Wedding Most Frustrating Part of Wedding Planning

[SarahLovesJS]

What was the most frustrating part of wedding planning for you? So far for us it''s been the guest list and BM dresses running a close second. What about you?

 

[Shoopy]

The one and only frustration: the guest list. We have a place picked out, we know what menu we''re going for, we''ve even looked at DJs. I''m only having an MOH so no problem there and everything else are just decorations. But the damn guest list

We''ve decided that we''re going to have an october 2009 wedding so I''ve put the guest list away until we get to mid September.

I''m not going to look at it anymore

I''m not going to look at it anymore

I''m not going to look at it anymore

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Yeah we''re actually discussing it right now. My family is a disaster guest-list wise. Yaaaaaay...

. So frustrating..I so feel you.

And on FI''s side..there''s so many nice people and not enough space for all of them either really..but hey I guess we can make up for that by cutting my mean family members. Heh.

 

[Shoopy]

His list isn''t the problem. He has about 27 guests including himself, all his family (that are in the US anyway), and his closest friends including dates!!! So, we won''t cut anyone off of his. My list is the problem. Oh well, I guess we''ll see how it all plays out. At the end of the day, it doesn''t really matter as long as we get married

(I''m in a very cheesy mood tonight...just saw Click)

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Haha I understand, looks like we''re opposites!

Oh well, still list issue twins. I''m the one with the tiny list between FI and me.

 

[Blair138]

deciding on bridesmaid dresses and my dress!! I''m so stressed and I''ve only been to 2 stores, so it''s not like I have too many options!

 

[Italiahaircolor]

Ummm...two things got me...

First and foremost, everything I couldn''t control killed me. Like how the flowers on my wedding day were nowhere near what I have envisioned...and I could fix that. That was hard for me, because I spent soooo much time planning every little detail. And it killed me when people would say "no one noticed"...I freakin noticed. That was a toughy for me. I mean, the flowers are a good example...but there were other things too...like the waiter stepping on my dress and ripping my train before we were announced...or my bridesmaids behavior.

Secondly, I think I felt the frusteration when it came to imagining the wedding on that day with all the little things I''d for the wedding up until that point. It was hard for me to picture that table cloth with these flowers because I couldn''t put them together before the big day. I had to have a lot of faith and trust in my memory and my planner. But there were times when I second guessed myself. Thank God for monocromatic schemes and not having to be matchy-matchy.

 

[Octavia]

How much $$$$ it''$ all going to co$t. I $till can''t completely wrap my head around it.

 

[violet02]

Date: 8/10/2008 10:26:34 PM
Author:SarahLovesJS
What was the most frustrating part of wedding planning for you? So far for us it''s been the guest list and BM dresses running a close second. What about you?

Definitely these two for sure! The guest list just pains me everytime I have to deal with it. That an the RSVPs... I don''t get why people take so long to send them back (if at all!).

The bridesmaid dresses ugh. The style is cute I''m not 100% stoked on the color and it has been the BIGGEST headache for me to find wraps to go with them. I''m still looking! I should have gone with more easy to match colors. I think the dress company has weird colors for their shangtung sillk. You''d think with pink and magenta it would be easy but they are not quite those shades so it''s killing me right now. Oh that and the girls not ordering the right sizes...

Also dealing with people in the wedding party double UGH! I don''t get why people agree to be in weddings and either do absolutely nothing at all to help or be supportive or just complain a lot during the whole thing. If you don''t want to be in someone''s wedding please just say NO for both your sakes!!

 

[WishfulThinking]

Two main things so far:

The budget. It''s TINY by anyone''s standards, and even in our rural area, it isn''t much to work with.

The date. It''s non-negotiable because it is the only day in the next 5 years that our parents will be in the same place at the same time. This is also technically a budget concern; bottom line is, our families can''t afford to fly.

We''re working with what we have, which is the best we can do.

 

[bettina]

OMG. Everything. How to use my tiny budget and incorporate all the little aspects of a formal dinner (favors/centerpieces/etc.) into the casual backyard bbq I''m dreaming of. How do you have pizza and formal settings?

 

[DMBFiredancer]

Date: 8/11/2008 12:14:00 AM
Author: Octavia
How much $$$$ it''$ all going to co$t. I $till can''t completely wrap my head around it.

hahaha...you and me both!!!!
and as i keep planning and finding more things we need to spend money on, it gets more frustrating

 

[WishfulThinking]

Date: 8/11/2008 1:02:05 AM
Author: bettina
OMG. Everything. How to use my tiny budget and incorporate all the little aspects of a formal dinner (favors/centerpieces/etc.) into the casual backyard bbq I''m dreaming of. How do you have pizza and formal settings?

Bettina, I feel you on this! I tried to do this as well, but in the end doing so blew the budget out of the water so we kind of abandoned it.

