My attempt at reuniting with relatives failed. . .

[MichelleCarmen]

I just deleted because I don't want to complain more than necessary.

I'm just grumpy. . .Maybe it's because my 37th b-day is on Friday and I feel old. Also, my grandpa died a few weeks back. To top it off, I opened up a box of chocolate we had under the tree and ate a bunch of them. I kind of sealed it back up so it's not so obvious. (When my DH notices, I know he's going to plow through the rest of the box, so it's a good thing I grabbed all the carmel pieces while there was time.)

Okay. . .anyway. . .

Need to find a way to cheer up.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I know some obits say "...survived by "insert list of relatives still living here"
do you think that may be why they messed it up?

just another pov

I''m very sorry to hear about your loss..

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Sorry I deleted what I wrote. . .it was just that I posted about the food thing too and sounded a bit too bitter.

For those who didn''t read, my grandfather died and my aunt listed all the siblings but didn''t include my dad (I guess because she didn''t think about it and/or because he is dead). From how it read it sounded like she created it herself, not that she filled in a form of type.

And, to add, I tried to reunite with a few of the family and discovered they all hate each other and had nothing good to say and I was horribly disapointed.

I REALLY wish DH and I could have afforded to take a vacation this holiday!!!

 

[D&T]

Happy Birthday MC!!!! I'm sorry about your grandfather and wish you well. Remember you are the bigger person at attempting to reunite with your relatives, and they are they ones that need to let it go and move forward. Life's to short to dwell in anger

{Hugs}

 

[radiantquest]

I am sorry that you are feeling glum. It sounds like you are not too far down in the pit of dispair. You still had your wits about you enough to know to eat all the caramel ones.

I don't know exactly how you feel, but it seems that this time of year does that to a lot of people. It makes you think of people you lost and miss the ones that you cannot see. The best advice I can give you is remind yourself of who you do have and make the best memories that you can. I know it sounds a little cliche, but really, count your blessings and keep on trucking. The cloud will lift eventually.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/16/2009 1:10:24 PM
Author: radiantquest
I am sorry that you are feeling glum. It sounds like you are not too far down in the pit of dispair. You still had your wits about you enough to know to eat all the caramel ones.

I don''t know exactly how you feel, but it seems that this time of year does that to a lot of people. It makes you think of people you lost and miss the ones that you cannot see. The best advice I can give you is remind yourself of who you do have and make the best memories that you can. I know it sounds a little cliche, but really, count your blessings and keep on trucking. The cloud will lift eventually.

lol about the carmels.

Thanks. I''m not "depressed," just the typical holiday bummed, that as you are saying, some are. . .

Maybe I''ll drive the kids around tonight and look at lights. Watching their excitement is quite the mood booster.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/16/2009 1:08:59 PM
Author: D&T
Happy Birthday MC!!!! I''m sorry about your grandfather and wish you well. Remember you are the bigger person at attempting to reunite with your relatives, and they are they one that need to let it go and move forward. Life''s to short to dwell in anger

{Hugs}

Thanks.

 

[decodelighted]

The holidays can be a really rough time! You *do* sound a bit bitter but, heck, its how you''re feeling right now and that''s that! Sorry about your Grandpa & the anticlimactic reunion. All the more reason to keep Tacori''s mantra in mind. NO EXPECTATIONS. NO EXPECTATIONS!

FWIW, caramels are my fave too

but you lucked out that there even WERE any -- we stocked up on candy last weekend to take to my family''s gathering & got a box of "snacks" for ourselves too but the entire candy store was OUT OF CARAMELS! Gah! What next? No CANDY CANES? People please ... for the love of Lady Gaga ... doubletime the candy production pronto to avoid this kind of catastrophic outage AT THE HOLIDAYS. We need our med-cine! And if you don''t start feeling a little better after the holidays then maybe something chemical is up w/you? Couldn''t hurt to check it out ... real med-cine can help too!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/16/2009 1:24:38 PM
Author: decodelighted
The holidays can be a really rough time! You *do* sound a bit bitter but, heck, its how you''re feeling right now and that''s that! Sorry about your Grandpa & the anticlimactic reunion. All the more reason to keep Tacori''s mantra in mind. NO EXPECTATIONS. NO EXPECTATIONS!

FWIW, caramels are my fave too

but you lucked out that there even WERE any -- we stocked up on candy last weekend to take to my family''s gathering & got a box of ''snacks'' for ourselves too but the entire candy store was OUT OF CARAMELS! Gah! What next? No CANDY CANES? People please ... for the love of Lady Gaga ... doubletime the candy production pronto to avoid this kind of catastrophic outage AT THE HOLIDAYS. We need our med-cine! And if you don''t start feeling a little better after the holidays then maybe something chemical is up w/you? Couldn''t hurt to check it out ... real med-cine can help too!

Yeah, usually to find the carmels, half the chocolates need to be bitten into

(I have an appointment w/my dr. so I''ll talk to him then. Thanks).

 

[April20]

MC, I''m sorry you''re feeling down. It probably doesn''t help that these are the shortest days of the year as well. That always gets me.

At least you got the caramels first. Those are the best. Have you had the ones from Metropolitan Market that have the sea salt on top?

