need your opinion please ...how would you feel?

[HornAround]

Date: 5/14/2009 3:48:13 AM
Author: loriken214

Date: 5/12/2009 5:17:44 PM

Author: HornAround

edited to not feed the troll....

HA.....WHAT is your avatar????

Lori

It''s Rosie O''Nasty at her finest!

 

[crown1]

i doubt if you are still reading this (op) but i will answer the question you asked. my humble opinion is that he should have ponied up for equal or better if he has the means.

 

[joelly]

I truly hope her story is a fake story, otherwise I am so sorry for her. IMO, there is noone can help this kind of woman, obviously she cannot be alone and ANY guy will do for this type of women.

There are many types out there. This one is pretty common these days with highly educated women who in fact is very poor in other dept. They usually label themselves as an independent woman. But there is nothing independent about this one. I can''t believe this one is actually a mother. If this in fact by choice, then she should grow up FAST.

 

[movie zombie]

you are entitled to your feelings and on that you are not wrong. but, yes, you are out of line and wrong in this instance: you are an enabler who is very comfortable in paying his expenses and his way in this relationship so he has no reason to put your feelings first or to even really work at it. as long as you enable him to put himself first, he will. to now expect that he won''t is very unrealistic. accept him as he is and how you created this relationship or get the heck out. if you decide to get out, you may want to find out why you tolerated this in the first place....and, no, its not that you''re a generous person.

mz

abreviated version: kick him out and use that extra $ not supporting him and his lifestyle to buy yourself a ring, pay for some counseling, and move on to a real man.

 

[Sha]

I think we're beating up on the OP too much. How many of us have been in bad relationships in the past, and stayed in them for longer than we should have (for a number of reasons), despite a lot of red flags along the way? I'm an independent, intelligent, confident woman, and I've been in such a relationship, although I'm not proud to admit it. Hindsight is 20/20, but when you're in the midst of not-so-stelllar relationship (which may also have its good points), it's definitely more difficult to see all the bad things that others may see. So while we may see some red flags here, looking at the relationship from the outside - let's not automatically assume that the OP is a clueless doormat or a troll, or that we haven't made relationship mistakes along the way ourselves.

 

[joelly]

Date: 5/14/2009 1:43:58 PM
Author: Sha
I think we''re beating up on the OP too much. How many of us have been in bad relationships in the past, and stayed in them for longer than we should have (for a number of reasons), despite a lot of red flags along the way? I''m an independent, intelligent, confident woman, and I''ve been in such a relationship, although I''m not proud to admit it. Hindsight is 20/20, but when you''re in the midst of not-so-stelllar relationship (which may also have its good points), it''s definitely more difficult to see all the bad things that others may see. So while we may see some red flags here, looking at the relationship from the outside - let''s not automatically assume that the OP is a clueless doormat or a troll, or that we haven''t made relationship mistakes along the way ourselves.

Yes, you''re right. I''ve been in a very bad relationship before. I was 24 and he was 36. I thought he was very mature and sort of a father figure. BUT I didn''t pay for his expenses. He is pretty well off. He proposed to me and I said I will think about it. That same night after he proposed, he then dropped me off to my place as usual. I found out later that he was with someone else that same night (after he proposed). When I confronted him, he said he need it to boost his self confidence. He said he loves me, I am everything to him, blah blah blah.
I broke it off with him about a week later, after I asked myself do I really badly want a relationship so badly that it is ok for him to cheat on me like that. I sent him the ring and everything else he has given me. I thought he doesn''t deserve it for me to actually hand deliver them.
I thought I was going to be devastated but I wasn''t. I took care of myself, go to the gym, join a tennis club in my local community, join the choir at church, and now I thought to myself, hmmm I love getting to know me. IT IS HARD WORK but I thought to myself, if it doesn''t kill you it should made you strong.
Fast forward five years later, I met my dear FI who has not stop treating me like I am a little princess. I thought I am done with relationship until I met him.

