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My mom is awesome. She has been an amazing mother and friend to me, and now that I''m truly on my own, I realize how very lucky I am. My mom has always made me feel special, and I know I didn''t always reciprocate (especially as a teenager). I really want to start doing more things to make her feel special. At this point, I call her pretty much every day, try and visit as much as I can, and bring her little gifts sometimes just for fun (lipgloss she likes, magazines she reads, etc.). I''d love to know what else might be nice to do for her.

Moms, what do your older children do that makes you feel appreciated and loved? What do you wish they would do?
 
Everything you just said is perfect!!! Seriously, I just love it when my daughter calls just to talk. She could call anyone, so I really appreciate it when she wants to talk about what''s going on in her life with me.

Your mom has a wonderful daughter and I am sure she is very, very thankful!
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Aw, I love this thread.

Back when my mom turned 50 I organized a day for her, and she has brought up how much she loved it multiple times since. I bought her a day of pampering at the Red Door, which is her favorite, but that wasn''t even the bit that she loved most. I arranged with the Red Door to bring four of her close friends in to surprise her for lunch (which was scheduled into her day) and then we all had pedicures together. We left after the pedis and my mom finished her day, and then we all picked her up after her day and had dinner together, and then went to a movie.

Whenever she reminisces about that day, it''s always about the time we spent together. I''m always looking for more "days" that I can organize, this time for the two of us to do something together.

Theatre tickets and dinner reservations?
Spa treatments and a movie?
Museum day and a picnic?
 
Kittybean, what a sweet daughter you are. My daughter just turned 27 today! She is temporarily living at home so I get to see her every day. I think it is the time that matters most. I love it that my
daughter now values her Dad and I. We had some pretty rough teen years and just that she likes to hang out is enough for me. She wants to sit at the dinner table and just talk about stuff and I find that
so totally wonderful that I can just enjoy who she has become. I love hanging out with her, that is a bonus in my life.
 
Moi??? Hmmmmm, I want my daughter to realize just how much I love her and why I was always so extra cautious about safety. I think she will figure it out now that she just had her own child.

It wouldn''t hurt if she got me on one of those house makeover shows with some heartwrenching story of how wonderful I am, and all that I have been through and blah, blah, blah...
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Just kidding. Just bearing me a granddaughter is enough for me. Me and my daughter have an abnormally close relationship, but appreciating us publicly is always a blessing.

Keep on giving her spa treatments. Those can never be overdone. Ever.
 
Date: 10/15/2009 12:06:59 AM
Author: luv2sparkle
Kittybean, what a sweet daughter you are. My daughter just turned 27 today! She is temporarily living at home so I get to see her every day. I think it is the time that matters most. I love it that my
daughter now values her Dad and I. We had some pretty rough teen years and just that she likes to hang out is enough for me. She wants to sit at the dinner table and just talk about stuff and I find that
so totally wonderful that I can just enjoy who she has become. I love hanging out with her, that is a bonus in my life.
Awww, that is so sweet!

I agree with the time thing. Sounds like you are doing just that.
 
Miraclesrule... you don''t look old enough to have a grown up child at all!!! What i mean is... holy cow, woman you look so young in your avatar!

kittybean, you''re such a sweet person! I do the same things you do with your mum. We always shop together and when I go back to visit we spend every waking moment together. Its the best!! SHE''s the best.
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Date: 10/15/2009 12:06:59 AM
Author: luv2sparkle
Kittybean, what a sweet daughter you are. My daughter just turned 27 today! She is temporarily living at home so I get to see her every day. I think it is the time that matters most. I love it that my

daughter now values her Dad and I. We had some pretty rough teen years and just that she likes to hang out is enough for me. She wants to sit at the dinner table and just talk about stuff and I find that

so totally wonderful that I can just enjoy who she has become. I love hanging out with her, that is a bonus in my life.


I love your post! You sound like such a great mom and I love how much you treasure your daughter. It''s wonderful to read about it!
 
My DD is almost grown-up (she'll be 17 in December), but something she asked to start with me when she became a teen was one-on-one day with me and her dad once a month. One day a month usually a weekend day she and I go someplace special (museum, play, spa etc ) and she does the same with her dad (fishing, golfing, sports event) and we get a great one on one time when no subject is off limits. I hope we continue this as she gets older.

My mom and I were not very close. She was closer with my sister and I am closer with my dad. My dad and I used to go boating, water skiing, snow skiing, fishing, etc. all the time and I would always try to do something with my mom once a month, but usually with my sister. After mom died, dad went to live at Ann's Choice a retirement community as he said he didn't want to play favorites with "his girls". I spend almost everyday with my dad, taking him shopping, having him help out at my house (trying to make him feel useful) and in particular we have "our jokes". He loves my DH and they will golf together, etc. BTW my dad is 81. My dad and I share secrets that no one else will ever know.

Kittybean, what I am trying to say is that anytime you can spend with your mom, on the phone, exchanging emails, meeting up together for lunch, shopping, whatever is what she will cherish the most. When the 2 of you can talk about anything as 2 adults and not mother and daughter is a great gift.

Also, if your grandparents are still alive is there anything special that your mom does with her mom/dad that you can carry on the same tradition?
 
Great thread Kitty. I love my mom and always looking for new ideas to make her feel special.
 
This thread is so sweet!
 
Date: 10/14/2009 11:07:26 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
Everything you just said is perfect!!! Seriously, I just love it when my daughter calls just to talk. She could call anyone, so I really appreciate it when she wants to talk about what''s going on in her life with me.

Your mom has a wonderful daughter and I am sure she is very, very thankful!
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A big ditto. Your Mom raised a very thoughtful daughter. She sounds like an awesome Mom.

My DD is 21 and calls me almost every day. She makes sure to spend time with me, like tonight she''s coming home for dinner. Just the 2 of us. The gift of time is soooo precious.

I think you are soooo sweet!!!
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Aw, thanks guys [blushing]. My mom is really an amazing person.

I will definitely continue to call my mom every day (just got off the phone with her!). We are actually going to be spending the weekend together at a wedding, which will be a lot of fun. Her birthday''s coming up in a few weeks, so maybe I''ll schedule manicures or something else fun for us to do as part of her gift.
 
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