Need a bit of Advice

[Jessie702]

Okay, fellow PS'ers, im just wondering if you could give me a bit of advice. Its a long story.....So last night while talking with my mother, i found out that my sister is moving out of her house, due to work, which i think is great. The house is too big for her, but my mother told to me, about how my sisters roommate, has been text messaging my sister boyfriend. Not just nice messages, but very raunchy sexy messages. Well my sister found out, by going through her cell phone, and matching the messages up with what the boyfriend said, and no, he didnt know respond nor lead the roommate on. While my sister confronted the roommate, she was very rude, and told her, she should just give up the boyfriend to her, because she, my sister, has enough guy friends, its no problem for her to find another. ...sorry this is very messy. Well, my sister, said no, and her roommate is continuing to be not nice to my sister, and is moving out on the 1st. ( Also, found out that the girl is under watch at her work, since the head guys believe she slept her way to the top, which, sadly enough is true!).
So this is where i am, is it right of me to say anything to the roommate, while normally i wouldnt, the problem is, her roommate was my friend. We were very close growing up, but i knew how she was, and parted ways from her after my first year of college, we were friends for more than 8 years. I have tried to be friends with her, but when we hang out, or i have invited her over, she has been very rude to my FI, and has...ummmm...dressed rather inapporiate, and acted inapporiate when it came to him and I. Lets jsut say, i almost knocked the eyes back in her head when she rolled than, and my mother has also told she is jealous of my relationship. Knowing what i know of her, i keep FI away from her, even though he does not like her, but i would rahter keep the peace, and just be careful, ya know that whole...once a man stealer, always a man stealer. ANYHOW...is it right of me to say something to her, even though, her and i are no longer friends? Is it just me, or is it wrong of her to do this, while living under my sisters roof? Honestly, i do want to call her, and confront her on her slutty ways, and let her have a piece of my good God given mind, but what do you think.

Thanks, and sorry for it being a bit confusing, the whole situation is.

 

[Hera]

I don't see the need to now that she's moving out and will no longer be a part of you or your sister's life. Manstealer's are awful but if you have a devoted SO I don't see the need to have a fight over the issue. You know what they say about karma

 

[meresal]

No. Everything that needs to be said has been said, and she is moving out.

Personally, I stay out of other people's relationships. That includes family members.

 

[Jessie702]

Thats true about the men stealers, i guess i just feel bad, since she was my friend for many years and i treated my sister so bad. She is really upset about it.

 

[meresal]

I would love to know why your sister decided to live with her, after you had already had all of these other bad encounters with her?

I feel sorry for your sister that she is having to deal with this, but man, if this isn't a case of "writing on the wall", I don't know what is.

 

[Bleed Burnt Orange]

I feel like talking to her would give her more attention than she deserves, which she clearly seeks! If you aren't friends with her, nothing you say will be helpful, as she will probably feel some sort of satisfaction that she has pissed off your whole family. I can't imagine people like her being anymore than vindictive in that way.

You would be best to stay out of it and maintain your own sanity after not having spoken to her personally in a while.

She's slutty! She probably already knows that. One of these days she may end up with no one in her life and maybe THEN she will change her ways.

 

[Jessie702]

My sister felt that living with her would be okay, because she never knew how she was. My sister is older, adn was out of the house, by the time this girl came along. I think the person who it shocked the most was my mother, she has always treated her like a daughter, and for her to do this is not right. While i will admit, my sister is not perfect, she didnt deserve this.

 

[somethingshiny]

It sounds like you kind of take responsibility for the room mate's actions, like you think you should have kept it from happening some how. You couldn't have done anything to prevent it. No one could have really, except the woman herself. At this point, they too have separated ways and that's for the best. There's nothing left to do but chalk it up to lessons learned.

 

[movie zombie]

she's moving out the 1st. its a done deal. let karma deal with her.

MoZo

 

[chemgirl]

I know its your sister, but my advice would be not to get involved. The last thing you want is for this girl to be focusing her crazy on you. She's willing to move out and it sounds like your sister is out of the house a lot. Hopefully they can avoid each other and the whole thing will resolve itself when the girl moves out.

I say crazy because the girl's reasoning is seriously messed up. If I had to guess, I'd think your sister's boyfriend sees this and the texts might have freaked him out more than anything.

 

[texaskj]

I wouldn't say a word to her ever again.

 

[Jessie702]

Thank you everyone, and yes, i feel like, i should have maybe warned my sister, or something, but than i cant control other people. As hard as i try...just kidding. Also Chem your right, i dont want her focusing her crazy on me, i have more than enough on my plate. Thank you all, i will keep my mouth shut.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

No.

 

[Shoopy]

No.

 

[KimberlyH]

Absolutely not. I can't understand why you feel the need to, your sister seems to be handling the situation just fine.

 

[Kaleigh]

Another NO.

 

[junebug17]

Jessie, I'm glad you decided not to say anything. No good would come of it, and no purpose would be served.

 

[Jessie702]

Thank you again everyone, i will keep my mouth shut. It just really upsets me.

 

[mrscushion]

Sorry about this upsetting situation for you, your sis and your mom, but I, too, am glad you've decided to keep mum about it and never speak to this person again.

 

[atroop711]

As much as you want to rip her a new one , I'd leave it alone. Your sister has taken care of it and she's moving out. Just be glad she's not going to be in your sister's life any longer.

 

[Jessie702]

As much as you want to rip her a new one , I'd leave it alone. Your sister has taken care of it and she's moving out. Just be glad she's not going to be in your sister's life any longer.

I wanted to rip her two...but im keeping my mouth shut.