I hope that the OP story is only a fake story. Otherwise, I feel really sorry for her and her children.

IT IS HARD to get out of the relationship, thats don''t stay too long with someone unless you know for sure this is it. You need to heed the signs and don''t simply ignore it by justifying it all the time. If you tell lies to yourself all the time, you will soon believe it.

Forgive my rant.

 

[HornAround]

Date: 5/14/2009 3:48:13 AM
Author: loriken214

Date: 5/12/2009 5:17:44 PM

Author: HornAround

edited to not feed the troll....

HA.....WHAT is your avatar????

Lori

Loriken, you're a Rockets fan, kickass! I'm wearing my rockets shirt as we speak. Was that game awesome or what last night? We pushed those softie Lakers around all game long. Can't wait for sunday!

 

[tlh]

since the OP hasn''t come back to respond........

 

[joelly]

Our replies frightened her.

 

[Imdanny]

LOL.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 5/12/2009 7:22:34 PM
Author: HollyS

Date: 5/12/2009 6:15:40 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
paid for his tanning?? stick that turkey in the oven and turn it to broil, he''ll get a nice tan alright.

ROFLMAO!!!

This has got to be my favourite DF quote EVER.

 

[HollyS]

Date: 5/16/2009 7:19:16 AM
Author: Lorelei

Date: 5/12/2009 7:22:34 PM
Author: HollyS

Date: 5/12/2009 6:15:40 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
paid for his tanning?? stick that turkey in the oven and turn it to broil, he''ll get a nice tan alright.

ROFLMAO!!!

This has got to be my favourite DF quote EVER.

And he''s had some doozies! But, I swear, this one had me guffawing out loud!

In one sentence, DF can convey everything that needs saying.

It''s a rare talent; one I envy.

 

[lovegem]

Date: 5/12/2009 1:41:49 PM
Author: woodlandsmonica
no he doesnt help out with bills and such but he does help me with my kids at times when i have to work and i cant get them to where they need to go. he is a good guy, we have fun and make each other laugh...i was just hurt by the replacement ring not being the same as the orginal

You can find a babysitter to look after your kids.. probably a lot less expensive than this guy.

 

[Steel]

VRBeauty - You called it

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Date: 5/12/2009 5:22:03 PM
Author: purrfectpear
Ladies, if this isn''t made up drama (aka trolling for reaction) I''ll eat my keyboard.

Puhleeze....

If you''re going to troll us, at least make it good. You went over the top when you told us you were paying for his tanning.

PP: Your keyboard is safe to type another day!

 

[loriken214]

Date: 5/15/2009 3:48:25 PM
Author: HornAround

Date: 5/14/2009 3:48:13 AM
Author: loriken214

Date: 5/12/2009 5:17:44 PM

Author: HornAround

edited to not feed the troll....

HA.....WHAT is your avatar????

Lori

Loriken, you''re a Rockets fan, kickass! I''m wearing my rockets shirt as we speak. Was that game awesome or what last night? We pushed those softie Lakers around all game long. Can''t wait for sunday!

YOU BET.....tomorrow night''s the night!!!! Luis and Aaron are my favorites....they can run circles around anyone and everyone!!!

LOVE YOUR AVATAR!

Lori

 

[loriken214]

Date: 5/16/2009 1:02:47 PM
Author: HollyS

Date: 5/16/2009 7:19:16 AM
Author: Lorelei

Date: 5/12/2009 7:22:34 PM
Author: HollyS

Date: 5/12/2009 6:15:40 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
paid for his tanning?? stick that turkey in the oven and turn it to broil, he''ll get a nice tan alright.

ROFLMAO!!!

This has got to be my favourite DF quote EVER.

And he''s had some doozies! But, I swear, this one had me guffawing out loud!

In one sentence, DF can convey everything that needs saying.

It''s a rare talent; one I envy.

My thoughts exactly.....this should go in DF''s HALL OF FAME/SHAME!

Lori