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 12/16/2009 1:28:37 PM
Author: April20
MC, I''m sorry you''re feeling down. It probably doesn''t help that these are the shortest days of the year as well. That always gets me.

At least you got the caramels first. Those are the best. Have you had the ones from Metropolitan Market that have the sea salt on top?

No, I haven''t tried those. . .I''m not near a Metropolitan Market. Sea salt sounds wonderful as an added flavor!

 

[April20]

Date: 12/16/2009 1:31:42 PM
Author: MC

Date: 12/16/2009 1:28:37 PM
Author: April20
MC, I''m sorry you''re feeling down. It probably doesn''t help that these are the shortest days of the year as well. That always gets me.

At least you got the caramels first. Those are the best. Have you had the ones from Metropolitan Market that have the sea salt on top?

No, I haven''t tried those. . .I''m not near a Metropolitan Market. Sea salt sounds wonderful as an added flavor!

When I lived in Federal Way/Des Moines, they opened one up within walking distance of my house. It was dangerous. I miss Met Market. I have similar here, but it''s not quite the same.

 

[MakingTheGrade]

Hugs!

Sorry you''re feeling blue. Whenever I''m blue I make a friend come watch a comedy with me, and bake. It always results in laughing and a giant mess

I actually don''t have much in the way of family interactions either, my entire family including my parents live overseas, and I talk to them maybe once a year when I visit for a few days. I''ve been lucky to have always found great friends to take me in for the holidays though!

 

[Porridge]

{HUGS} MC.

Enjoy the family you created instead. And your PS family!

 

[luvinlife]

Date: 12/16/2009 12:52:29 PM
Author:MC
I just deleted because I don''t want to complain more than necessary.

I''m just grumpy. . .Maybe it''s because my 37th b-day is on Friday and I feel old. Also, my grandpa died a few weeks back. To top it off, I opened up a box of chocolate we had under the tree and ate a bunch of them. I kind of sealed it back up so it''s not so obvious. (When my DH notices, I know he''s going to plow through the rest of the box, so it''s a good thing I grabbed all the carmel pieces while there was time.)

Okay. . .anyway. . .

Need to find a way to cheer up.

Cheer up buttercup! If you can''t, eat some chocolates...mmmmm you already did...

Good job on eating the yummy ones first. Just my style
Also, happy early birthday!

 

[oddoneout]

I''m sorry to hear things are not going so well.

 

[yssie]

Oh, no, ::HUGS:: MC!!


I''m sorry for your loss

. Sometimes family just doesn''t get along, and there''s no force a single person can wield to put everything back together. It''s wonderful that you still care enough and hope enough to keep trying

.


You don''t need to worry about sounding bitter - better to vent here than bottle it up and explode elsewhere

.


Eat more chocolate, have a glass of wine, and enjoy those lights tonight

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 12/16/2009 12:52:29 PM
Author:MC
I just deleted because I don''t want to complain more than necessary.

I''m just grumpy. . .Maybe it''s because my 37th b-day is on Friday and I feel old. Also, my grandpa died a few weeks back. To top it off, I opened up a box of chocolate we had under the tree and ate a bunch of them. I kind of sealed it back up so it''s not so obvious. (When my DH notices, I know he''s going to plow through the rest of the box, so it''s a good thing I grabbed all the carmel pieces while there was time.)

Okay. . .anyway. . .

Need to find a way to cheer up.

no problem MC...we are used to it by now.

 

[perry]

MC:

Sorry about your grandfather. My last grandparent died about 7 years ago. I miss all 4 of them.

I understand about the negitive family thing.... I grew up in a negative family, and truth be told rarely talk with many of them becasue all they can do is run you down; and yes, they hate most of each other (out of 7 siblings - there are only 3 I can hold a normal conversation with). My parents are like that too - and I have to limit how much time I spend with them (as I run the "Parents Fund" and make sure they are OK).

The key is to make a new "life family" of positive interesting people. It makes a world of difference.

So have a HAPPY Holidays....


Perry

 

[junebug17]

Aw MC, I''m sorry you''re feeling a little down, big hugs to you!!! I understand how things can just kind of add up and make you feel out-of-sorts. I''ve been feeling "blah" myself...a little overwhelmed with all the holiday prep I have to do, some family stuff as well, so you''re not alone. I had to laugh at your secretly taking some candy...my husband came home with some chocolate covered peanuts from a customer (we received them last year as well so I know they''re AWESOME) and I am absolutely dying for some. But the hubby always makes a big deal about saving them for X-mas, why I don''t know. Why can''t I eat the darn things now? I told him I came close to eating some the other night because I wanted to drown my sorrows, so he put a tissue box over them to keep me from eating them! Like that''s gonna stop me, we laughed because it was so silly. Anyway, hang in there, this funk will pass. I know it''s cliche, but sometimes it helps me to think of all the positive things in my life, and how things could really be much worse. And feel free to vent all you want! It helps.

 

[purrfectpear]

Honey, when it came to handing out relatives you must have been in the wrong line

I know it''s super disappointing but I think your little family just needs to band together and make your own memories. It sounds like the whole relative situation is one long disaster looking for a place to happen