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Well I REALLY don''t like jewelery on men. Not even watches. I bought my fiance a wedding band, but I''m hoping he won''t wear it too often, except when we go out. He has a really jock-relax style, I don''t really see the wedding band as being really *him*. He loves it though, and wants to wear it though, and is really excited to wear it. We''ll see after the wedding.
 
My husband hates wearing his wedding ring, watches, anything except the chain around his neck I bought him. That''s fine with me. He wears his wedding ring when we go out (even though it drives him nuts
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) but all the rest of the time he wears it on a chain around his neck, according to him not because he dislikes wearing it, but because it''s there to be ''close to his heart''
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It would be a nice excuse if it bothered me! He is an electrician so definitely can''t wear it to work, and he has a car tuning business from home too, so he''d be forever taking it off and putting it on. It''s easier just to leave it off!

My dad took his wedding ring off the day after he and mum were married and has never worn it again a day in his life. Probably a good thing because these days he''d barely fit it over his little toe
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He hates the thought of having something on his hand that could potentially get stuck! Mum is like me, she isn''t bothered by it. Hers is still firmly attached to her hand after 35 years though!
 
DH wore his every day taking it off only when he showered or went swimming until he forgot to take it off one day and lost it in the ocean while we were on vacation 2 weeks ago
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. We haven't gotten him a new one yet so he's been ringless since then and neither of us likes it. I really want to get him one before our 1 year anniversary next month so that we can do a little vow renewal (just the 2 of us) and make this ring special too. DH was very upset when he lost it that a new ring wouldn't be the ring and therefore wouldn't be special.
 
It''s very interesting reading all your responses...I know that FI doesn''t like wearing jewelry, but he is going to be wearing his wedding ring. For me, it''s not about security of the relationship, and it''s not THE ONLY thing that signifies that we are married, but I think it is important. I guess it''s something I can''t really explain.
 
I don''t know that SO will wear his all that often. He''s not a jewelry guy at ALL. And he''s in a physical job (contracting/carpentry) where a ring would either get banged up or pose a potential risk. I know a lot of people in that type of field still wear a ring, but I''m paranoid that it would get caught on something or otherwise cause a problem.

If he just wears it on evenings & weekends, I''ll be fine with that.
 
I just don''t think wearing a wedding band matters to some couples.

DH never wore any jewelry ever. For whatever reason, it was important to me that he wear his ring...he was a bit annoyed with it at first, but now, almost a year later, he feels weird without it. He wears it 24/7.

I just like seeing it on his finger!
 
Obviously, it's very much dictated by culture (both ethic/racial & the couple's own) & personal preference. My family in VN hardly ever wear rings, but that varies by region as well, i.e. urban vs. rural. They don't usually have engagement rings, either, but of course the more modernized couples do as parts of VN have become very Westernized. Ironically, gold rings are traditionally given as wedding presents to the couple, but they store it in a safe as an investment of sorts rather than wear them everyday. Never lower than 24k, but usually purer than that, which makes them very fragile. My sister was given two sets of gold rings as gifts by our family in VN! I asked my cousin why & she said that no one else wears them & that things of value have to be stored away for safe-keeping & just in case of emergencies. The commitment does not need to be signified by a wedding ring.

That being said, I will definitely want my husband to wear his wedding ring at all times unless there is some sort of good reason not to (i.e. hazardous job, safety in touristy areas). That is just my personal feeling on the issue, though. I think my SO would feel the same way...he got me a ring for my birthday & freaks out when I leave it at home.
 
We had some neighbors over on Saturday and several of the men gathered around the tv to watch Phelps swim. Afterwards, I walked by and noticed they were talking about WEDDING RINGS! There were 2 newly engaged men in the group and everyone else was married. So they were asking for suggestions on what to get, tips on how to take care of it, etc... it was so CUTE, for lack of a better word. They even started passing their rings around to compare shininess, weight, etc... It was rather hilarious.

DH never questioned wearing a wedding ring because his friends do, but my father doesn''t and never has. He''s been married 44 years. Many men of his generation don''t. The double ring ceremony is rather modern, but I think peer group has a lot to do with it as well.... if DH didn''t see his friends wearing rings, he probably wouldn''t want to either, but as it is, he has a "real" ring, and a backup ring... a titanium cheapie I got him for the beach and pool. He does take his ring off when he gets home, but I have no problem with that. I did ask him to wear one, but if he had a compelling reason not to, I''d probably accept it.

I get that it''s important to you that he wears a ring, but is your desire for him to wear it more important than his not to? Compare notes and see what you come up with.
 
My husband doesn''t wear his wedding band. Never has. He just doesn''t like wearing anything but a watch. Doesn''t bother me.
 
My DH forgets his sometimes but likes wearing it, especially when he''s out with me. I notice a lot of men (in the Caribbean) don''t wear theirs either - more so than women not wearing theirs.
 
I find this topic fascinating, more for people''s strong opinions on it, rather than the actual topic.

My DH generally wears his, but does take it off sometimes. Usually at work when typing. He always wears it when going out in the evenings or whatever. I really don''t care- though he did make some noise about not wearing it at all and I convinced him to at least try it. I just like looking at it! Plus it was expensive. But I don''t mind if he forgets it.

