Mother''s jewelry

[orbaya]

I'm due in January with our first baby. My MIL gave one of those mother/child pendants to my brother's wife last Christmas as it was her first one as a mother. The typical mother's jewelry that you see in stores I personally don't care for. Those pendants, the mother's rings, etc. I asked hubby to hint to his mother that I don't like that type of jewelry so that she wouldn't spend her money on something I know I wouldn't wear, which I know he did.

I would like a piece of jewelry with our son's birth month...the doctors think he might be early so he could be born this month, or make it to January so I'm not buying anything right off. I have a feeling that my MIL still wants to get me something with the birthstone for Christmas. Maybe I'm weird or over thinking this, I don't know. I always kind of hoped that hubby would be the first person to get me something jewelry-related for our baby's birth, (unless I bought it for myself).

I'm guessing that if the baby isn't here by Christmas, I would probably get an IOU until we know what stone he will have.

So, would it matter to you who gave you your first piece of mother's jewelry? Would you prefer it to be your OH, or would you really not care?

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I''d prefer it to be DH or perhaps my own mother. I too don''t care for traditional mother jewelry, it''s very gaudy. I''m hoping for stacking rings. I want blue or pink sapphires for B/G and I hope to have a tiny stone set into the inner band that correlates to the birth month. Or, perhaps have the ring engraved with their initials and the birth date.

 

[Circe]

I don''t think you''re weird or overthinking it: the symbolism there is pretty powerful. That said, I don''t think there''s any (polite) way to keep people from getting you presents ... your husband could totally casually mention once that you dislike the tacky mass-produced mother''s jewelry, but it''ll be harder to work "Oh, and also! She hates garnets, period" or whatever into the mix. If you''re lucky she''ll maybe ask him directly what you''d like, and he can guide her then, but if not ... it''s the thought that counts? And it is a caring sentiment, I think - v. nice that she wants to celebrate her DIL''s as mothers, and not just go straight to the grandbabies!

 

[orbaya]

When he told me yesterday that he did mention to his mother that I don''t like the typical mother''s jewelry, she said she had already figured that wasn''t my style anyway. I did tell hubby that I''m glad he did tell his mother because I''d like my first piece to be from him...the father. So, at least he knows that now, and whatever he does with that information is up to him. If my MIL does ask for his help, hopefully he''ll mention it to her, but if not or she doesn''t listen, I of course will appreciate the gift from my MIL.

If our baby is born in January, I was casaully showing hubby some loose garnets online and showing him all the different colors they come in, and showed him what I liked, and that I don''t really like the deep, dark red garnets. That information was for him for future reference if he wants to buy me something. At the same time, he learned that all garnets aren''t that deep red, so it was educational for him. Hehe.

If our baby is born in December, that is pretty easy...everyone knows that tanzanite is my favorite colored stone so I''m not too worried about that stone-wise.

 

[y2kitty]

Just be grateful your husband didn''t start following Dave Ramsey in the second trimester like my sister''s husband did!

No really, I understand your point. I also would not want the typical mother''s jewelry you see in stores. I think logic would tell the person doing the buying not to buy a birthstone till the baby is born.