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My 14 year old doesn’t care about school, at all...doesn’t see the point. He’s a talented guitar player and he dreams of being in a successful band one day. Why would he need school? There are many stories out there of famous musicians who are high school drop outs who have made it. He is unmotivated due to these stories. We’ve had many debates about this subject.
I had visions of him going to college. His father is a disabled vet and my son’s college is completely paid for. Trade school is also an option.
It is like pulling teeth to get him to complete assignments. Studying is a joke. He felt micromanaged at the beginning of the year, so I allowed him this one semester to do all of his work himself and he failed math. I haven’t gotten all of his grades yet but i’m Expecting to feel as though this was a very failed experiment.
Here are my issues:
I can micromanage him. Actually, a big part of me feels like I must because he must graduate high school. But there is this nagging voice in my head that says he needs to learn to manage himself. What do i do? How do i get him through high school and still teach him to self start/regulate?
I have told him he needs a back-up plan to being a musician. I also told him he will need a good job while he is trying to make it. What I haven’t said is that he has a very slim chance of making it. I don’t know if that is the right thing to say because I’m his parent and I want to support his dreams. He just seems to be throwing his life away. I don’t know the right thing to say at this point.
I had visions of him going to college. His father is a disabled vet and my son’s college is completely paid for. Trade school is also an option.
It is like pulling teeth to get him to complete assignments. Studying is a joke. He felt micromanaged at the beginning of the year, so I allowed him this one semester to do all of his work himself and he failed math. I haven’t gotten all of his grades yet but i’m Expecting to feel as though this was a very failed experiment.
Here are my issues:
I can micromanage him. Actually, a big part of me feels like I must because he must graduate high school. But there is this nagging voice in my head that says he needs to learn to manage himself. What do i do? How do i get him through high school and still teach him to self start/regulate?
I have told him he needs a back-up plan to being a musician. I also told him he will need a good job while he is trying to make it. What I haven’t said is that he has a very slim chance of making it. I don’t know if that is the right thing to say because I’m his parent and I want to support his dreams. He just seems to be throwing his life away. I don’t know the right thing to say at this point.