And like NEL and AQ, I take mine off all the time when I am home. I understand not wanting anything on at times.

I think this is b/c like some of you, my dad never wore one, never had one. It just seems normal to me. Funny story- my dad was involved in a trial (contract dispute thing, nothing criminal!!! he was suing another company) and his lawyer made him go buy a wedding ring to wear. He said that we are going to put on character evidence about you, the fact that you have been married for 30 some odd years, and women on the jury will look to see if you have a ring, and they will be very judgmental against you if you are not wearing one. So my mom and dad went and bought a wedding ring for him- my mom said it was so weird seeing it on his finger. So interesting to me.

Also, my DH is just not someone I worry about at bars. He just doesn''t have that personality. Now, if he were hiding his ring in his pocket, like Applequeen mentioned, then that is shady and creepy! That''s pretending not to be married, which isn''t the same as not wearing your ring.

I was having this discussion with my trainer, who was shocked that I wouldn''t be mad if my DH forgot his ring and went out. He said his wife woudl be livid. I think it''s b/c he''s not the kind of guy I would trust out without his wife, whether or not he was wearing a ring!

Also- a ring is not going to keep a man from doing something he shouldn''t, right? And a ring is a MAGNET for some kinds of women!
 
My DH wears his wedding band all the time. He quit wearing his engagement ring about 6 months ago.

I wear either my engagement ring or my wedding band. Somedays I don''t wear either. He isn''t bothered. Currently I''m ringless about 2 days a week.
 
My DH dislikes wearing jewelry. He thinks it''s uncomfortable. If it were up to him, he probably wouldn''t ever wear his ring. For lots of people marriage is not symbolized by rings. I really wanted him to wear his wedding ring. I find it attractive. He wears his ring out in public but takes it off at home. I''m okay with that.
 
My DH can''t wear his ring at work but wears it most other times, more than me actually. My brother doesn''t wear a ring and I don''t know that I''ve ever even seen his. My dad got married with a ring and hasn''t worn it since. The only person I know who regularly wears a ring besides my DH is his father.

Other than that, married friends, co-workers, family members (males) don''t really wear rings in this area. However, most women wear their rings 24-7, and I only wear mine 2-3 days a week for a few hours at a time. (when in public)
 
Neither my mom or dad wore their wedding bands after the wedding. My mom never even got an engagement ring. She just wears her mother''s ring and anniversary band now, but they are both recent acquisitions.

My husband wore his from the day I got my engagement ring. He takes it off the minute he gets home (he''s convinced he will hurt it), but that doesn''t bother me. He left it at home the other day accidently after putting lotion on and he said he felt so naked - he kept touching his finger.

I told him it was ok, because he had the most outrageous tan line from the ring! He has dark cinnamon skin and the skin under his ring is lily white. It''s so funny lol.
 
My dad doesn''t wear one...but then again he wears NO jewelry. Not even a watch. My FIL doesn''t wear one but wears a ring his father left him (which I think is odd). But then again my MIL doesn''t always wear her''s since she can''t wear it at work. DH told me he wouldn''t when we were engaged but he does...
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it does make me happy to see him wear it.
 
Date: 8/19/2008 12:22:05 AM
Author:Blair138
do your husbands wear their rings, or men do you wear your ring? And if (you)they don't, do(does) you(your wife) mind??
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FI plans to wear his ring all the time. He didn't care either way, but just assumed he would wear one. Both his parents do and always have. I prefer that he wear one, but if he really didn't want to I wouldn't guilt him over it.

My dad never did, and even though that was (I suppose) my standard for comparison as a child/teen, I thought it was strange. He had valid reasons, he is an ER doc and hated getting blood, etc. stuck underneath it, and also hated the water-logged feeling underneath the ring's surface from the constant hand-washing.

My mom didn't wear her set for years because her fingers swelled during pregnancy and never returned to their original size. She didn't "get around to" sizing her ring until I was about 16
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I can't imagine! Now she wears it 24/7.

So I guess during pretty much my entire youth, neither of my parents wore wedding rings!
 
I thought I''d seen a thread about this recently! Here it is, in case you''re interested, Blair:

Does your husband wear his wedding band?
 
I know my fiance won''t wear his. He is an electrical engineer at a nuclear plant, so apparently wearing a lightning rod around his finger wouldn''t be a good idea. I''ll keep it in my jewelry box though, and on weekends I''ll probably ask him to put it on. I doubt he''ll protest wearing it then, but I know he doesn''t care about a ring like I do.
 
My wonderful bf N is a finish carpenter. He says when we get married he will try to wear a ring, but he cannot to work as its deemed a danger. He doesn''t even wear a watch. So if he tries a ring and it doesn''t feel right to him, I won''t bug him. I did tell him that means he will get an inexpensive ring and I will upgrade him if he wears it.

My ex-husband wore a ring. Rings don''t mean anything. People still cheat with rings. Some women could care less about a ring.

Either way doesn''t matter to me. It won''t change my relationship any.
 
DH hasn''t taken it off since I put it on his finger 10 years ago next month. NEVER off. Ever.
 
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