Wedding Making good progress, and starting to feel lost

[ladyciel]

So, we made a big push this week, and our invitations are (basically - still chasing down a few addresses) done, stuffed, sealed, stamped and ready to be dropped off at the post office. We had our e-pics taken on Sunday, the BM dresses came in on Monday, all but one of the guys have been measured for their tuxes, and I ordered straw palm-shaped hand fans from Oriental Trading for our guests during the ceremony. I finally chose a florist a week or two ago. So now our to-do list basically consists of...

Put in order for chaircovers
Dress fittings - currently working on getting my first appointment set up for next month with the woman all the local knot ladies worship
Figuring out the music list for the DJ
Choosing/writing our ceremony/reading(s)/vows
Choosing hors d'oeuvres
Handling RSVPs when they start to come in
Find thankyou notes
Attend my bridal shower next month
Get the list of names for my "bachelorette" party to my MOH (it's going to be pretty low key)
Deciding where to get ready the day-of and other timeline details
Have my 2nd hair trial on Tuesday (fingers crossed that this one goes better than the first)
Find hair pins
Figure out a plan to get us and bridal party and photographers from ceremony to photos to reception without a limo.
Keep track of payments we still need to make
Come up with our table names and make the cards
Favors?
Seating chart and escort cards (might let our venue coordinator do the escort cards since she offered)
Price out rehearsal dinner locations and figure out the guest list (that one is going to be tricky because every single member of our family is coming from OOT...)
Send my rings to Mark Morrell to be sized down
Meet with vendors and day of coordinator closer to the wedding
Get all of our vendor and schedule info to the DOC
Find a wedding gift for FI
Find gifts for bridal party and parents

I'm sure there's more, but that's what comes to mind right now. Despite all of that, with the big pressing issues taken care of (like invitations and florist), I suddenly feel really lost. Like I'm missing something. I know lots of brides feel that way once the wedding is over; has anyone else felt it even earlier like I am? I know I should just be relieved and happy that I can focus on school more, but I can't shake this feeling...

 

[Sabine]

Ladyciel, I TOTALLY know how you feel. I''m just 2 weeks out from my wedding. I''m done with school for the summer, so I''ve been doing wedding stuff every day. My main projects have been the programs, favors, seating chart, escort cards, a slideshow, and all the little details like bathroom baskets, kids booklets, wrapping gifts, etc. I have every day off next week and the following before the wedding, so I''ve been trying to pace myself. But as soon as I spend a large amount of time completing a task (like today I spent 2 hours scoring the program cover and vellum paper so that it folds nicely), when I finish, I feel like I need to keep doing something! Instead of being ready to relax, I have all this excited energy that needs to go somewhere, so I usually start a new project instead of giving myself some time off.

If I were you, I''d start making lists of what needs to be done, and actually start working on some of the little stuff if you find yourself bored.

 

[ladyciel]

Thanks, Sabine! I''m glad I''m not the only one. So exciting that you''re only 2 weeks away! Oh, and thanks for reminding me I need to do ceremony programs! I like the idea of having something for the kids - I''ll have to see how many end up RSVP''d as coming.

I like your advice to try and tackle little things here and there to stay on track. Today I''m going to go look for thank you cards, since we''ve already gotten a couple gifts and my shower is in a month. Last night I got FI to help me brainstorm names for our guest tables. I think we''re going to use the names of places that mean something to us, with a story explaining each one on the back of the table card. A friend of ours offered to do some calligraphy for us, so I might ask if she''d like to do the table cards. Lots of time to get them done and not too many to tackle = no reason to feel guilty about taking her up on her offer.