I hope you''re able to do what you want to do with it! I think we''re entitled to do whatever makes us happy on our wedding day [within reason, obviously.] If you want china, cloth napkins and pizza, it''s not hurting anyone and you will get what you want. Go for it!

 

[Elmorton]

For me, it was people''s reactions - or lack of them. I''d go out of my way to appease someone (Mom, Dad, MoH, in-laws), and it wouldn''t register that I made a change especially for them - no reaction whatsoever. DH and I would have been very easy to please - it was trying to make everyone else happy that was really frustrating.

 

[hthip]

Like Octavia, Wishful, Bettina, and DMB, our small budget has been my biggest stress factor.

We started out with an average budget, but it has been significantly reduced due to the economy. It has been very stressful trying to incorporate our different cultures and family geography issues on such a small budget.

 

[violet02]

Date: 8/11/2008 1:02:05 AM
Author: bettina
OMG. Everything. How to use my tiny budget and incorporate all the little aspects of a formal dinner (favors/centerpieces/etc.) into the casual backyard bbq I''m dreaming of. How do you have pizza and formal settings?

My friend did this last year. He rented out a hall, it ewas pretty formal (nice suits, my friend got married in a tux) and he served beer, pizza and ice cream for dinner! No one minded though... although he did hire a really cool band instead of putting the money into food. But I think we all knew ahead of time we were going to dress up and eat pizza. It was fun!

 

[bettina]

So I''m not crazy? Thanks for the imput, ladies!

 

[MoonWater]

The most frustrating thing for me was/is getting the dress altered. I had the absolute worst experience with a seamstress. She got good reviews and her name pops up all over the net when searching for my area. But she had some family issues (out of her control so I didn''t blame her), which forced her to cancel my second fitting. It wasn''t a big deal since I gave it to her so far in advance. But she then proceeded to set up several more appointments and cancel those as well. I finally said, on the fifth cancellation, that she couldn''t keep doing this. I never asked for a deadline but she kept making them and then breaking them. She hung up on me in one phone call and her daughter was utterly rude to me in another. When I mentioned that I understood her need to change the schedule I told her that she isn''t the only person with family issues as the Aunt that has been taking me to my fittings has lung cancer. I was trying to let her understand that this back and forth and rearranging of schedules was not only impacting me. Her daughter told me "Well you shouldn''t have brought her." I actually cried. My Aunt is the person I am closest to in my family. She has been a better mother to me than my own. I bumped my wedding up by a year because I didn''t want to take for granted how long she would be with us. I wanted her there the way any daughter would want her mother there. I was just devastated at what she said. On top of it all, I got my dress back and the job is just...shoddy. There are 8 freaking safety pins still inside of it. I have been a total wreck.

*sigh*

 

[Sabine]

The worst part for me was dealing with a new coordinator at our reception venue due to the one I had worked with going on maternity leave about 3 weeks before the wedding. The new one was totally scatterbrained and annoying.

This wasn''t really frustrating during planning, but on the day of, our hair appts. ran late, which turned out to be totally stressful as it ruined my whole carefully planned out day of schedule.

 

[kellybelly]

believe it or not, i have so far been unable to decide on invitations and it''s making me insane!! all of the things i like are too expensive, and all of the things within our budget are not what i want. so there''s a rock, then me, then a hard place.

 

[doodle]

mine is the idiot coordinator at our venue. we''ve had more stupid arguments with this woman because she keeps adding to the cost. we paid $5000 for the venue because they said it included pretty much EVERYTHING, but then they added an additional $400 because, apparently, the contract saying our $5000 included crystal, ice, etc. was just for the meal and could not be applied to a bar. i was unaware that a bar required special ice! or glasses--why is it that they''ll let coke be poured into one of their glasses and that''s covered in our original payment, but add a splash of rum to that coke, and GREAT GOD, CHARGE HER! LIQUOR HATH TRANSFORMED THAT GLASS TO SOMETHING NOT IN THE CONTRACT. and it''s not like they''re renting all this stuff so it has to be paid for--they own it! ARRRGGGGHH!!

 

[newbie124]

Initially it was dealing w/ our venue contract. We finally got it settled, but I''m still wary of the management that took over this year and am just hoping that they get their act together by the time our wedding comes around next year.

Also, dealing w/ my relatives'' initial reactions to our location choice. I know they have our best interests at heart, but they have a tendency to come across as sounding negative, doubtful and discouraging. I partly attribute it to a cultural thing, but it was extremely irritating nonetheless. Luckily I managed to prove many of their doubts wrong, so things kind of smoothed out in the end. Although I still have to deal with my mom every now and then...

Finally, dealing with unresponsive vendors!! Luckily, we''ve found some really good people who are for the most part really on top of things, but when we were initially putting out feelers, it was really aggravating having to continually follow up with the less responsible people.