband. At least I don''t think she will.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 5/21/2010 8:11:43 PM
Author: debi1960
Thanks again everyone. If she doesn''t come to my son''s graduation - she will be at our cousin''s wedding on July 10th. It will be very interesting to see how she acts - I know she won''t pull anything around my husband. At least I don''t think she will.

I wouldn''t worry Debi, be your usual graceful self and if she doesn''t behave it will be herself she is showing up, not you.